Choosing To Mend A Broken Heart Decision #2

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Choosing To Mend A Broken Heart Decision #2 - Accepting Responsibility

Choosing to mend a broken heart means making consious decisions about how you handle your pain in an effort to promote healing. Accepting responsibility form your emotion well being is a crucial decision when choosing to mend a broken heart. Why is this so important?

One question I get asked often by people, trying to mend a broken heart, is how they can begin to get their power back and learn to live again. The key to getting your power back and leaving the pain behind you is by accepting responsibility for your emotional well being. Doing so is the surest way to empower yourself to begin choosing to mend a broken heart.

DEAR KATHLEEN:

"...My ex moved out a several months ago, putting an end to our 5 year relationship. While it wasn't exactly a surprised, I'm still having trouble just getting through my day. How come it still hurts all these months later? How do I learn to move beyond this and live again?"
- (Name Withheld)

DEAR KATHLEEN:

"....My girlfriend just broke up with me. I wasn't expecting it at all and it's really thrown me for a loop. How do I get my power back and mend a broken heart?...."
(-Name Withheld)

CHOOSING TO MEND A BROKEN HEART DECISION #2 - Who's In Control? 

So who's in control, you or your emotions?

If you're a passive passenger in the roller costar ride that comes with a broken heart - there's probably something you're not getting. Allowing your emotions to control you is quite a dangerous thing. Very quickly you loose your ability to think rationally. You end up doing things you regret later. Understanding how you create your own emotional state is how you begin choosing to mend a brokeneart.

Emotions are responses to the thoughts in your head. Understanding this is crucial when choosing to mend a broken heart.

"So you need to accept responsibility for your well being? Who's in control you or your emotions?"

CHOOSING TO MEND A BROKEN HEART & ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY - TIP #2 - Understanding Your Choices 

Accepting responsibility for your emotional well being is an essential decision you must make when choosing to mend a broken heart. These are your choices:

  • You can accept responsibility for your emotional well being and choose to mend a broken heart. As I've personally discovered the key to mending a broken heart is to focus on what we have power over. You may not have chosen the circumstances, but you do get to choose how to react to them. So how are you choosing to understand your emotions? Understanding your emotions as internal creations enables you to accept responsibility for your emotional well being & begin choosing to mend a broken heart.


  • You can blame others for your broken heart and never choose to mend a broken heart. From this standpoint you come to understand your pain as caused by your ex. They are the solution and explanation for your hurt. Through this understanding of things, you come to define the ex as your emotional salvation. Your attempts to begin choosing to mend a broken heart will be in vain.

    • CHOOSING TO MEND A BROKEN HEART & ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY - TIP #3 - "Emotions as Internal Psychological Creations" 

    So what is it that prevents you understanding your emotions as internal psychological creations? Why is choosing to mend a broken heart so difficult?

    • It comes down to not accepting responsibility for your emotional well being and choosing instead to perceive your ex the "reason why" you to feel as you do.

    • You see, despite how justified you may be - this perspective doesn't empower you to begin choosing to mend a broken heartAll you succeed in doing is making yourself into the victim.

    • Defining your ex as the cause of your broken hear is how we give them power over our emotional state. We become a victim to their wrong doing.

    • The only solutions we seek, involve change on someone else's part - an exercise in frustration.

    • Empowering yourself to begin choosing to mend a broken hurt comes only once you accept responsibility for your emotional well being.

    CHOOSING TO MEND A BROKEN HEART & ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY - TIP 4 "Lessons You'll Learn" 

    Once you've begun to accept responsibility for you emotional well-being, you'll develop a clear picture of what's gone down. You'll be able to put things into perspective and begin choosing mending to a broken heart. Here are just a few lesson's you'll quickly discover as you accept responsbility and choose to mend a broken heart

  • You'll uncover the myth that relationships are 50/50 Have you ever heard the saying: "Relationships are a 50-50 proposition"? Letting go of the "shared responsibility" idea is vital. You see this thinking leads to a scorecard mentality. In reality you're each independently responsible for your own relationship experience. Accepting 100% responsibility for your own relationship experiences is how you discover the solutions empower you to begin choosing to mend a broken heart


  • You'll discover what it means to accept 100% responsibility for yourself - Accepting 100% responsibility means choosing to see yourself as the ultimate causal explanation for your life. It means you've choosen to stop placing blame elsewhere. Understand how you've created your relationship experiences for yourself is the key to healing and empowerment.


  • You'll realize the high price you pay for the blame game you play - The blame game amounts to a perpetual state of victimhood in which you chose self-righteousness over empowerment. Blaming someone else for your pain soothes the ego, this is true. The price you pay for this self-rghteousness is making "The defined cause" as the "perceived solution". Choosing to mend a broken heart happens only when you let go of your need to blame and focus on your role in things instead.


  • You'll discover the relationship between thoughts, beliefs, and emotions. - Underlying your emotions are beliefs and thoughts you've used to create them with. You see your beliefs predefine the nature of yoru predefined understanding as well as what you think about things. The thoughts you hold then produce emotions as the bodies responses. You see emotions are your body's response to a thought. This whole process occurs internally unbeknownst to us. Once you examine the beliefs, perceptions, and unhealthy thinking that perpetuates your broken heart you're well on your way to begin choosing to mend a broken heart. It all starts when you accept responsibility for your well being.

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