Myths About Domestic Violence

Don't Be Your Man's Punching Bag!

Hey Girl,
Don't be your Man's punching bag!
Time and Time you go back,
Thinking he will stop;
The apologies, the gifts,
To make up for what he has done.
Once again you have been sucked back in.
As time goes by%u2026..
Pain and suffering becomes worse;
Fear of being alone, making it on your own,
Hoping he will change,
Knowing he won't.
Broken and Bleeding he has left you,
Telling you he owns you!
Believing He does.
Identity you have lost,
A body that's no longer your own.
When will it stop you ask?
It won't stop, Girl!!
What he does isn't for Love!
It's for control.
All he sees is you keep coming back!
Time to stand up!
Time to walk away!
You say you can't,
This is all you know.
It's the Fear you feel,
The unknown,
The enemy at work!!
It won't stop, I say!!
Control and Pain is his Game!
One day it may go to far.
Your in a Game Of Russian Roulette,
Your life is more important,
Then waiting for Death to come your way!
You say you aren't strong enough!
I say you are!
Bring it to the lord your Father,
Pray for him to give you strength.
He can do this for you,
I know I have been ,
Where you are.
He will give to you,
What no other ever has.
Stand Up, Walk away!
Choose to live,
Don't be your Man's Punching Bag!!
©AW LadyHawk 2006

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Myths about domestic violence

MYTH 1: Domestic violence does not affect many people.

FACT

A woman is beaten every 15 seconds. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between ages 15 and 44 in the united States - more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

Battered women are more likely to suffer miscarriages and to give birth to babies with low birth weights. 15-20% of pregnant women are battered during their pregnancy

Sixty-three percent of the young men between the ages of 11 and 20 who are serving time for homicide have killed their mother's abuser.

MYTH 2: Battering is only a momentary loss of temper.

FACT

Battering is the establishment of control and fear in a relationship through violence and other forms of abuse. The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, isolation, etc. to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but it remains as a hidden (and constant) terrorizing factor. "One in five women victimized by their spouses or ex-spouses report they had been victimized over and over again by the same person."

MYTH 3: Domestic violence only occurs in poor, urban areas.

FACT

Women of all cultures, races, occupations, income levels, and ages are battered - by husbands, boyfriends, lovers and partners. "Approximately one-third of the men counseled (for battering) are professional men who are well respected in their jobs and their communities. These have included doctors, psychologists, lawyers, ministers, and business executives.

MYTH 4: Domestic violence is just a push, slap or punch it does not produce serious injuries.

FACT

Battered women are often severely injured - 22 to 35 percent of women who visit medical emergency rooms are there for injuries related to ongoing partner abuse. One in four pregnant women have a history of partner violence.

MYTH 5: It is easy for battered women to leave their abuser.

FACT

Women who leave their batterers are at a 75% greater risk of being killed by the batterer than those who stay. Nationally, 50 percent of all homeless women and children are on the streets because of violence in the home. There are nearly three times as many animal shelters in the United States as there are shelters for battered women and their children.