Negative Thinking, Therapy Q&A , Breathing Tips, Chaos
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Negative Thinking, Therapy Q&A, Breathing Tips, Chaos
Negative Thinking, do you get caught in the loop?
Considering therapy and have questions?
Are you breathing? When upset our breathing becomes shallow!
Your coping skills and relationship interactions act as role modeling for your own children. This is important to keep in mind, if you are a parent or caregiver. The old adage; "Do as I say, not as I do" is nothing more than a form of wishful thinking - your actions, interactions and reactions all matter since they are constantly being observed and obsorbed by the developing minds around you.
Unhealthy coping skills may look like: Turning to alcohol when stressed, Overeating when unhappy or worried. Shopping or spending sprees to help manage difficult emotions, Heading to bed or staying in bed during periods of strife or depression.
What you can do - when your depression eases seek out help and support, when stressed or anxious therapy can help you identify both hte triggers and effective styles of coping personlized just fo you.
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We are products of both our environment and genetics. Does that mean we are destined to live out our lives the same way those that have gone before us have done? NO. Absolutely not.
You are individual with your own will and the ability to make choices, different choices.
Negative Thinking
If you think you will win, there are chances you can. If you think you will lose, you most likely will.
Depression and Anxiety tends to put a negative slant on your view of the world, this is known as distorted thinking and impacts the way you experience the world around you.
Catastrophizing: Everything tends to be "the worst case scenario"
All-or-nothing thinking: Looking at things in black-and-white terms. Most of life happens in the gray area.
Assumptions orr mind-reading
Tips:
Try to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts
Spend time with positive people
Negative Thinking & Your Physical Health
Negativity impacts your physical well being: your heart, your mind
Therapy can help with:
* Chaos
* Depression and Sadness
* Negative Thinking
* Codependency
* Anxiety and Stress
* Communication issues
* Trust issues
* Aging concerns
* Loneliness
* Emotional intimacy
* Trauma
* Self-esteem issues
* Anger management
and much more
Quiz from Oprah.com
- "What Are You Hiding?" Quiz
- As therapists like to say, "What we resist persists." The further we withdraw from difficult issues, the more likely they are to spill out. The only way to keep this from happening is to go spelunking in our own forbidden, forbidding depths. Use this assessment to shine a light into your dark places.
Can My Therapy Include Others?
Yes. If that is something you want
Here is an idea of what is available, in terms of who can go to your therapy session and what format may work best for your situation
Individual This format consists of the following people in the room - you and the therapist only
Family This format consists of the following people in the room - you and your family members, along with the therapist
Couples This format consists of the following people in the room - you and your partner, along with the therapist
Groups This format consists of the following people in the room - you and others that share similar concerns and struggles, along with the therapist
The groups facilitated here are small, safe and intimate - finding this the best way to facilitate sharing, healing and growth. In a large group these achievements can become difficult and take longer.
Do I Have To Lay On A Couch?
Nope This is often how people envision therapy sessions. In my opinion, this is Old School and more often associated with the type of psychoanalytical therapy that Sigmond Freud performed, over the course of many many years.
Why did it take him so long to help clients and not you?
Here, the therapeutic approach is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Freud used a psychoanalytical approach that had individuals start with the beginning of their lives. Instead, CBT may take a "snapshot' of the past but focuses more on the "now and your future",
on your "patterns" and how to change them.
Keep in mind, many therapists offices today do have a couch for comfortable seating, you don't have to lay down, most clients sit upright. Of course you are allowed to lay down if it is more comfortable for you
Do Only Crazy People See A Therapist?
Everyday people often benefit hugely from therapy - If something in your life makes you feel like you are going crazy this would be an ideal time to make an appointment and explore what might be helpful.
How do you define crazy?
That is open to interpretation, "out of touch with reality", like believing in one's own abilities to fly is what comes to some peoples minds. Yet, there are a variety of ways someone can end up in this state of mind and they are not necessarily forever deemed crazy. More like having a crazy, detached from reality moment in time. Chemical imbalances may come into play here.
The only normal people are the one's you don't know very well.
~ Adler
Negativity
Together we can work through this
Does Therapy Really Work?
Absolutely, yes.
When you are willing to do the work.
A therapist is not there to "fix" you but help you to facilitate your own changes.
Getting The Most Out Of Therapy
What is the "work" part about? Read on...
Whether you are an individual, a couple or a family these tips will help you get the best results from your therapeutic sessions.
Trust - You need to feel heard and trust that your therapist is there to help you.
Understanding - If you have a question about what you are hearing, ask questions
Note pad - I always suggest bringing a note pad or notebook to each session
Homework - Homework assignments are for YOU, not your therapist
The Worry Machine
Friends are the family that we choose for ourselves.
Help with Chaos
Now A Little About Chaos In Our Lives - What's It All About?
Chaos: A state of extreme disorder, emotional upheaval or confusion.
Is this an ongoing element of your life?
Among those raised in a chaotic environment many, if not most, tend to recreate that same feeling in adult life subconsciously. If you find it exhausting and want to stop the pattern, then starting here is best -
Ask yourself, What is your role in perpetuating the chaos in your life?
People keep it going, not because it feels good, but because it is familiar.
Zen Master
"Whatever the tasks, do them slowly
with ease,
in mindfulness,
so not do any tasks with the goal
of getting them over with.
Resolve to each job in a relaxed way,
with all your attention."
- Thich Nhat Hanh,
Emotional Chaos Posts from Google
- Maldonado eyes title bid after a stunning win in Spain
- Pastor Maldonado emerged from the emotional chaos of his maiden victory and the Williams team's blazing return to glory in Sunday's Spanish Grand Prix by declaring his next ambition: to mount a serious challenge for the world title.
- Young man survives infidelity, suicide attempts to find love of his life
- In ?Not All Out of Love? (ISBN 0615601952), 27-year-old Jamie Schoffman takes readers through the emotional chaos of his college years and shows how he made it through the worst of times with the help of his true love. Through poverty, suicide attempts ...
Breathing: Your Reset Button
Shallow breathing, while this is a normal response to stress, poor breathing actually adds to the the negative effects stress has on the mind and body.
Deep breathing exercises can help you recover from stress more quickly, which will improve the health of your mind and body.
I call this "Your Reset Button"
Why Use A Gratitude List?
Gratitude is extremely powerful and can't be activated unless consciously practiced every day of our lives. It can turn a sour mood into a joyous one, make us laugh at our own silly shortcomings, and open our hearts up to increased appreciation of all that surrounds us. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out, it just takes willingness.
Do the following ritual acts daily for at least 1 week at a time, after that week re-exam how you're feeling.
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raitoavi
May 8, 2012 @ 3:43 pm | delete
- This was a fascinating and important read, I definitely am stuck in a negative thinking pattern quite often. I particularly liked the gratitude list idea, and recommend everyone to avoid the temptation of cynicism in order to overcome negativity.
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