How Do I Build Self Esteem?

A low self esteem often begins way back in childhood, if a child is made to believe that they are worthless. Their self confidence is eroded and they succumb to the idea that they can never achieve success in anything that they do. They may have been picked on, laughed at, pushed around or bullied. No wonder some people grow up feeling that they have nothing at all to offer.
There are several signs that you are suffering from poor self esteem;

Nothing you do seems to go right.

You believe that most people do not like you and fear rejection.

You believe that you are not attractive and have nothing to offer.

You are afraid to converse with others for fear that what you say might not make sense.

You believe that you are not worthy of being cared for or receiving love.

You find it difficult to accept compliments and handle criticism of any kind.

You are highly critical of yourself and are constantly comparing yourself to others and feeling that you are inferior.

You are very nervous and anxious around others, and are fearful how they will perceive you.

You may have a tendency towards addictions to alcohol, drugs etc to mask the underlying feelings of pain. You may also be more susceptible to depression.

You may have irrational anxieties and can overreact to certain situations.

You constantly put yourself down in everyday conversation, or use self deprecating humor.

You may find you avoid intimacy as you are afraid of being hurt- you feel that if people discover the real 'you', they may reject you.

You may identify with several of these symptoms- If you do, don't despair- you are now on your way to improving your self esteem and living the life you deserve.

"Low Self Esteem IS A Solvable Problem."

With the right guidance, tools and support, you can overcome the problem of Low Self Esteem in your life and present a new, bold and confident face to the world.

Right now, that might seem impossible to you- but remember this...

Low self esteem is not something you were born with.

It's something that your life's experiences, circumstances and associations have brought upon you.

And now there is absolutely no need to let it continue like that for a moment longer.

With a simple proven system to follow, you can escape the curse of low Self Esteem in your life once and for all.

Learn how here...

You may be thinking; knowing this is all well and good, but how do I build my self esteem? Here are some of the most effective ways of boosting self esteem and self worth;

Halt destructive thoughts. Remember, you have rights, opinions and ideas which are just as valid as everybody else's.

Come to terms with the past- many people suffer from low self esteem as the result of negative experiences in their lives or childhood; therapy is the most obvious solution and can be greatly beneficial, but not everybody will wish to access this. Others will benefit from joining a support group, or an online group. If you have friends you can trust, you could tell them and ask for their support.

Try keeping a 'Feelings Journal'; write down how you feel or how you feel certain events in your life have affected you.

Use self- talk; this can be a really effective way of raising self esteem. Think of the things you did well during the day, and praise yourself for them. Be specific, ie 'I helped my friend solve her problem quickly and easily' rather than 'I was a good friend'.

Focus on your achievements rather than your failures. Everybody fails sometimes, you are not alone. If you find yourself dwelling too much on your failures, start to think of them as learning experiences and think of a lesson you can take from each one.

Write a list of all your good qualities and all the good thing you have in your life right now. Don't be shy! Keep adding to it, and place it somewhere you can see it often.

Set yourself small, easily achievable goals; ie to complete a small task that's been bugging you and you haven't got around to. Reward yourself when you have achieved this goal, and then set another, slightly more challenging goal.

Learn a new skill- this can be really beneficial for low self esteem. Scan the night class brochures from your local college, and pick something which takes your fancy, or something you've wanted to learn for some time.

Look after your physical health; eat well, get enough sleep and rest, and take regular exercise. You will feel so much better, which will boost your self esteem sky high. Aim to exercise for at least 30 minutes five times a week.

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For those of us with poor self esteem, the inability to say 'no' to people can adversely impact all areas of our lives. It can be very easy to find yourself talked into doing things that you don't want to because you feel that you can't refuse. Here are some ways of dealing with this;

If somebody asks you to do a favor which would inconvenience you, or to a function you don't really want to attend, here is the most effective way of dealing with it; smile, keep calm, and say "I'm sorry, I can't attend the party as I'm already busy that night", or "I'm sorry but I can't baby-sit tonight as I have a friend coming round, but I can help out at the weekend." Don't say "I'll try" or "I think I might be busy" as this gives scope for them to try to talk you round. Be assertive- this will become easier with practice!

For many people this problem stems from a fear that if you don't automatically jump when people ask, then they won't like you. Try to remember that this isn't the case- your true friends will like you for YOU, not what you do for them!

Above all, remember that your needs and time are as equally important as everybody else's.

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How you feel about yourself crucially affects virtually every aspect of your life, especially how high in life you are likely to rise. Who and what you think you are shape all your responses. Self-esteem, therefore, becomes the key to success or failure. It is also the key to understanding yourself and others.

In this outstanding audio program, the pioneering psychotherapist, Dr. Nathaniel Branden, details for you - in easy-to-understand language - the action, both mental and physical, you can take to advance your self-esteem and he self-esteem of others. His recommended strategies for building self-esteem have been thoroughly tested with the many thousands he has helped during his 30 years as a psychotherapist.

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Here are a list of 'quick fixes' you can use to give your self esteem an instant boost;

Check your posture- stand up straight and push your shoulders back, keep checking to make sure you're not slouching. You will instantly feel more confident.

Smile at everyone you meet- you will feel so much better about yourself.

Make sure you get your rest; adequate sleep is very important for well being.

Treat yourself to little gifts that make you smile- this will give your subconscious the message that you are worth it.

Change your outfit- wear clothes that make you feel more confident. Go on- power dress!

Look at your face in the mirror, smile and say 'I like myself!' It will change your mood.

Buy yourself fresh flowers for an instant mood lifter.

Check your posture- stand upright, and push your shoulders back. Make sure you're not slouching or hunched over.

Make a list of all your good points and achievements you are proud of, and place it somewhere you can see it often.

Use the swear box idea- whenever you catch yourself using negative talk, such as saying 'I'm useless," "I can't," "I'm too thick" etc, put a coin into the box. This will help to break the negative talk habit.

Take regular 'Time Out' time- indulge in a hobby or activity which brings you pleasure and satisfaction. This will help to reaffirm to your subconscious that you are worth taking care of.

Make sure you take regular exercise- it has been proven to lift depression and enhance 'feel good' feelings. Plus it will improve your health and tone you up, which will raise your self esteem even further!

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