How to Get a Girl Back

Have you ever seen a couple get back together after the guy did something really terrible or stupid? If so, you're probably wondering why the jerks get their girls back, but you somehow can't. We ladies don't like the lousy guys more than the nice ones, but they tend to do some things when the relationship gets nasty or ends that makes it hard for us to walk away. Before I go any further, I want to stress that you need to believe in the plan I'm laying out for you and follow it. Write it down, read it a dozen times, whatever you need to do in order to commit it to memory, because this is a very important skill to learn, and it will change the direction things are going for the better.

This isn't a gimmick, and it's not a trick. It's a progression in how you handle things that many nice guys never learn for various reasons. Once you understand this, make it part of your approach to girls, and not only will you get your girl back, but you'll do a better job of keeping her this time around.

As I mentioned before, there is reason we always get back together with the wrong guys. When a girl breaks up with a guy, there is a series of phases she goes through. I will first explain the phases, and then what you need to do during each phase:





Phase 1: Cool off period. Depending on how or why it ended, she may be angry, confused, sad, etc. This is a short term phase that can last a few hours or as long as two weeks depending on the girl and the events that caused the relationship to sink.

Phase 2: Insecure period. This is where you can most easily get a girl back. After our initial emotional state dies down following a break up, we always start to question our decision & feelings. How we react to this insecurity is largely based on what YOU do/say.

Phase 3: Dealing with change. Again, this depends largely on what you do and say. If you do the right thing, this is where your ex girlfriend is most likely to make a u-turn. If not, she may or may not reconsider things before progressing to the next step. It's of course best to do the right things to get the outcome you want.

Phase 4: Moving forward. This is the final phase where you have the ball in your court. If dealing with change was easy for her, she will likely continue to seek comfort as a single girl and possibly date other guys. If you did the right things up to now, she will have a good chance of looking to you for comfort instead of other guys.

What to do after a break up

In the phase description I talked about comfort. There is two ways a girl can feel about a breakup. It can feel right or it can feel wrong. This is not how you think it should be in your head, but it will feel like it was right if you're in constant communication with her and act sweet to her/show her love. Why? Because she doesn't feel the same right now, she is confused or angry or unhappy. That won't last, but if she can't relate to your affection she will see it as confirmation that things were not right and the breakup was the right thing for both of you.

Even though she may be confused, mad, unhappy, or even attracted to another guy, you can make her question if the breakup was a good idea in phase 2 by being distant in phase 1. She has feelings for you still and no matter what happens, it is a bad and odd feeling to have someone not show you love that you are used to getting it from.



How you should behave after a breakup:
1. Not happy about it, but open to the idea of it being the best thing possibly.

2. You need to not call her, you need to be distant, and you let her wonder what you're doing. When she calls you,(she will) have plans for later if she isn't being very warm to you at the start of the call. Just talk with her briefly and then say "I hate to do this, but I have to get ready. I'll catch up with you later.."

If she asks why, say you're going to go see some new movie with "a friend." If she asks if it's a girl, be nice but a little amused, "now soandso, are you being jealous? Knock it off!" or something along those lines. It is actually best if you always have female friends even while dating, as the girl you're seeing will be less likely to break up with you in the first place if they have to wonder if you're out doing things with other girls. If you have a chick friend you can easily hang out with right after a breakup, do it, but only let her find out when she makes small talk with you, don't bring it up.

3. Let her see that you are in demand. You're not sitting home in the dark, crying and eating cereal. You're hanging out with friends, you're out doing things. She will not feel right about everything, and she will struggle in phases 2 and 3. She won't go out looking for another guy, because her self esteem will be low from wondering why you're not chasing after her, and she'll feel attached to you still. She'll seek you out, and this time she'll be worried that you won't be willing to give her another chance if you've done everything right.

Important to remember:
If you're chasing after us, calling us on the phone, being sweet to us, rarely do we question the breakup, which is what really needs to happen if you're going to get your ex girlfriend back. If you've already tried to get a girl back by doing the wrong things or need advanced help, I suggest you download this guide for more/better tips and remember, it doesn't matter how hard you try if you're doing the wrong things.