Child Support Not Spent On Kids

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The Problem

A common complaint by fathers paying child support is that the money they are paying is not being spent of the child(ren). Unfortunately, there are a number of factors they tend to forget, such as housing and related costs. However, in denying the claim, mothers make a number of false presumptions, like that the father is the only parent obligated to to support the child(ren). The custodial parent is also obligated to spend a percentage of the income on the child(ren).

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Trust Fund

When Child Support is calculated, there is a presumption, and a requirement in many states, that the primary residential parent will spend a percentage of their income on the child(ren). In most states, the incomes of both parents are included in calculating the child support amount.

From this total the child support amount is taken from the guidelines. Added to this is the cost day care, medical insurance, etc. At this point, the income of each parent is divided by the total income of both. This shows what percentage a parent's income is of the total.

Example From Actual Case


Mother

$

30,000


Father

$

86,000


Total

$

106,000



In this example, the father (obligor) owes 81% of the total obligation or roughly $21,600 a year (based on average percentage) in support of one child, but the mother (obligee) is also obligated to spend $7500 a year on the child, for a total of $29,100, or $2425 a month.

The problem is in over 90% of the cases, only the Obligor is required to prove the payment of the child support. When the income of either parent increases, their obligation increases, but the child support laws obligate that the child only clearly benefits from the increase of the obligor's income. The obligee is under no requirement to spend more on the child.

By having both parents paying into a trust fund, the custodial parent than provides the fund with proof that the money is being spent on the child, such as a percentage of rent, utilities, food, etc. In addition, the cost of necessities, such as clothing, shoes, and other expenses exclusive to the child, with receipts and clothing tags or proof of purchase cut from the package, would be submitted.

All this follows in accordance with Federal Laws dating back 100 years as regards Trust Funds that have been established for Guardians to draw from when parents have been killed, such as in an accident. Also in cases involving child stars (The Coogan Act-1939) where the law is designed to prevent their parents from spending the money for their own uses.

Any money left in the account would than collect interest and be available for emergencies, or special expenses, such as part of the cost of a car for a teenager, or a college education. If is not used up on the child, then it can be distribute to them at age 25.

Using this method would mean the child is getting full advantage of the support owed by both the parents, and not just one parent.

Debate

In cases of substantial Child Support awards, should the money BOTH parents are obligated to spend on the children, go into a Trust Fund?

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Yes, this would be the best in benefiting the children and seeing to it that money is spent on them.

Anthony W. says:

I've noticed that in high end child support cases where large sums of money is concerned, accountability of the spending of this money is highly rated. However, accountability on all the others cases is rated real low. In both cases accountability is still present. Even more so , both parents are accountable for paying and spending. I also find it puzzling that NCP's can't catch some sort of tax break for paying child support but CP's can list child support as income for loan processes. I think for the best interest of the child(ren), moral integrity and not legislative codes is highly needed.

Magickal_Mysts says:

Being a mother paying child support on children, it is hard to see the parent receiving the CS spending it on prescription drugs to sell and not keeping food in the house or clothes for the children being supported. Yet, he was able to go to the state and tell them that I was behind on payments so that I couldn't give it to the children for food and clothes. now the state takes a garnishment from me for him and he can go gamble or buy the pills he wants to sell to support his habits. While my youngest daughter doesn't have new clothes for school or food in the house to eat. I just wish it would go to the children.

Tim says:

i sent three years having my support being the only income in her house for her,my daughter and her three eithier grown kids by othier men. alot of women see it as a free pay check.

Jeffrey says:

Definately. Child support is for the child, NOT the mother.

No, this would create an undue obligation and stress on the parent receiving the money, so they should not be required to account for the money.

DedicatedMom says:

What seems to have been left out of the equation here is the fact that, as a custodial parent, I spend a much larger portion of my time caring for the child than the non-custodial parent. That leaves me with less personal freedom, less time to pursue education & additional income sources, and much more of the overall responsibility of raising a happy & healthy child. I agree that in cases where the responsibility is more equally divided that close scrutiny of the finances may make more sense, but that is much rarer than is being argued here. In my own situation, the non-custodial parent lives 4 states away and sees his son for approximately 6 weeks out of the year. I am the one that wakes him, bathes him, feeds him, clothes him, does homework, disciplines him, loves on him, etc. My entire life revolves around the care and education of my son and frankly I do not have the time, or the inclination, to track my finances under a microscope so that his father can rest assure that his measly $400 is not being misspent. I would assume that there are more custodial parents in my situation, who have picked up the slack for parents that choose to not take a consistent role in the raising of their child, than who are dealing with drug addict, gambling child support recipients. Frankly, if the custodial parent of your child is spending the child support money on drugs, gambling, and neglecting the child to satisfy their spending whims, and your biggest concern is your child support and not rescuing the child from that situation, you have much bigger issues than can be dealt with on this forum.

 

Writing Letters

Fathers are a frequent target of the media and politicians in citing what they think is wrong with America. They blame us for fatherless children, even though 40% of divorced/single mothers deny fathers access to their children. They call us deadbeat dads, even though only 3% of those ordered to pay child support refuse to. They claim that millions of single mothers are not getting child support, without mentioning that 75% never applied for any, and/or do not know who the father is.

If we are to curb the negative picture presented about fathers, then fathers need to be expressing their opinions on that. You can be doing that by writing letters to your politicians, and to the Editorial Letter page of newspapers.

These links will teach you how to do just that. Consider doing that at least once a month.
We cannot make our voices heard if we are not willing to speak up.

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