Can You Find Love Easily If You Have a Horrible Disease?

Hi

Thank you for asking this question. I've known a lot of men who have asked the very same thing. I'm going to approach the answer as if it were you who has the horrible disease. If it is not you, please extrapolate to the person you care about.

Yes, a person with a horrible disease or sickness can still find love. You also included easily. Hmmm%u2026 For me I would have to say this is relative. When getting out of bed is hard, how can finding love ever be easy? And, yes the process itself can be easy. Easy because it is fun.

You do what I did. Love is oblivious to race, gender, weight, sexual orientation, income level and disease. Love is a state of being.

The first step is being in love with yourself. Easy to say - right! This is hard enough without the complication of an illness. So let's talk about illness. Let me set the stage. I do not have a horrible disease. I do not know what that is like. All I can do is relate to you my formula for dealing with life and finding love. I did chose to enter into relationship with a person who had multiple sclerosis, but was pretty much symptom free. That relationship lasted five years. It was not right for me but the MS had nothing to do with that.

We are what we ....

You have heard the phrase 'We are what we eat'. I will add another one that is to me even more important - We are what we think. Our minds are susceptible to the prevailing thoughts in society (i.e. your disease is horrible). Modern medicine tells us that when you have a disease that you are restricted in what you can do. Now, it is up to you. Here is where you get the opportunity to exercise you mind. Do you want to buy into their way of thinking or develop your own unique approach to your life?

Here is what I mean about society's influence. I love doing career coaching and writing resumes for people. I've done it for years. Yesterday I talked to a woman who believed her job search would be nearly impossible, so decided she should stay in her emotionally-abusive present job. For most finding a job is stressful, but she had mentally made winning the lottery a better bet than her finding a job. Bull is what I say.

I also say bull to sickness being a limiting factor in your happiness. You are worth love. You have value. You have worth. You have something of value to offer your world. You have a disease. Etc.

You might have physical limitations or according to modern medicine have a shortened life expectancy. There are many examples of those who have overcome 'horrible' diseases and have found profound inner peace and happiness for a long time. But, this is your personal journey.

1. Know you can.
2. Surrender to the possibility that you are lovable even though you ... - You fill in the blank.
3. Discover you personal symbol for true love --- this is key
4. Be that symbol every day
5. Do what comes naturally to you

When you do these 5 steps, you will first find the love within yourself. Then you will find true love in the world.

I used this method when I was in my mid 40s and found my true love and we just celebrated our 10-year anniversary (read about it at http://www.AndFindTrueLove.com/blog).

My friends urged me to share it with others, so I developed The Total True Love system which is based on these 5 steps. You can do it yourself, but this is a guide that makes it easy and fun for anyone. If you go to the website, you will see it is directed towards women. Not to worry, it works for guys too. I just selected women as my primary market.

Good luck. I'll hold your happiness in my heart. If at any point you have trouble believing you are worth true love even with the characteristic of a sickness, borrow my faith. I believe in you. You are worth true love.

Coach Colleen