CH 13 - Relationship Advice For Hackers

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Let's Play Nicely

Mose has had enough.

If you feel awkward, how do you get two friends past their awkward moment?

Mose feels a need to wipe the chalk board clean so more important notations can be made. Boy is this tough!

Courage up, lad.



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Complicit Simplicity


"Life, liberty, and love;
to experience them fully
you must risk them fully."

Allan Wallace



Let's Play Nicely

Moving toward the hackers' end game.



Mose clears his throat, breaking the contemplative silence of their road trip to Elldee's capital.

"I better preface this -- I like and respect both of you. I know you feel the same."

Jon and Gloria glance at each other, saying nothing. Sitting in the back seat of the van, Mose watches them closely.

"I feel awkward about emotions; and I know each of us has reasons to feel uncomfortable about life, death, and love. There is something I need to say, for our team, and for our continued ability to perform."

Mose stops to compose his thoughts, no interruptions come, his small audience obviously attentive.

"You two have been avoiding the obvious, out of consideration for each other. It's creating tension. We are hacking a kingdom that believes in killing opposition. There is plenty to be tense about, we don't need miscommunication multiplying the effects."

Mose studies them for a moment, they are expectant, but relief shows in muscles relaxing as an avoided subject is being addressed.

"I lost my father when I was young. I put up walls and choked my communications. There are places in my mind I still won't look. The pain and anger is too deep to confront. You two have both lost the same person to random forces too big to control; your wife Jon, and Gloria's sister. By the depth of your reactions I identify with your pains. Janice must have been a heck of a gal."

Still no comments from the front of the van; but there are nods, shining eyes reflect in glass, and Jon seems to slow down the vehicle. Mose does not change pace, he is like a workman digging up stubborn rocks in a field.

"It is obvious you two have long been friends. Each of you has strong emotional bonds to the other -- emotions you are avoiding expressing. Knowing your individual courage, I'm sure your hesitancy is due to concern, not fear. You don't want to intrude on the other's grief, appearing faithless to memories of Janice."

Taking a deep breath, Mose labors on.

"I doubt the uncertainty in your emotional connections would have been chosen by Janice. Jan knew the risks to our lives, and how quickly paths we choose can end. We may not survive past the next Elldee standard police roadblock. You two must allow yourselves to experience what you both seem to want ..." After quickly exchanging glances of assurance, Gloria and Jon reach out their hands to each other, clasping them tightly.

"...I won't plow your fields. It's your responsibility to be true to yourselves. True to what you know to be true of each other."


Six Self-Defining Words




Balancing society and individualism; sometimes succeeding.

Allan Wallace



How to express your emotions.

I wish I knew.


Is it better to just open up your feelings early, before they get so rooted they are painful to extract?

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Life, Death, & Love

Dealing with the unavoidable.


Like all else, we all have opinions on deeply emotional topics. Perhaps my approaches may help you.

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Who, What, or Why

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Do you have a word of encouragement?

  • monty Dec 17, 2010 @ 3:15 am | delete
    hi ya,well im finding reading your work very refreshing.first time ive been too this site and ill b back,and i love your headspace shown by the little quotes and antidotes...heres 1 i find i reflect on alot 'those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music'..Angela Monet

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