3 Aspects that Clarify How Grief Serves Us on Coping with Pet Death

To understand in order to clarify how grief serves us is what we get out of it. We are trying to get our lost pet. The grieving that we experience is an effort to keep that pet alive, well in our apparent world anyway.

We get that they no longer here in the physical world, but if we keep thinking about them, languish for them, grieve their company, then it maintains the idea of that pet full of life in our perception. That is we get, a better feeling it fills the emptiness or absence of this pet.

To understand is that this grief shows others just how much we cared for and loved the pet that died. This is not to say that people manipulate with their grief but that when looking at it from this perspective it displays a positive aspect of grief, that we truly cared for our loss pet.

Please See Me Through My Tears - Grief Poem

You asked, "How are you doing?"
As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you looked away and quickly began to talk again.
All the attention you had given me had drained away.

"How am I doing?" I do better when people listen, though I may shed a tear or two. This pain is indescribable.
If you've never known it, you cannot fully understand. Yet I need you. When you look away...

I am again alone with it. Your attention means more than you can ever know.
Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know! They're nature's way of helping me to heal.
They relieve some of the stress of sadness....but you are wrong.

The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me, only a thought away.
My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not give me the pain...it was already there.

When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, Not knowing what to do?
You are not helpless, and you don't need to do a thing but be there.
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow, you've helped me.

You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need. Be patient...do not fear.
Listening with your heart to "how I am doing" relieves the pain for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter.
Talking to you releases what I've wanted to say aloud, clearing space for a touch of joy in my life.

I'll cry for a minute or two... and then I'll wipe my eyes and sometimes you'll even find I'm laughing later.
When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight, my chest aches, my stomach knots...because I'm trying to protect YOU from my tears.
Then we both hurt ME, because my pain is held inside, a shield against our closeness and YOU, because suddenly we are distant.

So please, take my hand and see me through my tears...then we can be close again.

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Is that it helps us get the support we need during this period of mourning. People will step up and help with doing things for us that we would usually be likely to do ourselves. Here is another potential advantage of grief when people come together to help a person in need, this truly shows us our true nature which is of caring and the desire to help others.

It is a beautiful thing.

Now that we are understand what our grief does for us, it is important to allow this process and know that when you, yourself, know that it is time to go beyond where you are at, then trust that as well.