The Pick Up Artist
The Pick Up Artist
Like a comedian, a pickup artist is also a performing artist. A pickup artist's task is to captivate a small group of people long enough to convey specific personality characteristics which ultimately make him interesting to the one woman in the group that he has his eye on.
The material he runs is like a vehicle that he uses to convey his personality to the group — and obliquely, to her. When a comedian tells a joke, people say, "That's a good joke." But when he strings several good jokes together, people say "he's hilarious." It is no longer the matenal that takes the acclaim, but the comedian himself. The Pick Up Artist VH1
Like a comedian, a pickup artist is also a performing artist. A pickup artist's task is to captivate a small group of people long enough to convey specific personality characteristics which ultimately make him interesting to the one woman in the group that he has his eye on.
The material he runs is like a vehicle that he uses to convey his personality to the group — and obliquely, to her. When a comedian tells a joke, people say, "That's a good joke." But when he strings several good jokes together, people say "he's hilarious." It is no longer the matenal that takes the acclaim, but the comedian himself. The Pick Up Artist VH1
The Pick Up Artist - Congruence Tests
The Pick Up Artist - Congruence Tests
The Pick Up Artist - Congruence Tests
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex - so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers - instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted. The Pick Up Artist VH1
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected.
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex - so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers - instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test. But if you fail, then she will be noticeably less attracted. The Pick Up Artist VH1
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A pick up artist - Pair Bonding
Pair Bonding
A pair bond is an emotional bond associated with a sexual alignment; beginning prior to pregnancy and continuing up through child-rearing. (From an evolutionary perspective - and thus from an emotional perspective - pregnancy and pair bonding are the same thing, since effective birth control has only recently been invented.)
Pair bonding has been described as a compromise between the competing sexual strategies of the man and the woman. Also known as a "romance," it occasionally lasts a lifetime, though in our modern society most pair bonds average only several years or months 111 length-It is worth noting that, from an emotional perspective, the woman places her survival itself in great danger by having sex.
Evolutionarily speaking, if a man impregnates her, she is dependent upon her pair bond with him to protect her and provide for her during this vulnerable time. If he is not pair bonded with her, he is likely to move on and she will not have access to his resources. Worse, her reputation as a "slut" will also lower her status within her social network, further jeopardizing her survival and replication prospects.
A pair bond is an emotional bond associated with a sexual alignment; beginning prior to pregnancy and continuing up through child-rearing. (From an evolutionary perspective - and thus from an emotional perspective - pregnancy and pair bonding are the same thing, since effective birth control has only recently been invented.)
Pair bonding has been described as a compromise between the competing sexual strategies of the man and the woman. Also known as a "romance," it occasionally lasts a lifetime, though in our modern society most pair bonds average only several years or months 111 length-It is worth noting that, from an emotional perspective, the woman places her survival itself in great danger by having sex.
Evolutionarily speaking, if a man impregnates her, she is dependent upon her pair bond with him to protect her and provide for her during this vulnerable time. If he is not pair bonded with her, he is likely to move on and she will not have access to his resources. Worse, her reputation as a "slut" will also lower her status within her social network, further jeopardizing her survival and replication prospects.
The Pick Up Artist - Practicing the game
Practicing the game is not unlike the movie Groundhog Day, where Bill Murray re-lives the same day over and over again for what seems like years. Each day he tries to pick up the same girl, and her responses are different as he tries new tactics from day to day. Over time his skills improve and he gets closer and closer to his goal.
If the right switches are flipped, she will feel attraction and she won't really have a choice about this. Similarly, if the wrong switches are flipped, she will lose attraction and she won't have a choice about that either. She may even feel disappointed that it happened.
This means that her responses have absolutely nothing to do with who you are as a person. It's not about who you are - it's just a response generated by your tactic, your delivery, and other factors. It's just a game. So it is that in the game metaphor we completely separate our ego from the responses that we get.
Often people can be unaware of the subtleties in their own behavior that generate these responses. Sometimes by random chance, the right tilings happen, the right responses are generated, and even a chump gets laid. He says to himself, "I got lucky." How right he is.
Let's examine in more detail some of the motivations behind women's behavior, and some of the ways we can take advantage of this.
If the right switches are flipped, she will feel attraction and she won't really have a choice about this. Similarly, if the wrong switches are flipped, she will lose attraction and she won't have a choice about that either. She may even feel disappointed that it happened.
This means that her responses have absolutely nothing to do with who you are as a person. It's not about who you are - it's just a response generated by your tactic, your delivery, and other factors. It's just a game. So it is that in the game metaphor we completely separate our ego from the responses that we get.
Often people can be unaware of the subtleties in their own behavior that generate these responses. Sometimes by random chance, the right tilings happen, the right responses are generated, and even a chump gets laid. He says to himself, "I got lucky." How right he is.
Let's examine in more detail some of the motivations behind women's behavior, and some of the ways we can take advantage of this.
The Pick Up Artist - Smiling
Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.
Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
Not being needy. A typical man with high survival and replication value is probably doing fine with his finances. He probably has access to sex. He is probably comfortable in terms of his health and physical needs. Thus, he is not a needy person. It's important to convey this sense of abundance and to really feel it. When you lust after an outcome, women will pick up on this and perceive you as a low value guy - and women are not programmed to have sex with desperate, low value guys.
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Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
Not being needy. A typical man with high survival and replication value is probably doing fine with his finances. He probably has access to sex. He is probably comfortable in terms of his health and physical needs. Thus, he is not a needy person. It's important to convey this sense of abundance and to really feel it. When you lust after an outcome, women will pick up on this and perceive you as a low value guy - and women are not programmed to have sex with desperate, low value guys.
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The Pick Up Artist - Creatures of Sentiment
Logic and reason can be used to determine a course of action, but often they are instead used to rationalize the action after the fact. This is true of both men and women - we are motivated by our emotions and then we backwards rationalize our actions.
Emotions, to women, are even much more profound and all-encompassing than they are to men. Thus, they are also a more powerful and consistent motivator. In fact, when a woman explains something, she will often use emotions as legitimate reasons unto themselves.
Don't convince
Don't bother trying to convince her, argue with her, or engage her in any other way on a logical level. Logic should never be used as a motivator in the field, because what a woman thinks she likes, or says she likes, is not necessarily what she responds to emotionally and sexually.
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Emotions, to women, are even much more profound and all-encompassing than they are to men. Thus, they are also a more powerful and consistent motivator. In fact, when a woman explains something, she will often use emotions as legitimate reasons unto themselves.
Don't convince
Don't bother trying to convince her, argue with her, or engage her in any other way on a logical level. Logic should never be used as a motivator in the field, because what a woman thinks she likes, or says she likes, is not necessarily what she responds to emotionally and sexually.
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A Pick Up Artist - Congruence test
A woman's number one emotional priority is safety and security. Above all, she wants a man who makes her feel safe and protected
It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex - so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers - instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test.
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It would be convenient if she could simply ask each man in order to determine whether or not he will be able to adequately support and protect her and her offspring. But of course he would then lie in order to obtain sex - so she must test.
It's important to remember that often she is not deliberately testing you. It's not necessarily something that she is consciously aware of She just gets a feeling to behave a certain way, and so she does. Based on how you react to this, she then feels either more or less attracted as a result. This is known as a congruence test.
If she views you as a contender, then she will test you. A woman often won't even bother to test losers - instead she'll just become non-responsive and then leave as soon as she can. Thus, a test can be considered an indicator of interest, of sorts.
Congruence tests are a double-edged sword; if you respond the right way, she will be noticeably more attracted to you after the test.
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The Pick Up Artist - What are some forms of investment?
What are some forms of investment?
Emotional investment. Women are reluctant to allow themselves to become emotionally vulnerable around men of dubious intent or low S and R value. A woman knows that once she gets emotional, it becomes much more difficult to extract herself from the situation.
Physical investment. Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm-in-arm. Sex is the biggest investment of all.
Time. The more time you spend together, the more invested she becomes. It takes an average of four to ten hours before sex.
Effort. Is she chasing? People don't value that which comes too easily.
The more effort she puts in, the more invested she has become.
Money. Did you buy her a drink, or did she buy one for your
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Emotional investment. Women are reluctant to allow themselves to become emotionally vulnerable around men of dubious intent or low S and R value. A woman knows that once she gets emotional, it becomes much more difficult to extract herself from the situation.
Physical investment. Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm-in-arm. Sex is the biggest investment of all.
Time. The more time you spend together, the more invested she becomes. It takes an average of four to ten hours before sex.
Effort. Is she chasing? People don't value that which comes too easily.
The more effort she puts in, the more invested she has become.
Money. Did you buy her a drink, or did she buy one for your
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Fashion sense. People who don't know how to dress are completely oblivious to how bad their clothes look in the eyes of people who do know how to dress (most of whom are women.) Dressing poorly also conveys a lack of social intelligence, which is a demonstration of lower value. Anyone who isn't being regularly complimented on his clothes should get a fashion consultant to help fix this problem.
Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.
Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
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Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.
Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
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The Pick Up Artist - The Seducer
The Seducer
The most common error that beginners make is to focus on seducing a woman first instead of attracting her. This is like putting the cart before the horse. Often, to beautiful women in particular, seduction first is little more than the equivalent of saying, "You don't know me but will you sleep with me?" There is a time (and a place) to begin the seduction stage, but it's not until you first have attraction and comfort - as well as privacy.
Seducers mistakenly begin at the end. Just like any typical guy, they often blatantly disregard a woman's comfort levels entirely. Even if there is a level of attraction based on the seducer's appearance alone, this is superseded by her discomfort in having to deal with aggressive sexual advances from someone she doesn't know nor trust. It is best to not prematurely telegraph strong sexual interest until end-game.
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The most common error that beginners make is to focus on seducing a woman first instead of attracting her. This is like putting the cart before the horse. Often, to beautiful women in particular, seduction first is little more than the equivalent of saying, "You don't know me but will you sleep with me?" There is a time (and a place) to begin the seduction stage, but it's not until you first have attraction and comfort - as well as privacy.
Seducers mistakenly begin at the end. Just like any typical guy, they often blatantly disregard a woman's comfort levels entirely. Even if there is a level of attraction based on the seducer's appearance alone, this is superseded by her discomfort in having to deal with aggressive sexual advances from someone she doesn't know nor trust. It is best to not prematurely telegraph strong sexual interest until end-game.
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The Pick Up Artist - Fashion sense
Fashion sense. People who don't know how to dress are completely oblivious to how bad their clothes look in the eyes of people who do know how to dress (most of whom are women.) Dressing poorly also conveys a lack of social intelligence, which is a demonstration of lower value. Anyone who isn't being regularly complimented on his clothes should get a fashion consultant to help fix this problem.
Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.
Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
The Pick Up Artist
Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.
Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.
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The Pick Up Artist - Male competition
Male competition. Yes there are other guys - but they don't count. They don't smile; they don't surround themselves with talking and laughing people, they don't walk around with a smile on their face. Instead they hold a beer to their chest and try to look cool' These guys are not really competition at all.
%u2022 Befriend the social guys, and practice gaming them. One of the attraction switches in women is the lender of men switch. When you lead the men, the women will follow.
%u2022 Be the observed. There are constantly little events going on in the Field: A flash goes off as a group of people pose for a picture. A man teaches a woman a little dance move. A group of people bust up laughing. A girl gasps at an impressive routine, and people nearby look over to see what is going on. Are you the observer when these things happen, or the observed?
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%u2022 Befriend the social guys, and practice gaming them. One of the attraction switches in women is the lender of men switch. When you lead the men, the women will follow.
%u2022 Be the observed. There are constantly little events going on in the Field: A flash goes off as a group of people pose for a picture. A man teaches a woman a little dance move. A group of people bust up laughing. A girl gasps at an impressive routine, and people nearby look over to see what is going on. Are you the observer when these things happen, or the observed?
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The Pick Up Artist - What most people do wrong when approaching
What most people do wrong when approaching
by Style
When I went out the first night on Mystery's workshop, I tried an experiment. I approached a set, opened, and then DHV'd. [Demonstration of higher value.] And not a single set stuck. I didn't reach the hook point. Everything seemed sort of flat, until I finally just excused myself.
This happened because I had dropped two important pieces out of my game. If you know what they are already, then you are obviously already successful in the field.
The next day, I did the exact same thing, except I added Negs and Time Constraints to the approach. Everything flew open. I was pulling girls off of guys left and right.
So, if you are approaching, but not having success getting in with the set, go out tonight and add negs and time constraints to the first three minutes of your approach. It makes a huge difference.
For those who don't have this material, here's an example:
TIME CONSTRAINT: I can only stay for a minute, because I have to rejoin my friends over there.
NEG: Oh my God, is she always like that? How do you roll with her?
And, a third point, which I've made often. In order for an approach to work in a bar or club, you must enter the set with an energy/fun level equal to or slightly greater than its current energy level. If you walk in not smiling, talking softly, and with bad body language, you're going to get blown out, no matter what you say right.
Hope this helps some people...
Style
The Pick Up Artist
by Style
When I went out the first night on Mystery's workshop, I tried an experiment. I approached a set, opened, and then DHV'd. [Demonstration of higher value.] And not a single set stuck. I didn't reach the hook point. Everything seemed sort of flat, until I finally just excused myself.
This happened because I had dropped two important pieces out of my game. If you know what they are already, then you are obviously already successful in the field.
The next day, I did the exact same thing, except I added Negs and Time Constraints to the approach. Everything flew open. I was pulling girls off of guys left and right.
So, if you are approaching, but not having success getting in with the set, go out tonight and add negs and time constraints to the first three minutes of your approach. It makes a huge difference.
For those who don't have this material, here's an example:
TIME CONSTRAINT: I can only stay for a minute, because I have to rejoin my friends over there.
NEG: Oh my God, is she always like that? How do you roll with her?
And, a third point, which I've made often. In order for an approach to work in a bar or club, you must enter the set with an energy/fun level equal to or slightly greater than its current energy level. If you walk in not smiling, talking softly, and with bad body language, you're going to get blown out, no matter what you say right.
Hope this helps some people...
Style
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The Pick Up Artist - The Wing Rules
Winging
The Wing Rules
1) He who opens the set, OWNS the set. He gets first choice of target.
2) The primary purpose of the wing is to help the player get his target. If the wing can also game up his own target from the group, fine. But that is not his first priority.
3) Don't ever steal the target. Sometimes the player is ignoring or negging his target while working the group. It would be really easy to go into his set at this point and give attention to the target - don't do it!
4) The wing should occupy the obstacles so that the player gets more time one-on-one with his target.
5) Always agree with your wing. Never take the girls' side over him. He is always right.
6) Your wing is a great guy, a cool guy. That is why you hang out with him. After all, you have high standards.
7) Your wing's feelings are important to you, even more important than the girl's feelings. If he approaches your set, you will turn to face him. (Girls do the same with their friends.) If you disrespect your wing, it will lower your value to the girls! Never leave him standing around without acknowledging and/or introducing him.
The Wing Rules
The Wing Rules
1) He who opens the set, OWNS the set. He gets first choice of target.
2) The primary purpose of the wing is to help the player get his target. If the wing can also game up his own target from the group, fine. But that is not his first priority.
3) Don't ever steal the target. Sometimes the player is ignoring or negging his target while working the group. It would be really easy to go into his set at this point and give attention to the target - don't do it!
4) The wing should occupy the obstacles so that the player gets more time one-on-one with his target.
5) Always agree with your wing. Never take the girls' side over him. He is always right.
6) Your wing is a great guy, a cool guy. That is why you hang out with him. After all, you have high standards.
7) Your wing's feelings are important to you, even more important than the girl's feelings. If he approaches your set, you will turn to face him. (Girls do the same with their friends.) If you disrespect your wing, it will lower your value to the girls! Never leave him standing around without acknowledging and/or introducing him.
The Wing Rules
The Pick Up Artist - Tonality and Pacing
Tonality and Pacing
The quality of your voice is extremely important. Although no problem is insurmountable, certain vocal qualities are preferable to others. Some important points:
Have a deep, powerful voice that conies from your diaphragm.
If you have any issues with an accent that is considered unattractive, (you know who you are) get a voice coach and have the problem fixed.
Be emotionally expressive with your voice. It may be useful to take classes on acting and improvisational comedy.
Speak slowly and clearly. Eliminate 'uh,' 'like,' and 'you know' from your vocabulary.
Speak. With plenty. Of pausing. Create.. .a certain rhythm.. .to the way.. .that you speak. This will rivet attention to your words.
Speak loudly. Women are programmed to automatically respond to a man with a louder voice. This doesn't mean that you should lack social discretion and talk loudly all the time - but recognize that it is a useful tool at your disposal, especially in louder venues. This will make you come across as "more alpha."
These are all very easy to field-test. Open ten sets with a loud voice, using plenty of pausing, and then open ten sets with a quiet voice and no pausing. The
difference in response is striking. The field does not lie,
The Pick Up Artist
The quality of your voice is extremely important. Although no problem is insurmountable, certain vocal qualities are preferable to others. Some important points:
Have a deep, powerful voice that conies from your diaphragm.
If you have any issues with an accent that is considered unattractive, (you know who you are) get a voice coach and have the problem fixed.
Be emotionally expressive with your voice. It may be useful to take classes on acting and improvisational comedy.
Speak slowly and clearly. Eliminate 'uh,' 'like,' and 'you know' from your vocabulary.
Speak. With plenty. Of pausing. Create.. .a certain rhythm.. .to the way.. .that you speak. This will rivet attention to your words.
Speak loudly. Women are programmed to automatically respond to a man with a louder voice. This doesn't mean that you should lack social discretion and talk loudly all the time - but recognize that it is a useful tool at your disposal, especially in louder venues. This will make you come across as "more alpha."
These are all very easy to field-test. Open ten sets with a loud voice, using plenty of pausing, and then open ten sets with a quiet voice and no pausing. The
difference in response is striking. The field does not lie,
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The Pick Up Artist - Social Proof
Social Proof
Some players can be seen walking around the venue, eyeballing all the women and looking for a good one to approach. This behavior looks predatory, and is quite transparent to the people in the crowd-Similarly, some guys may be seen standing in a group, peering around at the field. If they don't look like they are having a great time together, if they aren't hanging out with girls, if they aren't running a set ...then they will start to lose social status. When one of them finally does open a set, he may discover that opening is more difficult in environments where he has negative social proof.
Whereas a venusian artist, rolling in with his wing, is not going to be looking around at the people in the crowd. Rather, he's going to be talking to his wing, and it will appear as if they are two high-value guys having a great time together.
If he were looking around the venue, especially with a serious expression on his face, it would telegraph that he is looking for something more fun and of more value than the spot where he already is. But he isn't. He believes that the most fun and valuable spot in the field is his own spot, his own reality - and he is congruent with that.
Women are searching for a man whose reality is more fun and more valuable than their own. You must be congruent with the value that you have to offer, and it must be apparent to the room. Follow the three-second rule, and you will be in set much more often, resulting in higher social proof
It's interesting that whenever you have more social proof, you will get noticeably more occurrences of proximity. Girls will also give you other approach invitations, such as making eve contact. Remember that it's not necessary (nor is it necessarily desirable) to wait around for AI (approach invitations,) because with practice, a venusian artist can consistently open sets even without AI.
Social Proof
Some players can be seen walking around the venue, eyeballing all the women and looking for a good one to approach. This behavior looks predatory, and is quite transparent to the people in the crowd-Similarly, some guys may be seen standing in a group, peering around at the field. If they don't look like they are having a great time together, if they aren't hanging out with girls, if they aren't running a set ...then they will start to lose social status. When one of them finally does open a set, he may discover that opening is more difficult in environments where he has negative social proof.
Whereas a venusian artist, rolling in with his wing, is not going to be looking around at the people in the crowd. Rather, he's going to be talking to his wing, and it will appear as if they are two high-value guys having a great time together.
If he were looking around the venue, especially with a serious expression on his face, it would telegraph that he is looking for something more fun and of more value than the spot where he already is. But he isn't. He believes that the most fun and valuable spot in the field is his own spot, his own reality - and he is congruent with that.
Women are searching for a man whose reality is more fun and more valuable than their own. You must be congruent with the value that you have to offer, and it must be apparent to the room. Follow the three-second rule, and you will be in set much more often, resulting in higher social proof
It's interesting that whenever you have more social proof, you will get noticeably more occurrences of proximity. Girls will also give you other approach invitations, such as making eve contact. Remember that it's not necessary (nor is it necessarily desirable) to wait around for AI (approach invitations,) because with practice, a venusian artist can consistently open sets even without AI.
Social Proof
The Pick Up Artist - How to Open Seated Sets
How to Open Seated Sets
Upon first opening a seated set, everything seems fine. The venusian artist stands near the set running material that is apparently well-received. But as time passes, he begins to lose their attention. Where did he go wrong?
In standing, while the rest of the set is seated, he has less physical comfort than they do. This betrays a subtext that the set is more important to him than he is to them. Thus, as time passes they will perceive him as having lower and lower value. A high-value male doesn't put himself in uncomfortable situations so that he can seek rapport with others.
The problem is, you cannot simply approach a seated set and join them at their table. To do so would be try-hard. So what is a field-tested method for opening a seated set?
1) Open the set with an opinion opener (as you would for a standing set.)
2) Part of the way into the opener, use a false time constraint
3) Continue the opener as you grab a chair and sit down with the set. It's important to be talking at the same time that you sit down.
4) Run another false time constraint and then go into another routine.
5) Continue the set as normal.
Keep in mind that simply knowing the steps is not enough. It takes repetitive practice in the field to tighten up your calibration. Often it isn't the techniques themselves, but the natural manner in which they are executed that gets the results.
How to Open Seated Sets
Upon first opening a seated set, everything seems fine. The venusian artist stands near the set running material that is apparently well-received. But as time passes, he begins to lose their attention. Where did he go wrong?
In standing, while the rest of the set is seated, he has less physical comfort than they do. This betrays a subtext that the set is more important to him than he is to them. Thus, as time passes they will perceive him as having lower and lower value. A high-value male doesn't put himself in uncomfortable situations so that he can seek rapport with others.
The problem is, you cannot simply approach a seated set and join them at their table. To do so would be try-hard. So what is a field-tested method for opening a seated set?
1) Open the set with an opinion opener (as you would for a standing set.)
2) Part of the way into the opener, use a false time constraint
3) Continue the opener as you grab a chair and sit down with the set. It's important to be talking at the same time that you sit down.
4) Run another false time constraint and then go into another routine.
5) Continue the set as normal.
Keep in mind that simply knowing the steps is not enough. It takes repetitive practice in the field to tighten up your calibration. Often it isn't the techniques themselves, but the natural manner in which they are executed that gets the results.
How to Open Seated Sets
The Pick Up Artist - The Spin Maneuver, adapted to steal her spot
The Spin Maneuver, adapted to steal her spot
1) You tell one of the girls, "Go like this." And hold your hand out at chest level with the wrist bent. This is a compliance test.
2) If she defies the test and refuses to cooperate, you didn't have enough attraction. Do an IOD, then a DHV, then give her another compliance test. As you gain her compliance through this process you can eventually come back to this lock in' maneuver and continue from step 3:
3) If she complies, she will hold her hand out to match yours. Take her hand and say, "Now do a little spin." This is another compliance test.
4) If she complies, spin her around and during this process, move her body away from the bar, stepping into her former spot Now you are leaning against the bar in the power position instead of her, and she is facing you with her back to the room.
5) With a cocky and playful attitude say, "Oh!" like you just tricked her and she totally fell for it. If you do it right, she'll be laughing and shell punch your arm and call you a jerk. Both girls will also find you more attractive. Run another routine to keep their logical minds occupied and continue stimulating them (A2.)
The Spin Maneuver, adapted to steal her spot
1) You tell one of the girls, "Go like this." And hold your hand out at chest level with the wrist bent. This is a compliance test.
2) If she defies the test and refuses to cooperate, you didn't have enough attraction. Do an IOD, then a DHV, then give her another compliance test. As you gain her compliance through this process you can eventually come back to this lock in' maneuver and continue from step 3:
3) If she complies, she will hold her hand out to match yours. Take her hand and say, "Now do a little spin." This is another compliance test.
4) If she complies, spin her around and during this process, move her body away from the bar, stepping into her former spot Now you are leaning against the bar in the power position instead of her, and she is facing you with her back to the room.
5) With a cocky and playful attitude say, "Oh!" like you just tricked her and she totally fell for it. If you do it right, she'll be laughing and shell punch your arm and call you a jerk. Both girls will also find you more attractive. Run another routine to keep their logical minds occupied and continue stimulating them (A2.)
The Spin Maneuver, adapted to steal her spot
The Pick Up Artist - Compliments
Compliments
No crap about "you are so hot," "You are my dream girl," etc. In other words, compliment from a screening frame, not a begging frame.
Compliment her style, her energy, her poise, or something unique about her outfit that she chose. Her shoes, her hair, and ONLY if you really like it and think it deserves a compliment. This means don't be that guy who is constantly complimenting girls on their necklace. Learn to notice things.
Try using constructive criticism after making the compliment. This is a powerful way to neg her and demonstrate value.
DON'T MENTION HER LOOKS.
Hint: Try complimenting a girl in a way that directs her to behave the way you want her to, and to play a role that's useful to you.
An example of this: "You seem to be very connected with your emotions. You seem to really listen to your woman's intuition." Or if she's being rude, or if you want to misinterpret that she was rude, say, "You're too classy to act like this."
Just tell her how you "view" her, and she will become that person for you, but only if she agrees and it is flattering for her. You are building a character for her, and she will play the role because she likes the way that the role makes her feel. Here are some examples of compliments:
"You seem like someone who really knows what she wants, I admire that."
"You really care about your friends. I bet you will make a really good mother."
'You have a good energy."
"I notice you're the leader of your friends. Why is that?" %u2022 "You're a great conversationalist."
"You're a very classy girl. What are you doing in a place like this?"
"Wow you seem so confident with your friends, like you're kinda the leader of your peer group. I just love your energy... -> Are you close with your family?'" [Going into next routine.]
"You have such an expressive personality ... That's a valuable thing in the entertainment industry. There are a million women who are beautiful; I just came back from Florida, but how many do you think have an outgoing personality like yourself? I'm telling you, that's a very attractive quality and a valuable asset."
Complements
No crap about "you are so hot," "You are my dream girl," etc. In other words, compliment from a screening frame, not a begging frame.
Compliment her style, her energy, her poise, or something unique about her outfit that she chose. Her shoes, her hair, and ONLY if you really like it and think it deserves a compliment. This means don't be that guy who is constantly complimenting girls on their necklace. Learn to notice things.
Try using constructive criticism after making the compliment. This is a powerful way to neg her and demonstrate value.
DON'T MENTION HER LOOKS.
Hint: Try complimenting a girl in a way that directs her to behave the way you want her to, and to play a role that's useful to you.
An example of this: "You seem to be very connected with your emotions. You seem to really listen to your woman's intuition." Or if she's being rude, or if you want to misinterpret that she was rude, say, "You're too classy to act like this."
Just tell her how you "view" her, and she will become that person for you, but only if she agrees and it is flattering for her. You are building a character for her, and she will play the role because she likes the way that the role makes her feel. Here are some examples of compliments:
"You seem like someone who really knows what she wants, I admire that."
"You really care about your friends. I bet you will make a really good mother."
'You have a good energy."
"I notice you're the leader of your friends. Why is that?" %u2022 "You're a great conversationalist."
"You're a very classy girl. What are you doing in a place like this?"
"Wow you seem so confident with your friends, like you're kinda the leader of your peer group. I just love your energy... -> Are you close with your family?'" [Going into next routine.]
"You have such an expressive personality ... That's a valuable thing in the entertainment industry. There are a million women who are beautiful; I just came back from Florida, but how many do you think have an outgoing personality like yourself? I'm telling you, that's a very attractive quality and a valuable asset."
Complements
The Pick Up Artist - Don't make excuses
Always be leading - one step at a time
Don't make excuses
Don't be tentative and wimpy about touching, be natural and confident. Touching (guys and girls) is one way that alpha males like you demonstrate their dominance.
Always be leading - one step at a time
Remember the principle that it is easier to condition people to jump into small, innocuous hoops. Without realizing it, they fall into your frame as your hoops become larger and more explicit over time.
For this reason, when you do the spin maneuver, you don't say, "Ok I'm going to spin you around in a circle, let me see your hand." This is much too large of a hoop. Unless you have demonstrated a lot of value, girls will probably give you some trouble on this hoop; it forces their egos to become involved. But instead you say, "Go like this" - [holding out your hand, then taking hers when she mimics you] - "now do a little spin" - [now spin her around.] See how each step is easy for her to follow, bit-by-bit?
In this way, lead her through the entire interaction.
One step at a time
Don't be tentative and wimpy about touching, be natural and confident. Touching (guys and girls) is one way that alpha males like you demonstrate their dominance.
Always be leading - one step at a time
Remember the principle that it is easier to condition people to jump into small, innocuous hoops. Without realizing it, they fall into your frame as your hoops become larger and more explicit over time.
For this reason, when you do the spin maneuver, you don't say, "Ok I'm going to spin you around in a circle, let me see your hand." This is much too large of a hoop. Unless you have demonstrated a lot of value, girls will probably give you some trouble on this hoop; it forces their egos to become involved. But instead you say, "Go like this" - [holding out your hand, then taking hers when she mimics you] - "now do a little spin" - [now spin her around.] See how each step is easy for her to follow, bit-by-bit?
In this way, lead her through the entire interaction.
One step at a time
The Pick Up Artist - C1: Comfort and Conversation
C1: Comfort and Conversation
A wide conversational rapport
A sense of comfort and trust
A sense that this interaction is real and genuine
A feeling of connection
There are several elements that need to be added to the mix at this point. Although you and your target have both indicated interest in each other, YOU have still only known each other for five or ten minutes. Your interest is based purely on the attraction switches flipped. By baiting her to invest further, you now have an opportunity to build comfort and trust with her. And that is what actually gets the girl - the game is played in comfort. Everything else was merely to get to this point.
If it has not already been demonstrated that the two of you can have a normal, fun, natural conversation together, this is the time to do so. In the future, when she is deciding whether or not to return your phone call, you don't want her thinking, "Geez all we really had to talk about was dog food and petting our dogs, we didn't really connect on a conversational level. Plus I made out with him so I know he's going to want more of that, but I don't even know this guy.. .it was fun at the time but I just don't feel comfortable with this right now. There are a million guys; I'll meet another hot guy tonight when I'm out with my girlfriends."
This is exactly why so many phone numbers are flakes - not enough comfort. Thus, it's important to have fun, natural conversations with girls, using wide rapport and multiple conversational threads. When she looks back on that conversation, she should be thinking about how she enjoys talking with you and looks forward to doing so again.
Also, there must be a sense that this interaction is real and genuine. Often this is the reason why women are distrustful of "nice guys." How does she know he isn't just pretending to be nice in order to get into her pants? Sure, he's buying
dinner and telling her she's pretty.. .but is that what he's really like? Or is that just what he's like when he wants something?
By demonstrating a willingness to walk, or to step up and call bullshit in a fun way, you demonstrate that you are being genuine with her, which creates trust, allowing her to feel safe. This is what girls mean when they say they want a man who can keep it real. She needs to feel that she is getting to know the real you -and that takes time.
When you first game a girl, she is being stimulated and having fun with you. If done in a competent manner, most women enjoy it at the time. But for her to consider dating you in the future, she must not only be invested, but she must feel that there is a real connection between YOU. She must see you as someone who could really become a part of her life - and more importantly, that she could become a part of your life. She wants someone who is similar to her in various ways. Someone who looks like a good counterpart, that other people would say, "Oh you look like such a great couple!" She wants someone that her friends like; someone she can show off on social occasions; someone that she understands and empathizes with.
When she remembers you, does she feel a genuine connection? Or are you just some guy she had a few laughs with while drinking at a bar one night?
C1: Comfort and Conversation
A wide conversational rapport
A sense of comfort and trust
A sense that this interaction is real and genuine
A feeling of connection
There are several elements that need to be added to the mix at this point. Although you and your target have both indicated interest in each other, YOU have still only known each other for five or ten minutes. Your interest is based purely on the attraction switches flipped. By baiting her to invest further, you now have an opportunity to build comfort and trust with her. And that is what actually gets the girl - the game is played in comfort. Everything else was merely to get to this point.
If it has not already been demonstrated that the two of you can have a normal, fun, natural conversation together, this is the time to do so. In the future, when she is deciding whether or not to return your phone call, you don't want her thinking, "Geez all we really had to talk about was dog food and petting our dogs, we didn't really connect on a conversational level. Plus I made out with him so I know he's going to want more of that, but I don't even know this guy.. .it was fun at the time but I just don't feel comfortable with this right now. There are a million guys; I'll meet another hot guy tonight when I'm out with my girlfriends."
This is exactly why so many phone numbers are flakes - not enough comfort. Thus, it's important to have fun, natural conversations with girls, using wide rapport and multiple conversational threads. When she looks back on that conversation, she should be thinking about how she enjoys talking with you and looks forward to doing so again.
Also, there must be a sense that this interaction is real and genuine. Often this is the reason why women are distrustful of "nice guys." How does she know he isn't just pretending to be nice in order to get into her pants? Sure, he's buying
dinner and telling her she's pretty.. .but is that what he's really like? Or is that just what he's like when he wants something?
By demonstrating a willingness to walk, or to step up and call bullshit in a fun way, you demonstrate that you are being genuine with her, which creates trust, allowing her to feel safe. This is what girls mean when they say they want a man who can keep it real. She needs to feel that she is getting to know the real you -and that takes time.
When you first game a girl, she is being stimulated and having fun with you. If done in a competent manner, most women enjoy it at the time. But for her to consider dating you in the future, she must not only be invested, but she must feel that there is a real connection between YOU. She must see you as someone who could really become a part of her life - and more importantly, that she could become a part of your life. She wants someone who is similar to her in various ways. Someone who looks like a good counterpart, that other people would say, "Oh you look like such a great couple!" She wants someone that her friends like; someone she can show off on social occasions; someone that she understands and empathizes with.
When she remembers you, does she feel a genuine connection? Or are you just some guy she had a few laughs with while drinking at a bar one night?
C1: Comfort and Conversation
The Pick Up Artist - The Question Game
The Question Game
"Have you ever played the question game? Well there are rules...
"Rule 1, you ask a question, then me, then you, and so on, back and forth.
"Rule 2, you have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like truth or dare but without the dare because I don't know how weird you really are." [Notice the neg.]
"Rule 3, you can't ask the same question that's already been asked.
"Rule 4, you have to ask questions that let skeletons out of the closet. Take advantage of our anonymity.
"Oh and.. .Rule 5, you go first."
She will say, "that's not fair."
So you then ask, "How many boyfriends have you had?"
From here on, the question game will escalate sexually until she is asking you how many times you masturbate. It's a fun routine. This is a comfort building routine that's also useful for screening. Another great thing about the question game is that it can last for a really long time. When you get into C1, use this routine as your default.
Fun question: "Tell me a secret."
The Question Game
"Have you ever played the question game? Well there are rules...
"Rule 1, you ask a question, then me, then you, and so on, back and forth.
"Rule 2, you have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like truth or dare but without the dare because I don't know how weird you really are." [Notice the neg.]
"Rule 3, you can't ask the same question that's already been asked.
"Rule 4, you have to ask questions that let skeletons out of the closet. Take advantage of our anonymity.
"Oh and.. .Rule 5, you go first."
She will say, "that's not fair."
So you then ask, "How many boyfriends have you had?"
From here on, the question game will escalate sexually until she is asking you how many times you masturbate. It's a fun routine. This is a comfort building routine that's also useful for screening. Another great thing about the question game is that it can last for a really long time. When you get into C1, use this routine as your default.
Fun question: "Tell me a secret."
The Question Game
