If you're a guy who has struggled with women and dating, I hope this page can help you out. My goal here is to outline the "short list" of things that you MUST get handled to start meeting and attracting women. I used to be a Master Pick-Up Artist (don't laugh), but gave up all the gimmickry and BS 4 years ago to build and polish a natural system for meeting and attracting women.
In other words, I've stolen the best "PUA" gimmicks and techniques and merged them with the smooth, polished skills of naturally attractive men. You get the best of both worlds, while avoiding the creepy PUA scene.
The idea here is to learn SKILLS which can transform your dating and social lives. They aren't complex or impossible. But, they do take a bit of work to implement.
Willing to get started?
In other words, I've stolen the best "PUA" gimmicks and techniques and merged them with the smooth, polished skills of naturally attractive men. You get the best of both worlds, while avoiding the creepy PUA scene.
The idea here is to learn SKILLS which can transform your dating and social lives. They aren't complex or impossible. But, they do take a bit of work to implement.
Willing to get started?
Contents at a Glance
Materials you'll need
Some cajones (as it takes balls to change...), some clothing and shoes (so you can leave your house), a voice (so you can talk to women), and my "Natural Pick-Up" program (if you want to learn this really fast, that is).
Mostly though, you need WILLINGNESS. That's your biggest and best ally in learning how to meet and attract women. Without it, we're wasting our time here.
Mostly though, you need WILLINGNESS. That's your biggest and best ally in learning how to meet and attract women. Without it, we're wasting our time here.
Step 1:
Learn how to approach women. You might think it's the hardest part. You'd be wrong about that.
Attracting women is much harder than beginning the conversation. In fact, you can be good at approaching women in a few weeks (I am serious about that).
Try this one:
"I noticed you from across the cafe, and had to risk complete embarrassment to meet you...my name is __________"
That's a simple, and direct way to approach women. It takes BALLS & WILLINGNESS. If you don't have what it takes to do the above, there are other less frightening ways (opinion openers, teaser openers, the reversal, and the environmental/situational opener...all skills that I teach).
I give you the direct approach because it is the true "carpe diem" technique. It's something that every guy should do once in his life. Your time here is short, why not roll the dice I say.
Just do it.
Attracting women is much harder than beginning the conversation. In fact, you can be good at approaching women in a few weeks (I am serious about that).
Try this one:
"I noticed you from across the cafe, and had to risk complete embarrassment to meet you...my name is __________"
That's a simple, and direct way to approach women. It takes BALLS & WILLINGNESS. If you don't have what it takes to do the above, there are other less frightening ways (opinion openers, teaser openers, the reversal, and the environmental/situational opener...all skills that I teach).
I give you the direct approach because it is the true "carpe diem" technique. It's something that every guy should do once in his life. Your time here is short, why not roll the dice I say.
Just do it.
Step 2:
If you've approached her, now it's time to attract her. She knows nothing about you, other than you are now in her space and have initiated a conversation with her. It's time now to show her - by using social skills - that you are a cool guy worth spending more time with.
In other words - you have to now become more interesting to her than anything else in her current reality. That aint easy.
Which is why...you need SKILLS. Luck won't cut it in this game.
Flirting.
Flirting is king when attracting women. Flirting conveys sexual tension, and triggers her emotionally (as opposed to logically). Flirting is what makes her laugh, twist her hair, shift her body language to fully face you, and creates that "Doggy Dinner Bowl (DDB)" look that all guys CRAVE.
Effective flirting combines humor, with a cocky edge. You need to insult her, in other words (gasp). But, you must do so in a light-hearted, humorous way.
Call her "bratty" but with a smirk. If you called her "bratty" in an angry way...you'd be called a jackass. But, if you do it with a hint of cockiness...well then, she might start getting interested.
Get it?
In other words - you have to now become more interesting to her than anything else in her current reality. That aint easy.
Which is why...you need SKILLS. Luck won't cut it in this game.
Flirting.
Flirting is king when attracting women. Flirting conveys sexual tension, and triggers her emotionally (as opposed to logically). Flirting is what makes her laugh, twist her hair, shift her body language to fully face you, and creates that "Doggy Dinner Bowl (DDB)" look that all guys CRAVE.
Effective flirting combines humor, with a cocky edge. You need to insult her, in other words (gasp). But, you must do so in a light-hearted, humorous way.
Call her "bratty" but with a smirk. If you called her "bratty" in an angry way...you'd be called a jackass. But, if you do it with a hint of cockiness...well then, she might start getting interested.
Get it?
Step 3:
Know this - to women, CONNECTION is KING. If you don't connect with them (stopping at "attracting" them), you won't secure the date.
Lead the conversation thru topics that interest YOU (leading, in other words) to see if she shares similar interests.
Once you find things that mutually interest you both, establish a simple, emotional connection.
"Wow, you've been to Nepal? So have I. I love the natural beauty, the unpolluted culture, the sense of majesty there. It fills me with hope"
"Me too. I crave a return there. I want to hike to a monastery my brother found a few years ago. I imagine those mountains, and that air in my lungs, almost daily"
Now, we have a connection - see that? From here, it's important to MOVE the conversation along.
The temptation is to now talk about Nepal for 15 minutes. That's a no-no. Why?
Deep Rapport on any topic is a risk. If she (or you) has to leave the conversation, you now may only have one "thing" in common. Far better to lead the conversation into another topic where you can form another connection.
You want her thinking "wow, he and I have so much in common" as opposed to "wow, he and I have one thing deeply in common".
See that?
Lead the conversation thru topics that interest YOU (leading, in other words) to see if she shares similar interests.
Once you find things that mutually interest you both, establish a simple, emotional connection.
"Wow, you've been to Nepal? So have I. I love the natural beauty, the unpolluted culture, the sense of majesty there. It fills me with hope"
"Me too. I crave a return there. I want to hike to a monastery my brother found a few years ago. I imagine those mountains, and that air in my lungs, almost daily"
Now, we have a connection - see that? From here, it's important to MOVE the conversation along.
The temptation is to now talk about Nepal for 15 minutes. That's a no-no. Why?
Deep Rapport on any topic is a risk. If she (or you) has to leave the conversation, you now may only have one "thing" in common. Far better to lead the conversation into another topic where you can form another connection.
You want her thinking "wow, he and I have so much in common" as opposed to "wow, he and I have one thing deeply in common".
See that?
Illustrated on a YouTube video
That's me. I'm promoting my "Natural Art of the Pick-Up" program. I include it here so that you can get a feel for what being a "natural" is like.
This is the image you should hold in your mind as THE GOAL.
The "way" however is to learn the skills. Practice what I've outlined above by approaching 3 women/week (or 1/day if you're a real guerrilla about it!)
This is the image you should hold in your mind as THE GOAL.
The "way" however is to learn the skills. Practice what I've outlined above by approaching 3 women/week (or 1/day if you're a real guerrilla about it!)
How To Get Girls - "The Natural Art of the Pick-Up"
http://www.natural-pickup.com Playboy from "The Game" (aka Stephen Nash) breaks down his newest dating coaching program "The Natural Art of the Pick-Up".
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