Don't Break Up! Make Up!

My wife and I have been together for a very long time and have been through all the ups and downs of a relationship. But through it all we still love and respect one another and can't imagine what it would be like if we were not together.

There are many times when the going gets tough and you blame each other for the problems. Many people just give up when bad things happen in a relationship. The current attitude seems to be that you should just walk away and look elsewhere.

Sometimes that may be the answer.

In cases of physical or mental abuse it is probably the only answer, because lasting relationships are built on Love, Trust and Respect.

But many times what may seem like insurmountable obstacles at the time can be overcome with some understanding and willingness to save the relationship. Often the things that break up a couple can be forgiven if given a chance. And the bonus of it all is that the relationship grows even stronger because of it.

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Do I have a magic love potion to make things right for you again? I don't, but I may know someone who does!

His name is T.W. Jackson. He is just a regular guy who has come up with some interesting ideas to help you put things back together again! In his book "The Magic of Making Up" he explains some unique ways to get your Ex back! And there must be something to it, as he has helped thousands of people save their relationship!

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In T.W. 's book he provides you with no nonsense
ways to get your Ex back regardless of the circumstances.

Click on the book to learn more and watch a video by T.W. Jackson.

Are there 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.

I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.

So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call,
text or IM?"

BUT...

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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy.

If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.

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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost NEVER works.

and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

The EMERGENCY- "Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?

So, I won't go on and on...

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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are:

*Curiosity and Self Interest*

And here's the BIG SECRET!

When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'

So...

Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?"
"What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And
he feels good because it is a positive message.

Now...

Before you call you need to do the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly...

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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in The "The Magic of Making Up" System BEFORE you call.

If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Have a PLAN!

Your Friend, T.Dub

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