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Getting a Guy to Like You Without Appearing Desperate
You arrive at a party and there he is - a guy you want to notice you. The problem is, he's not even looking in your direction. Or he glances, then moves on. Apparently he didn't feel the same surge of electricity that you did when you saw him.
Okay, what's next? Do you move around the room hoping that he will eventually notice you? Or do you take action? In this century, women go after what they want, so go for it girl! Getting a guy to like you means you have to be strategic.
Be careful about how you go about getting noticed by him. The obvious, slinky girl who shows up by his side and attempts to pet his arm like a golden retriever isn't the way to get a guy to like you.
Breaking into the conversation isn't going to be cool, either. Grabbing every guy you know and begging for an introduction is definitely too desperate. Position yourself close enough to his conversation group to hear the topic.
What seems to interest him? Don't just stand there - talk with someone else or ask a friend to be your "fake conversation." When you hear something that you can follow up with, you can move and "accidentally on purpose" bump into a person he's talking with.
Apologize and then offer some comment like, "I was distracted when I heard you say how much you like sky diving. I've wondered what that's like and if I could do it." On any topic, show curiosity and ask whether you could do it, learn it or understand it. Now you're appealing to his natural male tendency to show off what he knows.
Now YOU are in his conversation group and have his attention and you can get a guy to like you by being a social butterfly!
Okay, what's next? Do you move around the room hoping that he will eventually notice you? Or do you take action? In this century, women go after what they want, so go for it girl! Getting a guy to like you means you have to be strategic.
Be careful about how you go about getting noticed by him. The obvious, slinky girl who shows up by his side and attempts to pet his arm like a golden retriever isn't the way to get a guy to like you.Breaking into the conversation isn't going to be cool, either. Grabbing every guy you know and begging for an introduction is definitely too desperate. Position yourself close enough to his conversation group to hear the topic.
What seems to interest him? Don't just stand there - talk with someone else or ask a friend to be your "fake conversation." When you hear something that you can follow up with, you can move and "accidentally on purpose" bump into a person he's talking with.
Apologize and then offer some comment like, "I was distracted when I heard you say how much you like sky diving. I've wondered what that's like and if I could do it." On any topic, show curiosity and ask whether you could do it, learn it or understand it. Now you're appealing to his natural male tendency to show off what he knows.
Now YOU are in his conversation group and have his attention and you can get a guy to like you by being a social butterfly!
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Putting on a Show to Get a Guy to Like You
You need to do some research. Wander through a crowded social event and listen to the stupid ways that women approach men. It's a living lesson in what not to do to get a guy to like you. The mistakes can be summed up in one rule: don't fake it.Granted, guys are not the most honest about little things like having a girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, bankruptcy or naughty little infection. But they want girls to be genuine. So the rule of thumb is: Be Yourself.
Even if you put on a show to get his attention, eventually your real personality the real you comes out. So let him get to know who you really are. Don't be fooled by the difference between attraction and attention.
A guy is instantly attracted to the over-exposed dress front and the loud party girl approach. He looks at her and sees "easy" which appeals to his hormones. But that's temporary. You want the guy's attention, which goes beyond sex appeal.
Sure he can think you're sexy but you want him to see that there's more to you than just a great body. When you have his attention, you have him. A guy wants to know more about you but he may not ask the right questions.
Be sure that you tell him several things that define who you are and what you like without spewing your life story all over him. Give him enough information that he wants to know more. Never fake it but always leave something more to be discovered and you'll find it easy to get a guy to like you.
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How to Know If a Guy Likes You
"Does he like me?" That's a question girls start asking in fourth grade and continue to ask for many years. It doesn't get any easier to answer. You have to accept the reality that most guys are not as verbal as girls or as expressive when they do talk.He can sound like a play-by-play announcer when talking about his last tennis match and barely respond when you ask if he feels the attraction that you are feeling. Never assume that a quiet guy isn't interested.
That may be his personality. Neither can you believe that Mr. Life of the Party who is hanging all over you will still be interested in the morning. You are better are reading cues so use those to tell you if he's really into you.
He might not talk much in a group, but does he pay particular attention when you talk? He may be more inclined to flirt, make eye contact and smile than to talk much. When you move around the room and he makes the effort to stay with you, that's a good sign.
If he's standing near you but checking out every girl who walks in the room, that's a bad sign. No matter what he says about liking you, his eyes are telling the real story; good or bad.
At the end of the evening if you exchange phone numbers, play it cool. Don't sound desperate or try to get him to promise to call. Even shy guys like to pursue more than to be pursued. Show interest in talking with him again but never show desperation.
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- InternetCowgirl InternetCowgirl Feb 6, 2009 @ 9:22 pm | in reply to alice
- Alice, I have to agree with you that the signs sound promising! As a shy guy (which it definitely sounds like he is), he is probably nervous or unsure of how to approach you. It is very easy for him to flirt with his ex girlfriend, since he is already very familiar with her, but I bet he would LOVE it if you initiated a conversation with him. Try asking him questions that will allow him to tell a little bit about his interests, then suggest that maybe you could join him next time he does something he likes (ie goes hiking, watches a football game, goes snowboarding, or whatever etc). If you aren't familiar with something you could say something like "I've never tried such and such, but have always wanted to. Maybe we could go do that together sometime!" Men like to show off what they know and talk about their interests. It would also give him a sign that you find him attractive and want to get to know him better. Wishing you the best of luck!
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- InternetCowgirl InternetCowgirl Feb 6, 2009 @ 9:13 pm | in reply to keely hildebrand
- Simple: Forget about him and move on. There are thousands of other available guys out there!
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- InternetCowgirl InternetCowgirl Feb 6, 2009 @ 9:08 pm | in reply to anonymous
- Anonymous: In response to your first question, check out my site Get My Ex Back. It's full of great tips on how to get back together with your ex boyfriend.
Second question: After chatting with him for a few minutes, just ask him directly if he wants to go out with you. If he says yes, then great! If he says no, you can save face by saying something like "Well, I didn't say you COULD go out with me - it just seemed to me like you WANTED to" and laugh it off like you were just goofing around with him. Hope this helps. Good luck :)
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- InternetCowgirl InternetCowgirl Feb 6, 2009 @ 8:33 pm
- Lucinda, check out this article for tips on how to flirt with men. Hope this helps!
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- alice alice Feb 6, 2009 @ 7:39 pm
- honestly this advice rocks but what if i have done everything i can that is still that cool appell i have im a party girl and he is a shy guy but sence the first day i saw him i knew i was gonna some how have him my frieds have said whenever i look away he stairs at me thats a good sighn i know but he still is in close contact with his old girlfriend witch makes me allmost cry when he gives her the i like u smile to her not me what do i do to take more intrest in me than her because i realy like him and earlyer this year my friend asked him if he liked me and he blushed and like a miniute later he quietly said no i want to know if he was telling the truth or was to shy to admit it i realy like him and need help
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- Morgan Morgan Dec 31, 2008 @ 8:51 pm
- This was a great help! Thanks!
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- keely hildebrand keely hildebrand Dec 27, 2008 @ 1:09 am
- how do i get a guy that is totally disinterested in everybody but the prep who hates his guts
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- anonymous anonymous Nov 29, 2008 @ 7:41 pm
- i like this guy and we broke up last year how do i get him to go back out with me???
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i like this guy but he talks alot and im afraid to ask him out b/c of wat he might say and if he does say no wat should i do???
i need answers email me at santanagrier@rocketmail.com
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- lucinda lucinda Nov 26, 2008 @ 8:05 pm
- i dont wanna sound pathetic but im reallyyy desperate.im like the only one at school whos never had a boyfriend and never kissed anyone.its embarrasing.i dont think im ugly i dont know what to do! i think guys treat me like a friend to much can i have some flirting tips that will show me in a differnt light??,please it would really help!
