Catch Him and Keep Him Review

Chapter 1 :: Inside The Mind Of A Man
Chapter 2 :: How I Learned About A Woman's Experience
Chapter 3 :: Men And Relationships
Chapter 4 :: Your Experience And What You Feel
Chapter 5 :: The Biggest Mistakes Women Make With Their Emotions
Chapter 6 :: The Emotional Gap: How Men And Women Are Different And What To Do About It
Chapter 7 :: How To Attract Men
Chapter 8 :: From Casual To Committed - Communication Secrets With Men And New Relationships
Chapter 9 :: Keeping Him Attracted To You, or "How To Have A Long Term Relationship"

How to Maximize Your Online Dating Experience
The mating rituals of online dating are the same as traditional dating as well as the intentions of finding true romance, a companion and most importantly, love. Today there are more options than ever- both free and paid- at online dating users' fingertips than ever. You must know how to maximize your online dating experience and make the most of the available services. Just having internet access opens up relationships that have no constraints. This has brought people from all over to the proximity of anyone, but it has also completely altered dating principles. The principles of dating are no longer established as they once were and the rules have undergone some alterations as well.

Getting Back Together With Your Ex - Can I Get My Ex Back Or is it Just Hopeless
Is it really possible to get your ex back even in a hopeless situation? Is there a way to turn a hopeless situation into a hopeful one? Are there any dating tips that can help me get my ex back.

Ways to Get a Guy Interested in You by Observing 3 Types of Guys and His Interest!
There are quite a number of ways to get a guy interested in you and it all depends on the type of guy and his interests. It is best to spend some time observing that guy and knowing more about his habits before you try to get him interested in you. know the types of guys and his interest in order to get him to like you!

Signals That a Guy Likes You
When it comes to knowing whether a guy likes a girl or not, girls tend to overanalyze. That's why it's important to know the signals that a guy likes you.

How to Romance - Internet Style #1
I became a romance writer of poetry and short stories as a result of becoming an expert on internet dating and relationships. I gained that expertise predominately through personal experience and also by witnessing the dating and relationship habits of many men and women in chat/game rooms over an 11 year period.

I've noticed an interesting new trend in the online dating space...

It all started with LoveHappens.com and their "introductions" feature where they empower members to play matchmaker for their friends.

Now Match.com has added a similar "Match My Friends" feature where you can create a profile for your friends and recommend them to others.

This is yet another example of how social networking is taking over the internet and the dating industry's attempt to catch up and compete with sites like Facebook.com and Myspace.com

"Does he like me? I really want to know!"
...so there's this guy...

He's perfect. It seems like he might, but you are dying to know, "Does he like me?" So many people get lost on the very first step of dating. You both think the other is into you, but sometimes it's hard to tell. He sends so many confusing and conflicting messages, you don't know what to do.

You think he's great. You like the way he makes you feel (sometimes!). He's even in your dreams, but you're afraid of embarrassing yourself by pursuing that guy because he's so hard to figure out.

Chances are, if you're this confused, he really is attracted to you. The whole "dating ritual between man and women is full of confusing undertones and bizarre rituals that neither one of you are even aware you are doing. So many loves get lost in the confusion...

The key is to take charge and figure this out so you can stop torturing yourself and get on with the smooching.

Does he treat you differently then other women?

Some guys are just incurable flirts. He'll chat up any girl he sees. Most guys only flirt with the one they are interested in. Pay attention to how he acts around other women. Does he say the same things to them as he does to you? Does he have the same kind of nervous shyness around them too? If not, you can bet he's attracted to you.

Men change around someone they like. Think of gorillas thumping their chest to impress a hot lady gorilla. Does he try to show off around you? Does he do weird things around you that he doesn't do around other girls? On the "Does He Like Me Scale" this is as close to a ten as you can get.

Is he super nice or super mean to you?

Compliments are obvious signs of attraction, but being mean?!! How does being mean show that he's attracted to you? It seems impossible, but watch any TV show about the mating rituals of mammals and you'll often see the male being a jerk to the female. It's a very primal instinct that men have.

Does he insult you, but then always try to be around you? Is it obvious that he's interested in you, but then he says something mean to you? You can guarantee that most guys don't even realize they do this. But think about what this accomplishes in your mind: you can't stop thinking about him! You spend your days adding up all the nice things he does and then you're stuck analyzing the mean things.

Mission accomplished! He has you confused and crazy. Does He Like Me Scale: 7.5

Is he always around?

You avoid people that you don't like. You hang out with your friends. You go out of your way to spend time with people you're attracted to. Same goes with the fellas. If he always seems to be around wherever you are, you can bet he likes you. If it seems like a big inconvenience for him to always "swing by," it's a great sign he's attracted to you.

Check his body language

We gravitate towards people we are interested in. Does he get a little too far into your personal space? Is he always leaning towards you? Does he touch you? Not that kind of touch! Does he bump into you or touch your back or arm when he sees you? This includes the mean touch like playfully trying to trip you or pushing you away.

Think about this: when someone pushes you, it's usually in anger. If he's not angry then he's obviously doing it for some other reason.

Men are not the masters of body language that women are. They aren't very subtle. Any time he touches you are takes a "forward posture" is a great sign of attraction.

Eye contact

This can go in one of two possible directions. If he's shy he might avoid eye contact at all costs if he really likes you. If he's not shy, he will do his best to catch your eye. Try to get the shy guy to look you in the eyes. He'll give away his feelings for you faster than anything. If he's not the shy type, stare him down. Sometimes it's those small awkward moments that send you both into each other's arms.

Try leaning towards him during one of these stare downs. If he leans in with you, you're in. Go for the kiss if you're really feeling it! Which brings us to...

Mirroring

When we develop a closeness to someone, we unconsciously start to "mirror" their actions. As you talk to him, touch your ear (or hair or some part of your body) and if he repeats this action within a few minutes, he's showing his interest in you. It could be as simple as him always taking a drink soon after you do.

So he's doing most if not all of the signs of attraction and the readings on the Does He Like Me Scale are through the roof. How do you get him to make the first move? The answer is that he NEVER makes the first move. Sure, he might one day come up to you and ask you out, but you made all the little first moves up until that point.

Show interest in him. Ask him questions about his interests. Touch him back. Compliment him for something and yes, be mean back to him! If all else fails to bring that boy to action, you have to come right out and call him on it:

"I think it's weird that you haven't asked me out on a date."

Whoa girl! No one has ever said that to him before! Even if he was on the fence about you, now he's impressed. Not only that, you're not really putting yourself that far out there for embarrassment. Even if he counters with, "Because I don't wanna," you can answer with "Hmmm, interesting." And he's still in the hot seat!

If you make enough "observations" even the shyest guys will break down and ask you out. You no longer have to worry, "Does he like me?" and get on with what you've wanted all along: an awesome relationship.

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Until You've Found the Perfect Mate, Date...

Why do we feel the need to jump into a relationship with the first man that comes around? I recommend taking your time to embrace your singleness!

Sure you would love to "Catch Him and Keep Him" forever, but haste makes waste - and a huge broken heart!

Here's a newsflash!

"It's Alright For Women To Date!"

That's right girls, until you've found the perfect fit for your mate, go ahead and date. Go on, take a deep breath, and tell that hot man across from you that you're just taking some time for yourself and having fun making friends. Toast to a great night out and let your hair down and BE YOURSELF! Most men love the confidence that comes from a woman who knows what she wants. It drives them crazy! Men are conquerors by nature and if you're right for each other it's the perfect way to ignite any future chemistry you may share between the two of you!

Have fun. But first and foremost, love and be true to yourself. You'll be so much happier when that toast is made with "the right one".

Dating Tips For Women - How To Catch and Keep Him For Good

Here are the Top 10 Most Dangerous Personality Traits Single Women Should Watch Out For Before Getting Into A Committed Relationship With A Guy....

By Cyndi Strauss

1. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
I'm sure we've all dated this man, or should I say men. One second they love you the next second can't stand you? All the while you're sitting there with your head spinning wondering, when the next 'episode' is going to take place. My advice to this man, and you know who you are: pump some Midol! Women are emotional enough and we what we NEED is a man with a good head on his shoulders and some balance. If you are Dr. Jekyll, great, we love dating doctors. But if you're Mr. Hyde it's time to pull your head out of your umm, I mean out of the clouds and kill the beast within.

2. Mr. Temper Tantrum
Whaaah! You're not doing what I want so I'm going to sit here pout, scream and throw a fit. These are the moments I'd love to have recorded! Can you imagine the look on your mans face as you give him an instant replay of his infantile behavior? Priceless. Ah, but alas these moments are never recorded except for in the searing of our minds, and available only to us as an unpleasant reminders of love gone sour. If you've already got kids, or really want them it's important NOT to get hooked up with this man. It's a recipe for unwanted stress in the time of your life that should be your best! The great thing about Mr. Temper Tantrum is he'll show up very early into your relationship. Yep, just in time for you to bail. Vio con dios my darling!

3. Mr. Blame
This man will rip your heart out and feed it to you for breakfast, IF you let him. This is the typical "IF" man. IF only you would have done it this way. IF only you wouldn't have done that. This is a man who will never take responsibility for his negative actions. Why should he? After all, it's your fault anyhow. This man is a hard one to pinpoint, because of his cunning and clever ability to push the blame off. Guard your heart against this one girls, he's a snake.

4. Mr. Friendless
This man doesn't really have any of his own friends. He'll just glom on to yours and call them his own. What's worse, he won't TRY to meet any of his own either. There's a REASON this man doesn't have any other friends. Usually this type is clingy and manipulative, always wanting 'only' you to hang out with and suck the life out of. This man needs to adopt the motto, "The More The Merrier."

5. Mr. Momma's Boy
No, not "Mr. Mom", you know the truly helpful Michael Keaton who cooks, cleans and love the children up. This ISN'T him. This man can often be found leaving cupboards open, clothes on the floor and asking you, "Where's my ____ ?" Unless you're born to be a care giver this may not be the best match. Ultimately you're gonna want a man, not a little boy.

6. Mr. What Day Is It?
This man can often be seen looking like a deer caught in your headlights on: birthdays, anniversaries and Valentines Day. This man can generally be harmless, unless you're the sentimental type. If so, this may not be a match made in heaven.

7. Mr. What's Your Friends Name?
AKA Mr. Player. This man will not be faithful to you. He can be seen ogling your friends and other unsuspecting women wherever he goes. This man is a walking red flag. Run the other way!

8. Mr. Public Affection, But Only When We're Out Babe
"I want all these other men to know that you're mine." This is the man that will keep you close at his side when you're out. That wouldn't be so bad, except it only happens in public. This is the man that doesn't like to cuddle behind closed doors. Beware.

9. Mr. In-between Jobs
"Hey, you don't mind picking up the bill do you? Great, I'm in-between jobs at the moment." Seems to me that Mr. In-between Jobs is ALWAYS in-between jobs. If you've got money to burn then light up ladies, if not then realize this dude's a typically LOSER. A fool and her money are soon parted. Don't be a fool.

10. Mr. Party
Oh brother. This guy is really just a kid, forever. He can be found trading his responsibilities for the night life. He knows all kinds of jokes and limericks. He's the life of the party. He's everyone's friend. But he's clueless. Unless you're perfectly matched with this guy, he will grow old, real fast!

Learn What Men Really Want and How to Find & Attract Lasting Love

"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men - And What To Do About It.

Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams- And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them...

MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His "Potential"

Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?

Of course you do.

And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well.

Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.

What's going on here?

It's actually very simple.

Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day.

Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

And guess what?

Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well.

Sometimes for months or years...

But why in the world would a woman do that!?

Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection".

Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.

How do I know?

Because I've seen it at least a hundred times...

And because I've been this guy in the past myself.

Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.

I'm amazed the women put up with me.

But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change.

The women I dated hoped I'd change.

The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them.

The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...

The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.

And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.

But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.

They believed that I could become someone else with them.... and that this would be easy for us both.

Talk about a losing battle.

It doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...

But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.

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"Oh, in case you're curious... check out a complete review of Christian Carter's Catch Him and Keep Him (including the rest of the 10 mistakes) here: www.insideaguysmind.com

MISTAKE #2: Assuming You "Get" Men & Their Psychology Men are different from women.

You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.

Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.

But does the same apply for men?

As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.

As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.

And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition".

Women don't seem to remember this about men.

So do men feel sexually attracted to women based just on looks? Or is something else going on?

Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.

Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...

But looks are NOT the most powerful.

If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.

But it's not an accident.

You have to LEARN how to do this.

And ANY woman can learn how...

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"Oh, in case you're curious... check out a complete review of Christian Carter's Catch Him and Keep Him (including the rest of the 10 mistakes) here: www.insideaguysmind.com

MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man

In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.

Another HORRIBLE idea.

Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.

Wrong.

Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.

Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.

You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.

Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.

So if you think that making him more attracted to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from the start, think again.

You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.

MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You "Feel" Too Early With Him

Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

Listen...

Attractive, single, successful men are rare.

They get a LOT of attention from women.

Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.

And guess what?

Attractive men have usually dated a lot of women.

That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

They know what to expect.

And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...

It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

This signals to the man that you're just like one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.

This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.

Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

There's a much better way...

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"Oh, in case you're curious... check out a complete review of Christian Carter's Catch Him and Keep Him (including the rest of the 10 mistakes) here: www.insideaguysmind.com

MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important "Signals" That Men Send

Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.

Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.

The signals men send have 4 main levels:

1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction

2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"

3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons

4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future

The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.

That's great news to women...

Men can't help it!

You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.

MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character People aren't easy to figure out.

Especially men.

The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.

I've studied peoples behavior, "inner psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.

From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.

But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.

Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.

They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.

Men are different.

Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockiness and other "indirect" displays of status.

VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.

Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.

If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.

Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.

You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.

MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy

A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.

And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.

But those are the exceptions, not the rule.

Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.

And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.

Think, "controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear...

I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.

But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.

It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...

If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.

This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.

So what can you do as a woman?

You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.

This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.

Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.

But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.

MISTAKE #8: Trying To "Convince" Him To Like You Or Love You

What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?

Right! They try to "convince" the man to feel differently.

Well, I have news for you...

YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

Never, ever, ever.

You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him?

But we all do it.

Men are the worst at this by the way.

They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.

Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.

She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.

When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.

Bad idea.

Another one that will never work.

MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation

A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...

And I don't mean just sex.

I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.

And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!

If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help

This is the biggest mistake of all.

This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.

I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

Hey, I've been there myself.

Let me tell you a little about me.

Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.

It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.

Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.

I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.

I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.

Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.

It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.

I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he's not ready".

You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.

...But the really great news is... after several years, helping woman after woman, I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches any woman how to DRAMATICALLY increase her success with men and dating.

It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share you're email address with anyone, and you can easily remove yourself with no hassles. (And no, I'll never pull any of those tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junkmail when you try to remove yourself.)

Of course, it even get's better than that...

In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have an amazing downloadable eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES.

It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming your fears, meeting men, great ideas around first dates, cheat-proofing your relationships, and how to take things to a closer "emotional" and "physical" level smoothly and easily.

Flirt

Are you flirting with me? Sometimes it's hard to tell isn't it?

All relationships start somewhere. I'll let you in a little secret. Finding true and everlasting love usually starts with a simple little flirtatious smile.

Maybe you're saying to yourself. I don't know how to flirt. Well guess what sister? You're wrong! Everyone has a flirty side to them. Anyone can smile, tell a joke or even shake hands with a shimmer of glimmer in their eyes. It's easy, and the easiest way to get over your fear of flirting is to just flirt.

There are many types of men, and the quickest way to find true happiness is to realize what kind of woman you are. Instead of wishing you could get inside a guys mind, get inside of your own. It isn't rocket science to realize that the road to YOUR happiness is paved with the things you love.

You say you like to read? Well, go to a Barnes and Noble, grab a cup of jo and smile at Joe! Did you notice that book Joe was reading? You LOVE that book and a quick telling him so is perfectly fine. See, you've just been a little bit flirty. It was easy and fun. Now if you have to run to the bathroom and throw up that's okay too. Just don't let Joe see you do it.

Are you a bit more outrageous? Well, then you probably already know how to be a big flirt. You probably have don't have a hard time at all attracting men. Maybe your problem is keeping them away, especially the wrong ones who get the wrong idea about your fun loving flirtatious spirit. That's alright and it's okay to let someone know you're not interested. Being a flirt is not a marriage contract%u2026 yet.

So just be yourself, surround yourself with the things you love to do and don't be afraid to flirt when you can. Confidence is key mama. Men are attracted to a confident woman. Unless their weasels of course. Go on flirting and before you know it that flirts gonna come right back to you!

And remember you are flirty-licious!

CrEaTIvE DaTiNg

For first dates and anniversaries, new love or devoted couples, just the two of you or a group, these 101 creative date ideas will help you plan a fun date.

1. Have a picnic

2. Go hiking

3. Take a hot air balloon ride

4. Go to an amusement park

5. Take a romantic bath

6. Walk dogs from the humane society

7. Reserve a bed and breakfast room

8. Go ice skating

9. Grill out

10. Hit up a casino

11. Take some photos together

12. Take bike ride

13. Catch fireflies

14. Golf driving range

15. Go to a dinner theater

16. Watch planes take off or land

17. Go bowling

18. Go to a shooting range

19. Get physical playing basket ball or soccer

20. Challenge each other at an arcade

21. Thumb through books at a library or book store

22. Stroll through the zoo

23. Go to a drive in movie

24. Have s'mores with a fire bowl

25. Have a scavenger hunt

26. Go sail boating

27. Look at the stars and moon

28. Go roller blading

29. Dance under the stars

30. Play pool

31. Go to a horse race, make a bet!

32. Chocolate body painting

33. Go to the lake or ocean

34. Stroll through an art gallery

35. Go to the highest point in town

36. Kiss in the rain

37. Cook a meal together

38. Go to a dance club

39. Get tattoo's or piercings together

40. Get opera tickets

41. Massage each other

42. Skinny dip

43. Visit a water park

44. Volunteer at a charity

45. Go to a vineyard

46. Attend a sporting event

47. Pick out a new board game

48. Moonlight picnic

49. Rent ATV's

50. Take a horse drawn carriage ride

51. Visit a botanical garden

52. Movie marathon

53. Take dance lessons

54. Get tickets for a musical

55. Go to the spa together

56. Go to the gym

57. Stroll and window shop

58. Go to a comedy club

59. Try an ethnic restaurant

60. Pick out a puzzle to put together

61. Mini golf

62. Visit the Science Museum

63. Play tennis or racquetball

64. Play cards

65. Visit a historical town or tourist attraction

66. Snow ski

67. Scrub each other down in the shower

68. Go camping

69. Go to a concert

70. Catch a sunrise

71. Go for coffee

72. Take a drive on the scenic bypass

73. Play bocce ball or croquet

74. Play laser tag

75. Check out an aquarium

76. Enjoy live music at a bar or coffee shop

77. Pick apples or other fruit

78. Dinner cruise

79. Go to the top of the highest building in the city

80. Make sweet desserts together

81. Go horseback riding

82. Play frisbee

83. Go sky diving

84. Touring a brewery

85. Take a boat ride

86. Water ski

87. Have a breakfast date

88. Go cart rides

89. Paint each other

90. Watch the sun set

91. Go fish

92. Rent motorcycles

93. Plant a tree together

94. See a play

95. Go bungee jumping

96. Play a sensual game

97. Take a weekend trip

98. Have a fondue meal

99. Make a time capsule

100. Canoe around a lake

101. Try your cards at Vegas

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Hi there Cyndi Strauss here. Just thought I'd whet your appetite with a preview Christian Carter's most recent newsletter...


Have you ever seen a man who you thought
would NEVER settle down and get married suddenly
meet the right woman and fall deeply in love with
her?

A few weeks or months earlier this man might
have been talking about how he loves his single
life... and how he thinks he might never want to
get married... or at least until he's much older.

And then the right woman came along and all
that talk went out the window... as he seemd to
be magically transformed into a loving, caring,
loyal, committed man.

More great dating articles for women here: www.insideaguysmind.com

What do men want?

What's wrong with men when it comes to long-term
committed relationships? Do they not want them?
Or are they afraid?

How can I talk to my boyfriend about problems, or
about our relationship?

Why do men cheat?

What does he really mean when he says "I love you
but I'm not 'IN LOVE' with you"?

And all the other big questions.

Do you ever wonder if men are actually capable
of falling in love, staying in love, and being a loyal and
loving partner for good?

And more to the point...

Do you ever wonder what it actually takes for a
man to be and want all these things with you?

Do you feel like you understand and know what a
man really wants from a lasting long-term
relationship?

Or... have you found that men always seem to
find a way to mess things up or break your
relationship apart - even when things are going
great?

Well, what if it's possible that there's
something you're just not seeing or getting about
men?

Or is it really true that most men are the ones
who just don't get it and are incapable of being
in loving and lasting relationships?

Good questions... but here's the thing -

If you know WHAT WORKS with men...

And you get WHAT MEN WANT...

Then the truth is that you're free from all the
wondering and worry.

It's time you knew, don't you think?

Are you tired of being dragged
through "on again, off again" relationships
where you try your best but things never seem
to get on solid ground?

Are you ready to finally stop the pattern of men
quickly falling out of "love" with you after they
were so wild about you to begin with?

And are you ready to finally give your heart the
love, wisdom and protection it deserves so you
don't have to try and survive another failed
relationship?

If you're ready to stop repeating the past and
change your luck in love forever - then there's
something you need to know about:

The quality and strength of your relationship
isn't just determined by how much love you and
your man share.

Love will only get you so far. But it won't show
you everything you need to make sure the love you
find LASTS in the often-tough day-to-day of how
you and a man interact with each other.

Life throws ups and downs at you.

The question is - how will you and your love
weather them?

And how will you make sure it's easy for your man
to stay close with you and that your love
stays strong, even when things are tough?

It's not just love that gets you through the
truth of relationships.

It comes down to a set of SKILLS that you either
have or don't have.

If you've found that no matter how deeply you love
and care, you still can't be the one to make your
relationship work...

And you find that you somehow always seem to end
up being the one trying to hold your love and
relationships together...

Then this is your wake-up call.

It's time to make a change.

It's time you stopped believing that MORE LOVE
from you is the answer to fixing things.

It's not.

It's time you discovered how, with the right set
of tools, your relationship can suddenly be
easy - the way it's supposed to be.

Inside my "Relationship Turn-Around" program I
give you the 6 Tools you need that will change the
way your relationships work for you, forever.

These simple but powerful tools will get you out
of the pattern of trying harder and giving more
only to RECEIVE less in return.

It's not too late, even if you think your
relationship is in big trouble and you worry that
it can't be "fixed."

Here's why:

See, as much as we don't want to admit it, most of
us weren't ever taught or given the right set of
tools to make our relationship healthy, lasting
and loving.

In fact, most of us learned all kinds of things
that DON'T WORK from the relationship that our
parents had.

If you're still living and acting out from the
unconscious place where your parents tried to
make their relationship work, then love is going
to be an uphill battle for you.

When it comes to making sure your relationship
serves and inspires both you and your partner...

And when you want to rise above the kind of
short-lived, unfulfilling relationships you
probably see around you...

And when you want to create the kind of unique and
special relationship that can and will keep
growing more loving and passionate over time...
this doesn't happen by accident.

It takes a new kind of WISDOM.

Too many women mistakenly think that since there's
love between them and their man, that things will
work out. That love will win out - even without
putting this wisdom to work in their relationship.

Not true.

The truth is, if you want your relationship to
work, you don't just need to give and receive
love...

But you need a specific set of SKILLS to guide
your way through the good and bad together.

These skills are this "wisdom" in action.

Without these skills, most women never end up
finding a way to make things work with a man.

They stay stuck in that tough place believing
that it's simply impossible to have things work
out with a man.

And in every relationship they find that either
the man they're with eventually becomes unhappy
and leaves...

Or the relationship turns to "toxic" and
unfulfilling for them as a woman. And from there
things quickly fall apart and the man becomes less
and less loving and caring.

Don't let this keep happening when it doesn't
have to be this way.

The pattern can and will be broken. And the place
to start right now is here with my all new
"Relationship Turn-Around" program.

In this amazing program you'll learn:

- The 10 symptoms of a "Do-It-Yourself" woman who
tries to do it all for herself in her
relationship, and ends up pushing her man away and
driving herself into the ground. Know why this is
so common and dangerous for relationship
happiness, and how to get out of this destructive
pattern. (If you find yourself thinking you're his
MOTHER more than his partner, you may have this
problem.)

- The 7 Essential Areas of Relationship
Transformation - and how to use the tools from
this program to make your relationship the most
amazing it's ever been by creating the change you
need in each of these areas

- "Feeling Messages": Use this anytime to turn what
used to be problems or arguments with your guy into
moments where you connect better with your man than
you ever have before. (Hint- this lets you use the
magic power of your emotions to open your man up.)

- 9 critical signs that you're LOSING YOURSELF in
your relationship, and what to do about it.

- The 6 tools for relationship change that are
deeper and longer-lasting than just any "quick
fix."

-The #1 reason men will so often lose passion for
you and stop initiating sex, paying attention, or
begin focusing on everything else but YOU in a
long term relationship... and how to have him
crazy with desire for you without having to ask
him to try and be this way again

-And much much more...

If you're ready to stop repeating the same
situations with men and relationships again and
again...

And you're ready to bring into your life the
wisdom and skills that will take the love you have
and can share and make sure you have a safe,
healthy, secure relationship to let your love
grow...

Then it's time you finally discovered these
relationship skills for yourself.

Discover the 6 Powerful Tools that will instantly
transform your relationship and have your man back
in that loving place with you where he's aching to
be close to you and make a life with you.

Put these 6 tools to good use in your love life
and change things forever now by starting here:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/RelationshipTurnAround

Now Heather- here's something fascinating:

I believe that relationships are there to
bring love, growth and a feeling of confidence to
our lives.

But if you're like lots of women I've talked
to, then when you and that special man in your
life first meet you only feel this way for a short
time at the START of things.

At first you can see and feel his love and
support each and every day.

His passion and desire for you is obvious, and
it makes you feel beautiful and appreciated.

But even though things always seem to start out
so great, how come after time things with men
always seem to break down and fall apart?

If you've experienced this more than a few
times, it's enough to make you feel uncertain or
even hopeless each time you get into a new
relationship and you see the signs of your man
pulling away.

And this is when things go from bad to worse.

Everything becomes difficult with your man at
this point - even just talking about the simplest
everyday things.

How are you ever supposed to get to the place
you need to be in your relationship with your
interactions feeling like you're walking on
eggshells?

Let's take a step back for a second.

Take a deep breath for me.

With all that you've been through with men and
relationships, let me ask you:

In the back of your mind, when you're in a
relationship, are you constantly worried that
you're going to get the "rug pulled from
underneath you" by your boyfriend or husband,
because out of the blue he's going to tell you
IT'S OVER?

Sure, he might act like or tell you everything
is "fine."

And sometimes you feel a little better
after your man finally reassures you - but only
after you let him see you want and need it.

But because of what you know and what you've
been through with men - you can't help it -

You still have this NAGGING FEELING that things
aren't going to work out.

It's because "little things" keep coming up
that are getting in the way of you feeling TOTALLY
CONNECTED with him.

He's not spending as much time with you as he
used to.

He seems busier with work or with his other
"obligations."

He seems a little distant when you're with him.
It's so subtle, you can barely put it into words
or call him on it.

But it's there.

And it's making you feel freaked out.

If you're feeling worried or anxious because
you're not sure if your relationship is going to
LAST, and you are afraid to "give it your all"
just to get hurt again, then you NEED to read the
rest of this email.

You can subscribe to Christian Carter's Newsletter here: Catch Him and Keep Him

Dear Friend,

Did you know that learning about how a man thinks... where he's coming from... and how he's likely to react is all part of knowing how to attract men. The way you respond in different situations can be one of the most valuable relationship "skills" you could ever give yourself.
So let's talk a little bit about how to attract men and how attraction works for men... and a "secret" you can quickly use on how to attract men that is guaranteed to work with a man you're dating or involved with.

First, let's start with the basics about how to attract men. There are two types of attraction: Physical and "Intellectual Attraction."

As a woman, you can attract men by wearing certain clothes, initiating and maintaining eye contact, touching a man softly and flirtatiously, being physically fit or having a certain "look" the man finds intriguing. These are very obvious and simple ways of how to attract men. But these things don't affect a man at a very deep or lasting level.

On the other hand, what goes beyond Physical Attraction is something I call "Intellectual Attraction" and it goes much deeper, and is the kind of attraction that will make a man literally PINE AWAY for you when he's not near you. It's how to attract men in a way that engages them in their mind and heart. It entices him to want a deeper level of involvement and intimacy with you.
If you're trying to build a more "serious" relationship with a man based on the simple and fleeting Physical Attraction... things aren't bound to grow too close or connected.

So let me be clear here...

Don't make the mistake in thinking that how to attract men and how to get a guy is purely through the physical, and that he's automatically going to want anything more committed or more MEANINGFUL beyond a physical, sexual involvement. It's just the way men are wired. They are much more able to separate the desire to be physically intimate with a woman with the desire to spend a lot of time with her, or having her become a bigger part of his life.

On the other hand, if a man feels that deep level of INTELLECTUAL attraction to a woman, he will simply WANT to spend time and commit to her. There is nothing and no one that can convince him otherwise. He will not RESIST the relationship the way a man would if he were not "feeling it" for a woman.

So how to attract men in the RIGHT way - the LASTING way? Creating that kind of intellectual attraction involves having the right combination of IRRESISTIBLE traits, such as being adventurous, independent, confident, unpredictable and compassionate, for starters. Women who are "naturals" at creating this sort of attraction are also able to avoid INTERNALIZING all the disappointment and pain from past relationship failure.

I write a free weekly e-newsletter especially for women that explains how to attract men and be more successful in dating and relationships by UNDERSTANDING how men think and behave... all from a man's perspective.

I've also created a ton of resources for you that include exact tips on what to say and do with men.
You can sign up free and check this out now if you go here:

Free Christian Carter Dating And Relationship Advice Newsletter

Best of luck in Life and Love,
Christian Carter

3 Attitudes That Are Irresistible To A Man

I'm going to tell you exactly what WORKS and WHAT DOESN'T when it comes to making a man feel an intense level of attraction for you%u2026 the kind that makes him want to have a deeper, loving connection with you.

I'm going to tell you what things you've probably been doing that you should AVOID at all costs%u2026 because they're attraction KILLERS%u2026

And I'm going to give you some tips on what to do to make yourself totally irresistible to a man.

But first, I'd like to tell you a quick story.

It's a story that you might find strangely familiar.

Don't be alarmed.

Once, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.

At first, he was just another good-looking guy... but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel drawn to him... and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.

But there was one problem-

As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because she couldn't tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.

Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the "friendship" stage.

There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him... and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and maybe even shared a secret or two with her.

But something was wrong with the picture.

He just wasn't acting like a man who was " falling in love ". He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.

And things seemed to run hot and cold.

Sometimes he would call her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.

The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of "screwing things up" or "scaring him off", by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn't ask her out.

After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how SHE FELT, that he would feel the same way.

So she made a bold move.

She TOLD HIM how she felt.

She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him.

He seemed to respond well to this, and they even kissed and spent time alone and she felt like some sort of "breakthrough" had finally happened.

But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn't call her and wasn't really "available" to her.

In fact, he was less "available" and open with her than he had been with they were just "friends."

This only confused the woman more.

She didn't know how to take it...

Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?

Did it mean that he wasn't ready for a long-term relationship and this was the only way he knew how to tell her - to pull away?

Did it mean that she hadn't tried hard enough or really explained everything she was thinking and feeling?

She finally decided that she couldn't go on like this anymore... she had to be with him.

She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him... so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter... again confessing her feelings.

And then, something unthinkable happened.

He didn't reply the way she had hoped.

In fact, he seemed IRRITATED by her.

When she tried to get in touch with him after that, he told her he couldn't talk right now, that he was in the middle of something and he'd "call you back a little later."

But DAYS went by, and he never called.

Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened.

THE END.

OK, I'm back.

Now, wasn't that a sweet story?

Makes you want to break out the Kleenex, doesn't it?

That story is timeless. It resonates with so many women.

Stories and situations like this one really FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND the puzzles about men, women and how we behave with each other.

In this particular situation, I think there is something important for a woman to know...

A SECRET that lots of women DON'T get.

And that is, that if a man isn't ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her attempts to share a connection, convince him to like her, and to feel and share love will BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK- they can actually make things WORSE.

They make him run.

Even though a woman might have nothing but the most loving and positive emotional intentions in the long run, these actually cause the woman feeling them to do things that make the man pull away... and sometimes for good.

It sucks, doesn't it?

Why does it have to be so hard, right?

Hopefully, by explaining the process of how this happens to you, I'll help you avoid this painful and frustrating situation in your own future...

Stay tuned for part 2!

AVOID THE COMMMON "WEAK" STRATEGIES THAT DON'T WORK

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...

Just because we WANT to communicate something to others, doesn't necessarily mean that it's going to be perceived the same way.

For example, have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy/cheap and wears way too much make-up?

She probably dresses that way because she thinks she's showing off how "hot" she is, but you may have thought that isn't exactly the message that everyone is getting.

Yeah, I've thought that too in those situations.

Well, here's the deal:

As human beings we develop certain "strategies" for dealing with fearful situations where REJECTION is a big risk.

In the case of the woman who dresses over-the-top, maybe her strategy is to make up for her insecurities about her true worth by pushing out all the stops when it comes to her makeup and clothes.

The same goes for the strategies for attracting the opposite sex.

Women develop certain strategies that they THINK are going to work to get the man's interest and attention.

But if the man isn't ATTRACTED to you to begin with, or if it's not the right time and place, none of these strategies are going to work.

Even worse, they are going to BACKFIRE and trigger an intense DISCOMFORT in the man.

So let me tell you a little bit about these common strategies that so many women use, that rarely, if ever work to get a man.

The first strategy is what I call "BRIBERY."

It's when a woman tries to "be nice" by buying him a big gift or doing something nice to show him how much she thinks about him.

You know, like helping him solve some personal or work problem without him asking. Or running errands for him or offering to do something for him that takes up a lot of her time or energy.

But let me clarify here so you really get it...

If you have a FRIEND (man or woman) and you like them, and you want to make them like you more, then when you do some nice things for them, they will probably actually like and appreciate you more. As a friend.

On the other hand...

If you have a man that you "like" in a romantic way, and he doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want HIM to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and he will not only NOT like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you.

Usually when bribery doesn't work, women break down and engage in the second common strategy.

I call this one "CONVINCING."

This is when you tell a man how you really feel about him and how much you want to be with him in hopes that he will "see the light" and proclaim his feelings for you too. This is like the woman in the story at the beginning of this e-mail. The one who was pining away for a man who had no interest in her romantically%u2026 so she pushed and convinced until he disappeared out of her life for good.

Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a guy.

This can also happen when you ask him,

"How do you feel about me?"

And...

"Do you want to be with me?"

In your mind, this is how it's going to go:

Like him > Tell him you like him > He likes you

If you follow this pattern with men who aren't already FEELING much ATTRACTION or CONNECTION with you, then again, it's probably going to backfire.

I mean, men know when they are getting "vibes" that a woman is into them. And for the most part, they feel it's harmless and maybe even mildly flattering. But when you start PURSUING him and talking about how you feel, you create NEGATIVE TENSION.

So if he's NOT already into you, it'll go like this:

He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you like him>He gets that "yikes" feeling and withdraws...

And finally, the third strategy is what I call the "FREE SEX" strategy.

Another name for this is "friends with benefits."

You're using sex to try to "make" a man feel it for you.

Afterall, the more you're with him that way, the deeper your feelings get for him.

So why shouldn't it work the same way for HIM, right?

Wrong.

The reality is that men can often be physically intimate with a woman and not even be THINKING "relationship" at all. To him, it's just sex, it's fun and feels nice, and if he's NOT feeling real emotional attraction for you, he'll disappear as soon as you start asking for anything deeper or "real".

Like a relationship. Or what he's feeling about YOU.

So tell me... do you recognize yourself in any of these situations?

And are you seeing now why what you were doing wasn't working?

So why would a man back away from a woman just because she's being nice, doing him favors, paying him compliments and maybe even being physically affectionate with him?

I'll tell you.

It's because of what you're REALLY communicating with your words and actions.

Because these strategies are coming from a position of FEAR and WEAKNESS, they are saying something about you that you NEVER intended.

Yep. I hate to say it, but they also communicate that you're desperate or needy, even if you never considered yourself that way.

Eeek.

And when a man senses that about you, he doesn't feel that you're someone unique or special. He won't feel that you're someone worth pursuing or thinking about because he'll subconsciously consider you as "lower" in status than he is.

So how do you communicate in a way to let a man know that you're in fact special and rare?

First, you start with some very important mindsets...

THE POWERFUL BELIEFS INSIDE YOU THAT EITHER CREATE ATTRACTION FOR YOU IN A MAN... OR NOT

There are certain "mindsets" that women who are naturally successful in love have that draws men's attention and interest.

These beliefs or "mindsets" trigger a very powerful response in a man. It tells him that this is a woman who is self-assured and knows what she wants and how to get it.

These beliefs also communicate that the woman is "higher status" and thus naturally compel a man to think she's unique and someone worth his time and attention.

In other words, these are the "attitudes" a woman projects that make her irresistible to a man.

It's what a woman is saying without actually saying it at all. She says it with her body language, with the way she carries herself and the way she behaves inside a relationship.

They're BELIEFS because a woman actually believes these to be true about herself and her life.

The reality is that if things haven't been working for you, and you've have some of the same negative patterns going on in your relationships several times... then you can't just "wing it."

At least not if you care about GROWTH and CHANGE in your life towards something better. (such as an amazing and lasting relationship with a great man)

Here are just a few of these beliefs that are at the foundation of what makes some women IRRESISTIBLE to men, without them even having to try:

-"I don't let a man determine what I want/will have in my love-life."

This kind of woman won't "settle" for a man who isn't giving her what she wants and needs,

emotionally. -"I'd move on and leave a man before I'd let him ruin my life."

This woman won't stay in a relationship that's abusive, degrading or morally questionable. She also won't put up with bad behavior from a man. Integrity and trust are important to her, and she lets him know that.

-"I wouldn't keep a man from doing the healthy personal things he enjoys, or come between him and them because of my own fears or limitations."

She knows that her man is an adult who has the right and freedom to make his own choices - and the more she tries to RESTRICT HIM, the less he's going to feel open, free and empowered in being with her and sharing his life in all aspects.

She respects his "freedom" and his need to pursue his goals and dreams.

And that's just for starters...

I'm just skimming the surface of what strategies and attitudes WORK to create intense attraction with a man.

The kind of attraction that guarantees he's not going to "get weird" on you when you let him know how you're feeling, because he'll be feeling the same way.

And he's going to want you to know how much he's "into you" for a change.

Wouldn't it feel great to have the guy you're so attracted to be interested in something meaningful and "real" with you too?

In my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him" I teach you how to develop and amplify certain qualities you ALREADY have that will make a man want to be with you%u2026 and only you.

You'll learn the specific tips, behaviors and strategies for building and keeping a DEEP and intense level of ATTRACTION with a man.

Go here now:
Click Here For Your Free Newsletter And eBook Download

If your "love strategy" hasn't been successful lately, or you're not even clear on what your personal "approach" or strategy is, then it's time to stop feeling bad about yourself and your love life and start creating the FEELINGS in a man that will lay the foundation for the relationship you really want.

It's time to finally do what I know WORKS to attract and keep a man.

I'll talk to you again soon and best of luck in Life and Love,

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

What It Means If He Doesn't Call

Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having an amazing time with doesn't call you very often?

Or worse... stops calling altogether?

If you've ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason...

And you've spent more time than you'd like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong.

Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them...

Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and WHY he's acting this way.

But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he's acting this way wouldn't bring about anything good.

And guess what?

Their intuition is right.

With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.

It's time you learned what it really means if a man isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly "turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one calling and asking you out.

I'll share this with you, but first I want you to read this email I got recently from a reader about this exact kind of situation.

**Question From A Reader**

Hi Christian,

First of all I think you are great and have learned a lot from reading your book. I am divorced and have been dating a widower for about a month. We get together once or twice a week - I don't expect more than that - as he lives about half an hour away from me. Our dates are great and there is a definite physical attraction on both sides. My problem is that in-between dates I don't hear from him. I know that he works hard and is bringing up 3 children on his own - but how long does it take to pick up the phone and ask me how I am? Am I asking too much? Is it too soon to expect anything? I don't want to complain and frighten him off, as I really like him. What do you suggest?

Looking forward to hearing from you R.J. from Illinois

**My Response**

Ok, let me get the facts straight here...

You've been out with a man for an entire month. (Not long at all, and effectively NO TIME in a man's mind)

You've seen each other once or twice a week or so for 3-4 whole weeks. (Not even enough for a man to see you as "dating")

And you know he is busy and raising three young children on his own. (His attention and focus is admittedly elsewhere.)

But in just a few dates you've already become disappointed and "bothered" by the way he's being... and you're wishing he would CHANGE.

DANGER.

This is bad for YOU, and for him.

The approach and mindset you have right now is almost guaranteed to make this man see you as too demanding and "needy" to want to be with you, when it's just a few weeks in.

So I hope you haven't started talking about all your feelings of disappointment with him yet.. because it wouldn't go over well with the way you're looking at things.

But here's the worst part of all this...

You already have my e-Book and you're still asking me for the "easy" answer on this, as though there is some magic pill I can give you that will make a man act the way you want or expect him to be.

I'd like to be able to lie and tell you that I could change a man for you.

But I can't... and you know it.

The truth is, I've only got YOU to work with... and you've only got YOUR OWN thinking and your own behavior that you can use to make a difference.

It's time you started thinking about how you can take RESPONSIBILITY for creating the RESPONSE you want in a man...

Instead of sitting around frustrated that he hasn't met YOUR EXPECTATIONS you have for him. (Especially when he doesn't even know what these are)

You need to open up my e-Book and go to page 32.

On that page, I want you to read the section called "Initial Thoughts" at least twice and think about what's going on there.

I want you to think about the 2 types of people I talk about... and the kind of "magic mindset" that's going to help you naturally start creating great situations in your life.

Then I want you to think about how this relates to the idea of COMMUNICATING with a man in a way that creates ATTRACTION inside of him.

As opposed to communicating with a man in the way that KILLS the attraction he might be feeling for you.

Once you've thought about this, I want you to go to page 36 and read the section on "How To Be Honest About What You Want".

Pay attention here to the 4 important questions you need to ask yourself BEFORE you get involved with a man, or start talking about your relationship with him.

And make sure you learn and understand what I call "a unique habit of happy people".

If you could apply this one simple habit to your love life, I know it would immediately give back to you the kind of understanding and satisfaction you're seeking but not meant to get yet from the man you're dating. (Hint - there's a reason why you and he aren't totally "connecting" yet, and it's NOT all about him)

And by the way, you can download a free trial copy of my e-Book at the link below right now, and be reading it in just a few minutes

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Now, you've also asked a great question in your email...

"Am I asking for too much from him?"

Simply put - YES. You're asking for too much because you shouldn't be ASKING HIM for what you want and then hoping that he "meets your demands".

This is a LOSING APPROACH that will 100% guarantee that a man won't want to give you what you're looking for.

Why?

Well, it's not because you actually are asking for too much.

It's OK to know that you'd like a man in your life who you're involved with to call you more.

But this isn't about whether this is ok for you to ask for.

No. This is all about THE WAY you ask, and the emotions and expectations a man will see that you're holding onto when you open your mouth and you've been going through a whole lot of disappointment and frustration with him... while he's thinking that you've been out on a few fun dates and everything is fine and dandy.

WHY ISN'T HE CALLING MORE?

Here's something you might not have thought about...

Men often communicate and show their feelings in less "direct" ways than simply saying and expressing how the feel.

In fact, most men are a whole lot more conscious of DOING things than they are of how they effect and relate to others on an emotional level.

So... when a man doesn't call, it's often NOT an indication of something else going on in his head that he might want to talk to you about.

Often times it's simply an indication that he doesn't actually FEEL like spending more time around you.

So he simply doesn't call.

In other words, when it comes to men and dating, it's best to look at a man's ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE INDICATION of how they really feel inside.

As a woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why a man isn't calling and what it means about his feelings and your situation.

But, if you're interested in doing more than analyzing and trying to figure out things in your own mind... then it's best to "read" the men you're dating early on by what they DO... and NOT what they SAY.

Which means... a man not calling you often, or at all, is an important signal in of itself.

If a man is spending time with a woman he "likes", but he isn't sure if he would want much more than a few casual dates with her... then here's what he does...

He only calls her every once in a while to keep the "connection" open... making sure not to let the connection die, but also making sure not to spend too much time with a woman or show her too many signs of interest that might indicate he'd want a more serious relationship.

And yes, some men actually think this way and are CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they don't want things to get more serious.

While other men who don't call are usually doing this inadvertently as they're going about their life and not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.

Here's what you need to take away from all this...

If a man isn't calling and you'd like him to call more and to grow in your relationship together, it really doesn't matter WHY.

The only things that matter are if he's not calling because he's not interested in a relationship with you, ever.

Or...

If he's not calling because he's just not feeling "that way" for you, YET.

Which begs the question - how do you get a man feeling "that way" for you if he's not feeling it yet?

Well, for starters, you need to STOP doing the things that will promise that a man WON'T feel it for you.

Things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH.

Or getting upset and hurt that he hasn't called when there's no "relationship" yet, and it's just YOUR EXPECTATION that he SHOULD call more.

Or generally taking on any other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors that will have a man thinking you'd be nothing but a pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a real relationship with you.

What you need to do instead is to start to learn the behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION inside a man.

Why attraction?

Because attraction is the one thing that will "override" all the logical reasons a man has for NOT wanting to get involved with a woman or stay single...

And will take over his "emotional world" and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS with you... instead of his "logical mind" that will often try to RESIST a woman and a real committ

I'd like to tell you a story...

It's a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don't be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.

At first, he was just another attractive man... but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel attracted to him... and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.

But there was one problem.

As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because she couldn't tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.

Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the "friendship" stage.

There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him... and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and invited her "inside" for a little while.

But something was wrong with the picture.

He just wasn't acting like a man who was "falling in love". He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.

And things seemed to be hot and cold. Sometimes he would look at her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.

The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself... and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of "screwing things up" or "scaring him off", by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn't ask her out.

Plus, the more insecure she became, the less time he seemed to want to spend with her.

After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how SHE FELT, that he would feel the same way.

So she made a bold move.

She TOLD HIM how she felt.

She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him.

He responded by flirting with her and he spent some time alone with her, and they even kissed and held each other.

But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn't call her and wasn't really "available" to her.

This only confused the woman more.

She didn't know how to take it...

Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?

Did it mean that he wasn't ready for a long-term relationship?

Did it mean that he didn't love her, and that he was trying to give her a hint?

Did it mean that she hadn't tried hard enough?

Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let him know how she felt?

She finally decided that she couldn't go on like this anymore... she had to be with him.

She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him... so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter... again confessing her feelings.

And then, something unthinkable happened.

Either he didn't reply at all... (Ouch!)

Or he replied and she connected with him on an emotional and physical level for a brief time, but then he backed away.

Then she called him a couple of times, the following week before reaching him.

He made an excuse about being very busy and said, "I'll try to give you a call soon, I have to go"... and hung up... but she never got a call back.

Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong... and what happened.

THE END...

OK, I'm back.

Now, wasn't that a sweet story?

Heartwarming, huh?

I know; I should keep my day job, and not take-up writing romance novels...

Now, let's talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

But I'm not talking about FICTION here.

I'm talking about a story that rings true for lots of women. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level, because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for some women?

Because lots of women have been there in one way or another... at one time or another... and many have been there OFTEN in their lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power, is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs... as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it brings back...

Stories and situations like this one, really FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution.

It lies in understanding a SECRET that lots of WOMEN DON'T GET.

That secret comes down to the reality that if a man isn't ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her attempts to confess her love, convince him to like her and court her, BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON'T WORK; they actually make things WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a woman does to try to make a man LIKE HER, make him NOT like her.

They make him run.

All of those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the woman feeling them, to do things that make the man go away.

It sucks!

But it's a strangely common dynamic, that also takes place inside dating situations and new relationships without women (or men) really being aware of it, and understanding what's going on.

And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you, that I'll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future...

And maybe you can start to understand what's going on a little better, if you think about what it's like when a man you're NOT attracted to, desperately wants your attention, affection and your time.

Have you ever had a guy pursue you?

As he's trying to get your attention, approval and affection, all of his pleading and effort just seems to bug you more and make you want to get away.

Even if all he's doing, is telling you great things about yourself and how he feels about you?

Strange and interesting...

Choices And The Paradox Of Attraction

I'm always fascinated by the idea that we humans don't always understand the message that we're communicating to others...

So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message, that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we're trying to say.

Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy and wears way to much make-up?

Have you ever thought to yourself, "I don't think that her appearance is communicating the message to men that she thinks it is"...?

Yeah, I have too.

Well, here's the deal:

If you do something to "let a man know how you feel" ... but he isn't open to the situation at that time, or he isn't ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to backfire.

It's going to trigger a feeling for the man, that I like to call the "Instant Ewww".

The "Instant Ewww" is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a man feels it, YOU'RE DONE.

It's over.

It's like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

Once a man feels the "Instant Ewww", he'll start behaving differently.

In short, he'll back off or even disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the "Instant Ewww"?

I got it from watching WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word "Ewww", when describing how they felt about a guy that was "confessing his love"... and of course, these were guys that weren't loved in return by the woman.

Men do the same kind of thing with a woman they're not attracted to.

Often they try to be "nice" about it. They let the attention pump up their ego a bit, and then they create what is often an unconscious barrier in their mind, that closes off communication or contact with her.

And the resulting vacuum sound you hear, is what's happening as any ATTRACTION and interest he might have felt, evaporates.

So what causes the "Instant Ewww"?

And why would a man feel it, towards a woman who was trying to be nice... a woman who was giving him attention, a gift or telling him how she feels?

Because if you think about it from HIS perspective, you'll realize that the moment you do something to "confess", you've created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, men know when they are getting some "special attention" from a woman.

And they usually know it from the beginning.

But now that you've started pursuing him and talking about how you feel, you've created a NEGATIVE TENSION that can be VERY uncomfortable.

You've triggered an emotion that can actually repel a man and make him even more detached from his emotions.

Here's the thing...

You can't "make a man like you" or "change how he feels about you", by doing nice things for him.

Doing "nice" things for a man who isn't attracted to you, HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the "Instant Ewww" feeling, that makes it so he'll perhaps NEVER like you.

Men are the worst at this, by the way.

They make this mistake over and over again in life, because they're doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They're doing it, because they don't have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, if you have a friend and you like them, and you want to make them like you more... and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand...

If you have a man that you "like" in a romantic way, and he doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want HIM to like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and he will not only NOT like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you.

Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man... as if that's part of the necessary process of getting a guy.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like him>Tell him you like him>He likes you

Well, remember... if you follow this pattern, yourself, with men who aren't already ATTRACTED to you, then it's going to BACKFIRE.

If he's not into you, then it goes like THIS:

He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you like him>He gets the "Instant Ewwws" and withdraws...

Part 3 Coming Soon!

Oh, in case you're curious... here's an example of one of Christian Carter's "Catch Him and Keep Him" newsletters.

Do you know that if you're thinking, "How to get a guy interested in me?"... you might already be putting yourself in the kind of mental and emotional space that is going to push the man in your life further away from you, instead of helping you as you figure out how to get a guy.

Here's why, and what to do about it that will keep you from ever having to wonder again how to get a guy... and instead naturally inspire that magic emotion called ATTRACTION inside your guy.

What do you think the single biggest turn off is for a man?

Do you know how to get a guy to the place where he's wanting more than just a "casual" and physical relationship with you, and instead asking or begging you for more of your time?

If you don't instantly and intuitively know how to do this with a man, then I want you to think about how this might work with a guy for a moment.

First, let me tell you what I can guarantee and know from experience can and will NEVER WORK for you.

It's becoming a woman who a man feels is NEEDY around him.

Now, I know immature men throw this word and label around about women way too often, so let me clear the air.

When a man senses a woman is acting or feeling needy, no matter how sweet or beautiful or generous that woman might be... a man will suddenly have an emotional "shift" inside and stop feeling any and all ATTRACTION for her. That's not how to get a guy interested or attracted for the long-term.

And the worst part- you don't even have to be a needy woman for a man to feel this way and react this way with you.

If he simply catches a few of the wrong words from you, or a bit of the wrong body language, or senses too many intense emotions he doesn't fully understand but he knows are directed towards him... he'll have his "needy button" triggered.

Words like, "Where were you last weekend?" or "Why didn't you call?"

And what does a man do when this happens?

You got it- he WITHDRAWS, completely.

And this only makes you feel worse.

So how to get a guy and get him thinking about and wanting you?

Let me tell you a little secret about men and how to get a guy-
Secret #1 On How To Get A Guy: Men want a woman who they feel is EASY to make HAPPY

I can't tell you how many women don't get this about how to get a guy and miss the point completely.

Here's the thing...

Men don't often know how to handle your most intense or complex emotions. And they might simply not be in the space at the given time to be able to fully listen and address them.

Of course, men can and should do more to be open and receive what you share about your feelings in a supportive and positive way.

Where trouble starts in relationships for lots of women, and what prevents lots of women from being able to figure out how to get a guy interested in something real... is that when they have their buttons pressed and their emotions run hot. This is not how to get a guy interested in a real and meaningful relationship.

So how to get a guy and STILL express your feelings and desires without turning him off?

For starters, sign up to get my free weekly e-newsletter for women that explains how to get a guy, attract him, and be more successful in dating and relationships by UNDERSTANDING how men think and behave... all from a man's perspective.

I've also created a ton of resources for you that include exact tips on what to say and do and how to get a guy.

You can sign up free and check this out now if you go here:

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Best of luck in Life and Love,
Christian Carter

This time I'm responding to an email I got from a woman who recently bought my ebook.

I think you'll "feel her pain" and see why I wanted to respond to her.

She's going through that dreaded situation I've seen lots of women deal with where she was dating a guy and became "physical" with him, but then he quickly pulled away.

Want to know what's going on with a man in this situation and what he's thinking?

And what to do about it?

Keep reading...

>>>> Question From A Reader

Hi Christian

I've just bought your book.... I'm from Thailand and I appreciated your book so much. Unfortunately, I read the lesson about Thinking in Time Frames where you taught how to let a man wait for sex... but I've already made that mistake and had sex with him. I want a more serious relationship and I told him afterwards, but as you told me he would, he became impatient when we talked and it made me so frustrated and upset.

Now he's acting distant. So, what should I do to rewire our relationship and make him see my worth?

I feel so disappointed about my actions.

Christian, please help me...

Best regards,

J from Thailand

>>>> My Response

I want to give you a big hug... and then a good SLAP.

Ok, listen closely.

I'm about to share something with you that I want you to NEVER, EVER forget.

It's the reality about how most men work when dating.

Ready?

A man will NEVER see your "worth" just because he's having sex with you.

It sucks, but that's the way men act sometimes.

And guess what?

You're dating a man.

So let me be very clear here:

Just because a man has sex with a woman, it doesn't mean that he's spent even a second of his time deciding whether or not he wants to be with her in the future.

Got it?

Ok, good.

Because even though you've already moved on to how you're going to settle down together, he hasn't even decided if he wants to try anything "serious" out with you.

Sure, it would be great if a man let you know this before he slept with you, but that's not reality most of the time.

And I'm willing to bet you played a part in this.

You're not entirely innocent.

Were you up-front and honest about what you were looking for?

Or did your true feelings sneak up on you, freak you out, and then freak him out too?

GIVING AWAY YOUR "SELF" TO A MAN

I've got an important question for you...

Who made this guy the final judge of your "worth" as a woman?

The answer...

You did.

Cut it out.

And I'll bet I know WHY you did it.

I'm going to get a bit "deep" and "spiritual" here with you, all in the name of tough love.

You're seeking his APPROVAL in the worst kind of way.

You're waiting and wanting HIM to show YOU that you deserve the experience of open and unrestrained love.

You're counting on him to be the strong and masculine lover you've always wanted, who will break through the barriers in both of your hearts.

That way you can SURRENDER to the deep kind of love that you truly desire from a man.

Unfortunately, that's not what's happening or how he FEELS with you right now.

But deep down, you believe that if you can come up with enough "proof" that he should love and value you, and if you can make things "perfect" between you two, then he'll become the open and loving man you imagine him to be.

It's time.

It's time for the little girl who's seeking a man's approval in order to experience love to grow up.

It's time for you to stop hoping that a man will become the man you want him to be, when he shows you that he doesn't even have a clue about what love is or how to be with a woman.

But you're so wrapped up in his perspective, what he's doing, his feelings, his emotions and his desires (or lack thereof) that you've all but forgotten about something WAY MORE IMPORTANT.

What YOU really want.

I'll take a wild guess here and bet that the kind of guy that you truly want isn't the kind of guy who would act how this guy is acting.

As in, the kind of guy who would sleep with a woman and then act distant and irritated with her just because she wants to talk about how she's feeling.

So, sorry for asking but...

What the h#ll are you doing!?

You're wasting your energy trying to get the love and approval of someone who acts like a person you don't even want to be with!?

Ok, now that we've verbally smacked you around a little bit, we can move on from what NOT to do, to learning what to do.

LOVE, SEX AND THE MIND OF THE "MASCULINE MAN"

You need a lesson on who a man really is.

There are FASCINATING biological reasons for why men act the way they do.

But the reasons that are the most important for you to understand right now aren't the "scientific" ones.

I'm going to get a tiny bit "out there" right now, but stick with me...

There's a big difference between what I'll call the "masculine" energy and the "feminine" love or energy.

Pay careful attention here.

The feminine energy grows with fullness, praise, connection and love, to allow a kind of "surrender" in all kinds of joyful experiences.

With sex, women surrender to the experience with a man through love and connectionlove and connection, which can make the man and woman as one.

But the masculine energy doesn't work this way. At least not in the "darker" part of a man.

The masculine energy is VERY different.

The masculine energy seeks to break through challenges all alone and arrive at its desire - "emptiness" and "freedom".

Have you ever heard a man talk about how he wanted his "freedom"... and you wondered what the hell he was talking about?

And you could tell that he didn't even really know what he meant by his "freedom".

This "freedom" or emptiness is actually the masculine means of surrender and fulfillment.

Just as the feminine means is connection and loving.

Ever noticed that lots of men fall right to sleep or act like they're off somewhere else after sex?

There are tons of pop-culture references to men doing this in TV, movies, books, etc.

People know that men often behave this way.

It's "conventional wisdom".

But most people don't really know WHY men act this way.

Here's my favorite way of explaining it...

Have you ever thought about why so many men have a strong addiction to watching sports events.

Well, each game is setup in a specific way that draws a man's emotions into the experience.

At the center of each game is a person or a team that rises up to overcome.

It's a kind of trial where a man will break through hardship, competition and challenge.

And when a team or player scores a goal or a touchdown and celebrates, something fascinating takes place.

The man "breaks through" the challenge into "freedom" and the final emptiness of victory.

Then the men will celebrate as though their greatest desires have been fulfilled and cry out as they never have before.

Bizarre and fascinating...

Ok, back to Earth.

How does this relate to dating, sex and love?

With sex, a man doesn't "surrender" to love and connection the way a woman does... unless he learns to.

** And yes, a man can and should learn how to surrender himself with his woman to love **

But instead, men often seek the physical challenge of sex as a goal unto itself, where they can break through to a temporary "freedom" and emptiness.

Whoa... Heavy stuff.

Here's the point, in case you don't like talking in myths and metaphors.

But first, don't go telling this story to the man you're dating or with out of the blue.

He will think you're CRAZY - unless he's the kind of guy that's already on a more spiritual kind of "path".

This is for YOU to know and to work with.

So back to you....

Notice that in physical experiences with women, or in life for that matter, most men don't have the same strong drive to be deeply and unwaveringly CONNECTED to the people around them like most healthy women do.

Often times, they're driven by something that has nothing to do with love, intimacy and connection.

Yeah, I know. Men are CRAZY and messed up and different.

But men don't have to be bizarre and strange this way if they LEARN and become AWARE.

Or...

If they have a woman who gets it, she can lead and challenge him into finding freedom through love and connected experience, not through empty physical experience and isolation.

LET'S TIE IT ALL TOGETHER

Here's the thing...

A man will NEVER see you exactly the way you want him to see you, or value you exactly the way you know you should be valued, if... you're doing things just to seek and win his love and APPROVAL.

Yes, you might have "goofed" by being physical with him too early.

But stop being so hard on yourself. It's the past, and it's not the problem now.

The real problem now is something entirely different.

Sleeping or being physical with a man is NOT a bad thing.

Trust me. wink, wink.

But you've got to create the right feelings within him before and during the experience of being together for it to truly bring you closer in love.

Sorry, but just being there isn't going to do it and reach a man's heart.

Wow, I just realized... men are actually so high-maintenance.

Anyways...

So you want to know how to "re-wire" things?

Here's what to do first:

Stop wanting the fact that you've had sex to magically win him over into being an open and loving partner like you are.

Then go back and read the section in my book inside Chapter 8 called "Triggering A Deeper Level Of Attraction In A Man".

What you need to know is there.

(and read, re-read and put it to use this time!)

But let's keep going and I'll touch on a few of the same points that are in there.

Ever thought about what a man really wants in a woman to date or fall in love with?

I'm talking about mature, healthy men here.

** They want someone that they WANT **

They want to WANT a woman, to worship her, to please her, to ravish her, and to sweep her off her feet with their physical and emotional presence.

And for the woman to be utterly and completely taken with them and what they do.

I'm sure you've seen or heard this kind of male fairy tale before.

So why don't men just act this way with women if this is what they want?

Ahhh... welcome to dating.

Because most women don't create the experience that will make a man FEEL this way.

So here's a "center-piece" of the puzzle...

I call it the "Pursuit Gene".

There's a drive in men that makes them want to be CHALLENGED... and to overcome that challenge.

I know it sounds cliché, but it's true.

Remember the "spiritual" story from earlier?

Men want to be challenged by the idea of meeting, attracting, and pursuing a woman.

And then they want to win the woman over and feel stronger as a man for having done it.

Men deal with this in one of two ways:

1. They find more "freedom" and emptiness by physically being with a woman in the short term

2. They find connection and love by physically AND emotionally being with the woman in a deeper and "longer-term" way

Here's the AMAZING part...

A woman helps him choose which it will be with her.

Interesting...

The point is, men LOVE the chase.

Some men might tell you that they don't.

They do.

Men love the chase and the challenge not in their "logical" minds, but down where it counts.

They love it in their FEELINGS and EMOTIONS.

It's part of their genetic make-up.

But if a woman loses control emotionally, seeks HIS APPROVAL or thinks she can trade sex to receive love before a man's experiencing an intense desire to WIN HER OVER and to be with her, then something bad happens.

The man loses that feeling of excitement and challenge with her.

He recognizes that the woman has already given over physical and emotional CONTROL to him.

Which destroys the strongest "lead-in" to creating lasting love with a man.

It's just one simple word.

ATTRACTION.

Men want to feel ATTRACTION.

And I don't mean that they want to talk about it or analyze it so that it makes "sense".

They don't want to listen to what a woman tells them is going on and then come to accept and understand how and why they should be in love.

No. That's not how men work.

Instead, they want to FEEL their desire for a woman inside their whole body, emotionally driving them, and for it to be undeniable and unrelenting.

Get where I'm going here?

If you don't make a man FEEL ATTRACTION for you and trigger the emotional desire deep inside him to win you over and be with you for the long term, then there's no amount of talking, sharing, or SEX that can change his mind.

In my ebook "Catch Him & Keep Him" I talk about the VERY BEST ways to create great experiences and situations with men.

Experiences and situations that will make a man respond to a woman with INTENSE DESIRE and ATTRACTION.

And not just in the "empty" physical sense, but instead with more deeply connected feelings.

Chapter 9 of the book is titled "From Casual To Committed - Communication Secrets with Men & New Relationships".

In it are some of my very best ideas on how to build the right "emotional environment" for a man to feel addicted to the love, connection and attraction you share.

He'll wonder why he didn't find you and figure out how to be in love sooner.

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Thanks and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

I'm about to share a SECRET with you about how to easily and effortlessly bring MORE ROMANCE back into your relationship.

Wouldn't it be great if, without asking for it... the man in your life just wanted to do the things that make you feel the most loved and appreciated?

Keep reading to discover how to create this great situation for yourself and the man in your life.

What I'm going to share with you about men and what grabs a man's deeper interests and attention is probably going to surprise you.

Let's start here...

Did you know that there's ONE SIMPLE THING you can do with a man to "spark" the passionate, curious, and loving side of him with you?

The thing is... I've spent years studying all the things that lead up to and help create a real, loving, lasting relationship between a man and a woman.

I've observed at hundreds, even thousands of couples, and taken a look at what the things are that draw a good man into that loving and COMMITTED place in his heart and mind with the right woman.

And I've seen what women want and need to feel safe, secure, and happy with a man on a physical and EMOTIONAL level... and how a women can best ask for and share these things with a man.

And with all this... there's one thing I always come back to as one of the most important ideas because I hear about it everyday from women I know or who email me:

Most women feel very uncomfortable in that UNCERTAIN stage where they're getting to know a man and opening up to him, but there's no real "commitment" yet.

And moving from this kind of "casual" thing, to figuring out how to arrive in a committed relationship with a man can be the most emotionally difficult, vulnerable, and "dangerous" stage for a woman.

I'm sure you know this TRANSITION STAGE I'm talking about... where you've been dating a guy for a few weeks or months and getting to know all kinds of great things about him.

And then one day you realize that, without even knowing how it happened or choosing to do so, you are DEEPLY ATTACHED to this man on an EMOTIONAL level... and it's no longer some casual thing for you where you're "dating" this guy.

Suddenly this man is everything to you.

It's this moment in the relationship where you realize that something needs to happen, and something needs to CHANGE in order for you to feel 100% secure and happy.

At the very least you need to PROTECT YOURSELF and know where he sees this going and if you should leave your heart open to him.

If you take a moment to think about it, this moment is where all the RISK is... because it's where your relationship will either come together and grow, or fall apart.

Not coincidentally, it's during this risky and uncertain time between a man and a woman where "the wheels come off" for lots of women and they do and say things that not only DON'T HELP create the relationship they want... but make things unravel.

Well, that's what I want to talk to you about.

There's one simple idea or "strategy" I'm going to share with you that is the single most powerful and effective way FAST FORWARD to a better place in your love-life... no matter where you're at.

A place where you'll feel much more comfortable, secure, and "in control" of where your heart ends up... and therefore you'll have an easier time doing the positive and "opening" things that will create the relationship you want with a man.

Plus, as an added benefit, this strategy will lead you to "naturally" avoid the common mistakes so many other women make when it comes to getting more love, more passion and more fulfillment out of their relationships and life.

So here we go.

First, I'm going to show you the biggest mistake you're probably making right now if you're trying to turn around your relationship...

This mistake is an entire "stategy" itself that women use UNCONSCIOUSLY with the man in their life.

I want to help make sure you avoid this failed strategy - as it only has you WORKING HARDER to PUSH A MAN AWAY.

THE "I'LL TEACH HIM TO LOVE ME" LOVE STRATEGY

Let me ask you an important question...

Have you ever noticed yourself trying to teach a man how to love and be with you, and how to have a "real" relationship?

You know what I'm talking about.

If you're like lots of women, then you do this when the guy you're with starts to take you for granted after the initial "honeymoon" phase is over.

That "magic spark" starts to feel like it's fading, and it seems like your man just doesn't think about what it is you want, or how a relationship is supposed to keep growing and stay alive and well.

So you sit down one night and talk to him about it. You give him examples of the kinds of things he USED to do that he hasn't done in a long time.

Like plan special dates, buy you flowers, have deep, long talks into the night...

The next day you get a dozen roses delivered to your desk, and they're from him.

Ok. That's nice... but c'mon.

Getting that bouquet of roses delivered to your office doesn't really feel so spectacular if you JUST had a discussion the night before about how you wish he were more ROMANTIC... and how you miss the little surprises.

It's like you had placed an order, and he delivered on it.

Not much romance here, huh?

And for some funny weird reason, getting what you wanted doesn't feel the same since you had to ask for it.

It's like the magic is gone, right?

I've felt this one myself as a man.

I get it.

As a woman, here's the important thing to think about and notice about what you usually do with a man...

How do you go about showing a man how to be a better lover and partner to you if he doesn't "get it" on his own?

And how do you do this without having to spell it out for him and ruining the good feelings that come from "unexpected" and more genuine gestures?

Here's the "usual" approach I see women take.

They end up trying to teach men who don't get it the absolute basics about loving, being a good partner and about how to have a good relationship.

To show you exactly what I'm talking about, I'll tell you a short story.

It goes like this:

A man and woman have been seeing each other for while and they've both grown pretty close.

Things are starting to slowly get "serious". It feels comfortable and natural.

But there's something else going on for the woman here...

Something that she hasn't mentioned, but it's bugging her and lurking in the back of her mind.

She's never really had "the talk" or anything like it with her guy, so she's NOT EXACTLY SURE where things are at and what everything means.

And as her feelings are growing she's starting to feel something awful inside-

She's starting to feel VULNERABLE and UNCERTAIN.

Not knowing exactly what's happening in the guy's mind, and him not talking or expressing his feelings is seriously starting to drive her CRAZY.

Her unconscious fears start to take over.

That easy and ever-present attraction, magnetism and connection isn't there like it used to be.

In fact, the guy is starting to withdraw and she picks up on all kinds of weird feelings and behaviors that she didn't see in him before when things were fun, easy and "new" together.

He spends a lot of time on his own hobbies and activities without inviting her along or planning something they can do TOGETHER%u2026

He seems constantly preoccupied with work or other concerns and not so interested in those deep, revealing conversations they used to have%u2026

And worst of all, lately they've been having more disagreements than "connections."

He doesn't say "I love you" quite as much and generally isn't as physically affectionate as he used to be.

And now she's not sure what to do or how to get things back to how things were.

So she comes up with an idea-

She wants to be the one that leads him to understand that they DESERVE BETTER, and that they can have a beautiful love-life together if he listens to her, chooses her and commits to making it work.

So she thinks that if she could just have the chance to really TELL HIM how she FEELS ABOUT HIM that he'd see the light, understand where things are going wrong, and he'd come running into her arms.

She becomes more physically affectionate toward HIM, almost as if by touching and caressing him she will elicit some sort of "love response."

She tries to talk to him about how he's feeling or if he's unhappy and why. She works hard on being understanding and "open".

By doing all this, she hopes to be able to teach him how to give and receive love, and give him everything he's always wanted in a woman so they'd be happy and in love.

End of story.

So tell me, how do you think the story turned out for the woman?

Did her man see the light?

Did they live happily ever after?

I want you to think about this story and see how it applies to your own life.

Are you starting to see some similarities?

Good, now let's talk about it...

UNDERSTANDING MALE PSYCHOLOGY AND WHAT TO DO INSTEAD OF USING THE "I'LL TEACH HIM TO LOVE ME" LOVE STRATEGY...

The reason I know this scenario about trying to teach somehow how to be with you so well is because I've LIVED IT several times in my life in relationships with women.

I'm in recovery from "I'll Teach Her To Love Me" relationship addiction.

And, as bizarre as it seems now, I only ended up doing this and acting this way with the women who WEREN'T really the right ones for me, or who weren't able to show up for the kind of connection and relationship I was looking for.

But that didn't keep me from trying to fit them into the "ideal" I had in my head of who I wanted them to be...

Because of the intense feelings I was having in the relationship, I was wrapped up in these women and all the details of our life together.

I wanted to share love with them, and I wanted to show them that there was a better way to share love and to be in a relationship.

But the reality turned out to be that there was little about the dynamics of our relationship that really and truly worked FOR ME.

In fact, I was wasting my time and energy.

And now, looking back, it's crystal clear what was going on-

The real trouble in these situations was that the ATTRACTION and the CONNECTION I was feeling seriously distorted what I could see, and distracted me from insisting upon what I was really after and what I valued in a relationship.

My FEELINGS, and needing to be with my partner NOW were much more important than having THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP I truly wanted.

And I was willing to trade my time, my energy, and my affections to try and make the woman I was with start acting like the right one for me so our relationship could "work."

Instead of seeing my partner for who they were, I was constantly comparing them to who I wanted them to be, and I kept trying harder and hadred to change who they were and the way they acted.

Not fun... for everyone involved.

Since I've been to this place in a relationship myself, it's been easier for me recognize women doing this same kind thing all the time with men.

And man-oh-man... do lots of women do it, on lots of different levels.

Does any of this sound familiar?

What's going on here?

It's simple really.

When someone is drifting away from us, or acting distant and in an unloving way... our first reaction is to TIGHTEN OUR GRIP on them and pull them towards us even harder.

We try harder by wanting to talk to them more about what they're not doing right.

We get more intense and more frustrated each time we don't see or receive the things we want from them.

And we become frustrated and upset at the drop of a hat because there's so much building up inside of us.

And we do all this without even realizing that we're doing it... and the negative effect it starts to have on us AND on the person we are with.

If you care about creating a better situation for yourself (a better relationship where a man LISTENS and RESPONDS) then you have to simply STOP this kind of TENSION BUILDING.

You have to STOP TIGHTENING YOUR GRIP and start seeing things for what they are.

Then... once you can do this, then you can finally be in the right place to get the RESULTS that you want. (getting back the closeness)

And do to this, it usually takes doing something completely different.

Something COUNTERINTUITIVE.

No, it's NOT by addressing the issues, fears and shortcomings YOU FEEL and talking it through and trying to get your partner to change for you.

This may seem like the "logical" thing to do, but it rarely WORKS the way we want it to.

Here's where that secret strategy comes in that I was talking about earlier.

Are you ready?

So what should you do instead if you've been doing the guaranteed to fail "I'll Make Him Love Me" strategy?

First, STOP TRYING.

Stop trying to show a man what he needs to do.

Stop trying to show a man how to be different.

And stop trying to let a man know how he should think and feel.

This approach simply DOES NOT WORK.

Let me explain something that's important for you to know...

There are two different choices you can make when figuring out how to live your life and going about creating the things that will make you happy:

Choice #1: You can have an EXTERNAL frame or reference for your needs, goals, fulfillment, emotions and direction.

Here you focus on what OTHER PEOPLE are thinking and doing, and you most often follow the path that other people lay out before you as your own.

Choice #2: You can have an INTERNAL frame of reference for all the most important things in your life.

In other words, YOU who decide what you want, how you're going to feel, what you're going to accept and what you're not going to put up with from other people.

Here you're going in the direction of what you want and what you're after, and other people are free to join you on your path.

So what's YOUR frame of reference?

Internal of external?

After talking to women and observing and getting to know a bit about their "inner psychology", I've found some common links.

The women that I see that are happiest and in healthy, mature relationships with men are women that use their own internal frame of reference as their "emotional compass".

In other words, they have a direction and a path that they're on, and NO MATTER WHAT a man is doing, they keep moving in the direction of what THEY WANT.

How many women do you know who have taken "detours" for years with men who didn't really want what they wanted?

But the most important part here isn't the most obvious.

Because these women have an internal "compass", they DON'T do something lots of other women do...

They NEVER let a man's emotional problems, issues or shortcomings become THEIR responsibility and burden.

Sure, they can love and support a man, but it doesn't become their problem in life that they're trying to solve FOR HIM.

They realize the boundaries of the situation, and that it's ONLY the man's choice to figure it out for himself or not.

Here's where I'm going with all of this...

If you stop trying to make things the way you want them to be with a man, and start doing the things that lead him with your own "compass", you'll "naturally" start creating the situations you want with THE RIGHT MAN.

I've literally seen men go from FLAKEY and RELUCTANT with the woman in their lives to ATTENTIVE and DESIRING of a more committed and serious relationship almost entirely because the woman made the critical shift to her own frame of reference with her thinking and behavior... and stopped living in "his world" by getting upset, frustrated and freaked out at him.

Instead of WAITING for a man to give them the things that they wanted the way they used to, these women changed the situation by changing how they RESPONDED to what wasn't working.

If they felt unhappy about their life, they got a new job, went back to school, made some new friends, trained for a marathon, etc.

They didn't sit around waiting for the man to fulfill them as a person%u2026

And they certainly didn't focus on making their relationship more fulfilling in hopes that it would make them FEEL BETTER about their life.

And it's at this point that something powerful happens in the process-

The woman begins to see that she's the one teaching the man how to think about her as a woman and as a lover or girlfriend.

Read that again. It's important.

You, and only you, are the one who teaches a man how to treat you.

So let me be absolutely clear...

Worrying about why a man acts the way he does and trying to "fix" anything about him in order to make yourself feel better is a WASTE OF TIME.

There's something I call the "Relationship Balance" that I talk about in depth in my e-book.

It's the foundation for what I teach women and how I help them see how things really work with men when it comes to dating, love, attraction and relationships.

I talk about the important idea of what I call the "Relationship Balance" to spell out a detailed "how-to" approach that will lead you and a man to an amazingly affectionate and loving place together.

Where even the most intense situations and conflicts can come and go without creating uncertainty and distance in your relationship.

This is how a real, lasting, SECURE relationship is supposed to be - in case you've forgotten, or you haven't experienced this with a man yet.

If you haven't been able to create that kind of stable, loving, lasting relationship with a man that has a natural "balance" of fun, love, affection and healthy communication and boundaries, then it's probably time you took a look at YOUR APPROACH to relationships.

Even not thinking you have an "approach" is still an approach (and one that doesn't work well at all!)

Of course, my eBook also explains the common mistakes and "failed approached" most women make (such as the one I mentioned earlier)... and in my eBook I show you in detail why these mistakes and approaches will NEVER work, what to do if you've made any of them... and what to START DOING instead that will bring the right man and the right relationship to you.

So stop wondering why things aren't working, even though you want so much to share love and a great relationship.

The DESIRE for these is unfortunately not enough to make a great relationship with a man come together and last.

Go to the link below to get yourself on the right path, with the right "skills" that are proven to help you grow the kind of relationship you are really looking for with a man.

I'll be "letting the cat out of the bag" with what lots of men REALLY think and feel when it comes to lasting love and relationships.

And why they're so often afraid of it, or just bad at being in one.

But, let me ask you something first:

Have you ever been in love?

I'm not talking about the "obsessive-psycho- can't-stop-calling-him-jealous-of-his-girlfriend- think-you're-getting-married-and-he-barely-knows- your-name" love.

Sorry, you're on your own there...lol

There's a term for that - a "bunny-boiler", like in that movie Fatal Attraction.

No, that's NOT the love I'm talking about.

I'm talking about the kind of love where you and a man connect and feel for each other on such a deep level that it's shared in all kinds of generous and intense ways.

And did you know there's a secret to love?

A secret that can help a man get rid of his fears of commitment and turn around his inability to share his affection and deeper feelings with you?

Well, there is.

I'll get to exactly what the secret is later in this email.

But think about this...

The reality is, most people have no real-world idea of how love is encouraged, begins, evolves, and sometimes fades away.

We just know how it makes us feel and that we really want it.

I might sound cynical, but I think that how most people react to the other person in their love life is more like an "emotional stop light" than anything else.

Stop. (red)

Slow down or speed up. (yellow)

Go. (green)

But our feelings, motivations and "inner- psychology" aren't wired this way.

When it comes to love and its complex effect on our mind and body, there's a whole lot more to it.

So using the behavioral and emotional equivalent of a stop light isn't going to cut it when you're looking to create a loving and lasting situation.

Here's where I'm going with this...

If you take the time to learn about what love actually is to our minds and bodies, and more specifically how men perceive and experience love, then your odds of success (happiness and fulfillment) go WAY up.

So let's get started.

THE MAGIC OF THE "HONEYMOON STAGE"

There are a few stages to love.

The first, and by far the favorite, is the honeymoon stage we all know about.

As I see it, the honeymoon stage is basically 50 to 100 times LESS important than any other stage because it's where all relationships start and thrive.

But a majority of relationships start falling apart or end once the honeymoon is over.

For lots of couples, love starts out as an intense "can't-be-apart-stay-up-all-night- talking-and-touching" experience.

When you're in love, you probably think about the guy ALL the time and want to spend every possible moment with him.

And you and your guy share an intense connection.

The chemistry is so thick you could cut it with a knife.

And the world, people, colors, smells... everything seems brighter.

The attraction level is unbelievable.

The honeymoon stage does some crazy things to your body too.

Here are a few of the "Love Symptoms" that come with these chemicals in the honeymoon stage:

- heightened awareness (your senses) - reduced appetite - increased heart rate - increased energy level - an increase in your sex drive - feelings of euphoria (intense happiness) Actually, I'm kinda feeling this way right now after my third cup of coffee here at Starbucks.

Anyway...

So that's the first stage of love we all know about, want to be in, and want to keep going.

It's no wonder that the honeymoon stage is often the easy part.

But there's a simple and unpleasant fact about the honeymoon stage...

If you don't know what's going on with a man in each stage of love, and what you're doing and how he perceives it, all the great parts of the honeymoon stage won't last forever.

WHAT MEN THINK ONCE THE HONEYMOON IS OVER

I get emails everyday from women wanting to know how they can "get back" to where things were when things started with a man.

They remember how things used to be and wonder why they can't be that way now.

So they ask themselves...

"Why is he so distant?"

"Why doesn't he share his feelings anymore?"

"Why don't I feel close to him, and why am I not getting my emotional and other needs met like I used to?"

So why is this so common to so many women?

I've recognized what a big part of it is.

CHANGE.

When things are good, or more to the point, comfortable or predictable in our lives, we DON'T like the idea of change... at all.

In any relationship, after the initial attraction, mystery, intrigue, etc. passes and the honeymoon slows, guess what?

Things start to change inside a relationship.

Whether you like it, or not.

And both the man and the woman are responsible to know how to see it, think about it and deal with it.

And here's where TONS of women run into a whole set of COUNTERPRODUCTIVE thoughts and SELF- DESTRUCTIVE behaviors.

They get caught up in an almost hopeless battle to try and prolong the honeymoon stage and the ease by which they could connect and share with the man.

Especially when they don't see that the man is noticing or making the same efforts that they are.

This usually shows up with things like the following (tell me if any of these sound familiar?):

* Noticing that a man isn't as attentive or affectionate anymore, so you pull back to see if he'll notice and close the gap, but he doesn't and so you withdraw, leaving nothing but distance between the two of you

* Trying to CONVINCE a man to FEEL some way or act some way he used to or you want him to, which of course doesn't work because you can't "logically" make someone FEEL an EMOTION, and it all ends up backfiring as he sees you as needy or "nagging" and pulls away more

* You start "trading" him for the normal caring things any couple should do for each other. You only act open or affectionate if he does something first. You only initiate things physically if he does something first, etc. The list goes on...

Recognize anything here?

Well, unfortunately, these common behaviors actually work as a special high-grade form of "man-repellent" in a relationship.

When men sense the emotionally uneasy feeling these create, they most often do one thing with a woman...

WITHDRAW.

And they start their own weird emotional versions of the same kinds of destructive and distance-creating behaviors.

The truth is, every woman is going to go through situations that are going to make her want to react in these COUNTERPRODUCTIVE ways.

But there is a better way...