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Let's say success is performing at the top of your game, whether the game be parenting, stocks, soccer, or being a decent human being. How do you know if you are functioning at your best? Since there is always room for improvement its hard to tell but most people know if they are NOT near peak performance. When you're in a rut, have consistently chaotic relationships, feel that no one understands you at all, you know there is room for improvement. Maybe you're tired all the time, feel like you are marking time, or that you can never catch up or be good enough.

I don't have all the answers, obviously, but I do know three habits or skills that, when used, always make life go better. These skills involve:

- Authentic Communication
- Taking Responsibility
- Living with Awareness

Anyone who struggles with one of those skills has problems in some parts of their lives. If you are lacking in 2 or 3 of those habits your life is a bumpy road.

The great thing is, these skills can be developed and become habit, even seem part of your character. So what's the big deal about these 3 keys to more happiness anyway?

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter their life by altering their attitude.

~ William James ~

Living An Extraordinary Life

audiobook by Robert White

The building blocks to living an extraordinary life are awareness, responsibility and communication. If you desire real success in life; if you want better health and fulfilling relationships; if you want meaningful work and a deeper connection to your spiritual life, in short, if you want to live an extraordinary life, you need to learn more about and begin to apply the skills of awareness, responsibility and communication in your life. Even a small improvement in understanding and application will make a huge difference in your experience of living. That's the purpose of this program.
Important!

Skill #1

If you do not, or cannot, let people know how you actually think and feel no one will have any chance of understanding you. You can't be known by most people unless your words match your thoughts and feelings to the best of your ability. This holds true for those who talk a lot or a little.

"Feelings or emotions are the universal language and are to be honored. They are the authentic expression of who you are at your deepest place." ~ Judith Wright ~

Express Yourself 

Important!

Skill #2

Taking responsibility for yourself is "owning up" to what you say and do. It's not about who did what in the past. It is about what you do or say right now, today, this moment. It requires letting go of blame.

Self responsibility gives a sense of personal power to those who exercise it. It's a bit like graduating to the "grown-ups table" at family dinner celebrations.

Live Your Truth 

Important!

Skill #3

Awareness is seeing without interpretation or judgment (not that either of those are bad). It is just that the shared reality we experience is made different by each person's beliefs & perceptions. To find a basis for understanding we need the common ground of awareness.

What do I hear? What do I see? What do I taste or smell? What does my body feel? When two or more people can be in a situation and answer those questions without personal bias, their present reality is virtually the same.

Awake and Aware 

Authenticity

being true to yourself

A hunger for authenticity guides us in every age and aspect of life. It drives our explorations of work, relationships, play, and prayer. Teens and twentysomethings try out friends, fashions, hobbies, jobs, lovers, locations, and living arrangements to see what fits and what's "just not me." Midlifers deepen commitments to career, community, faith, and family that match their self-images, or feel trapped in existences that seem not their own. Elders regard life choices with regret or satisfaction based largely on whether they were "true" to themselves.

by Karen Wright, Psychology Today

Things alter for the worse spontaneously, if they be not altered for the better designedly.

~ Francis Bacon ~

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A Bit About Robert White

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Robert works with people to develop extraordinary leadership skills, focus, alignment, and commitment. Robert founded and led personal development training success stories Lifespring and ARC International, companies that have graduated over one million people from high impact experiential training events. Robert is a Baden Powell Fellow of the World Scout Foundation and serves on the Board of Directors of Plant It 2020 and The Desmond Tutu Peace Foundation. He authored the essays for the award winning photo journal One World One People and his book Living an Extraordinary Life has been positively reviewed by Ken Blanchard, Jimmy Calano, Tom Crum, Jerry Jampolsky and many other educational experts and business leaders.

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What are some other traits or skills of successful people?

  • orange3 Apr 1, 2012 @ 1:13 pm | delete
    Great information. Thanks
  • abbiejoice May 31, 2011 @ 9:17 pm | delete
    Taking responsibility is indeed one of the traits of successful people. It prevents us from blaming other people for our misfortunes and propels us instead to take creative actions for our success.
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