Your Cheating Unfaithful Man

This is usually the first stage of the infidelity grieving process. You have a stinking suspicion. You can't really put your finger on it, but you know that something is not quite right. You didn't find any lipstick on his collar or any numbers in his pockets, but something is off. You then wonder if your man is just like all of the other
cheating men in the world.

Maybe its the way that he looks off into space when you are talking. Maybe it is because he does not tell you that he loves you anymore. He used to tell you this everyday. Or, maybe it is the way that he seems to find fault with many of the things that you do. You never imagined in a million years that you would have a
cheating partner or cheating spouse.

What do you do at this point? Well, you can't do anything until you have more to go on. The only thing that you can do is determine if there are any patterns. Then wait.

Okay, you are denying that you have a cheating man. You see the changes that are taking place, but you are too grief stricken or in shock to act upon them. As far as your lives together, every thing is normal. He goes to work. He comes home. He plays with the kids. You have great sex at night. But you know that things are not right. You see the slight adjustments in his behaviour, but you choose to ignore them.

What about tonight at the restaurant? All men look at other women. Right? In the past, he never would have looked at another woman that way while in your presence. He knows how much that upsets you. He knew that you were going to rip him a new one when you got home. In addition, he knew how this would impact your sex lives.

Wait a minute! Did he just try to look at that woman's butt? Yeah, this is really disrespectful. But, you keep telling your self that he isn't cheating because he comes home to you everynight. You keep making yourself believe that he would end the relationship before cheating on you. You refuse to believe that you have a cheating unfaithful man. You are in denial. You ignore his cheating.

So why did he do it? Could it be because he is so used to behaving like this when he is alone that he forgot that he was with you? Could it be because he didn't care how you would feel because he has already gotten his daily supply of sex.....from someone else? Something is up, but you choose not to process the facts. The possibilities hurt too much. What do you do instead? You suffer in silence.

Okay, you need to do a little snooping and prove that he is a cheater. He is really starting to make you mad as hell. His behavior is becoming more and more disrepectful. To make matters worst, he is trying to make you think that it is all in your head. He told you that he had to work late, but when you called the office, he had already left for the night. Where did he go? Who was he with? Why is he lying? Most importantly, why is he still trying to have sex with you when he gets home? This is driving you crazy.

You must prove that he is a cheating unfaithful man. Doing so would be the beginning of regaining your sanity. You really need to do this! You start checking his cell phone messages. You analyze his cell phone statements. You check his emails. You start showing up at the office unexpectantly. You do all of these things in order to catch him in his game.

There's a slight catch. He's on to you. He's one step ahead of you. He erases his cell phone messages. He creates an online account and password to get his cell phones bills.......just so you can't see his paper statements. This is serious stuff. What are you going to do at this point? These cat and mouse games are driving you crazy. You still do not have hard solid evidence.

He is able to give a flimsy excuse for every incriminating action that you accuse him of doing. You are having a hard time proving that he is a cheating unfaithful man.What are you going to do? Catch A Cheater!

That joker's cheating on you.

You found the proof yourself. He thought that he could get away with his cheating by applying the "fifty miles from home rule." Big Dummy! Technology conquers mileage! You caught him red handed.

Well, not exactly. You kept getting more and more information. You kept catching him in his inflated lies. Quite honestly, he told so many of them that he could no longer keep them straight. He got crossed up in one of his lies. Since you were questioning him every night in detail, he could no longer keep up. You nailed him. Your detective work was so well crafted that you almost felt sorry for him. Not!

Finally! You caught him! It feels great! Right? No? You got so caught up in the fact that you finally won the fight, that you forgot about what the outcome of the battle would mean. Betrayal! Lack of Trust! Self Doubt! Your husband, the father of your children, is a lying SOB.

Wow! You have confirmed that you have a cheating unfaithful man. Hooray?
Well, now you know! At least now you are further along in overcoming the grief of cheating. You can start laying the foundation for your healing process.

You decide not to do anything about your cheating unfaithful man. You relapse. You're back at step three again. You have gone through the cat and mouse games. You got proof that he was a cheater, but you still continue to stay with him. You choose to ignore your man's cheating. You have your reasons.

You know he is a cheater. Your friends know that he is a cheater. Your family knows that he is a cheater. You rationalize by saying things like " I would much rather be the wife that is being cheated on than the mistress. Men never leave their wives." No, they usually don't. But, that does not mean that their wives are happy. Basically, you have given up. You think that you do not have any other options. However, you are wrong. Take action! You will continue to play the cat and mouse games if you don't take action and make a change. You deserve better.

Only you can decide what is best for you. However, if you do decide to stay, just make sure that it is for the right reasons. But most importantly, do not let him think that he has gotten away with something and can continue to do this in the future. Both you and he have to acknowledge that something terribly wrong has happened. However, he won't own up to it unless you acknowledge and accept it.

You have decided to forgive your cheating unfaithful man. Everyone deserves a second chance. Right? You are the only one that can make this decision. You can talk to friends and family, but you have to do what is best for you. Can you trust your cheater again?

After repeated discussions, broken windshields and marriage counseling, you have decided that you are going to give your cheating unfaithful man just one more chance. You realize that he loves you, but thinks with the lower parts of his anatomy. He is a good provider. The two of you have managed to build a very good life together, despite his cheating. You actually would like to try saving your marriage and possibly get over his cheating.

Oh hell, you basically don't want to start all over again. That's fine. Just make sure that he understands that he has been given a reprieve and that the warden is on the yard.

You caught him. You can't stomach the fact that he cheated on you. He has broken your trust. You want your cheating unfaithful man out of your life for good. He has to pack his bags.

You have decided to get over his affair while living on your own. There are no second chances!

You've made your decision. The relationship is over. He has to leave...like yesterday! You gave him the best years of your life, but your cheating unfaithful man disrespected you by cheating with a woman who isn't even in the same league as you." You are nothing like this woman. What was he thinking? Well, not "all" of him was actually thinking.

Get mad! Throw him out! You will feel better in about 6 months. You are almost at the end of the infidelity grieving process. You are closer to finally getting rid of all your unnecessary anger, stress and pain.

You are in the final stages of the infidelity grieving process. You have experienced about 95% of the different emotions that are associated with cheating. You suspected that your man was cheating. You were in denial for a while. You snooped around for hard proof and finally confirmed that he was cheating. You then made the decision to either forgive him, leave him or relapse and do nothing.

Either way, it is time to move on with your life. It is time to let the healing process begin. Surprisingly enough a woman will heal faster if she decides to forgive her cheating unfaithful man. I know! You think that this is the craziest thing that you have ever heard. But think about it. He cheats. You battle. You talk. You find out what made him cheat and why? It makes the relationship stronger. However, if you leave him, there are still so many unanswered questions. You end up taking these unresolved feelings into the next relationship. You next man has to deal with your unresolved baggage. That is not fair! You should forgive your cheating man, but don't forget.

Contrary to belief, you don't have to stay with your cheating unfaithful man in order to forgive him. If you choose to stay with your cheater, forgive him and learn how to build a stronger relationship. However, if you decide to end the relationship, unload that heavy weight from your heart and forgive him before you decide to walk out of the door. You will be in a better place mentally, physically and spiritually if you do.

Even if you can't forgive him until months or years later, you will not complete the infidelity grieving process until you do so. You have to find a way to let go of all of the anger. This is the only way to heal and move on with your life.

Yeah, your cheating unfaithful man hurt you deeply. You are still healing from cheating. It will hurt for a long time. But, this too will pass. You know they say that "Time heals all pain." Don't you hate that saying? Who made it up? I bet it was created as an excuse by a cheating unfaithful man.

Thank You!