How To Talk Dirty To A Guy

Ask questions!

Yes, that's what I said. To become a pro at dirty talk that is not enough to scorch the sheets, you have to be wiling to ask questions of your partner. Dirty talk is all about communication and knowing what turns your lover on. How will you ever know what trips that trigger if you don't ask the right questions?

There are several different questions you can ask that will bring the dirty talk fire to bed with you. Start out by asking questions that require an answer: Does that feel good? Do you like it when I do this? Do you want to try that? The answers to those questions will allow you to go further, and tell your partner what you like, too.

Then there are the leading questions, the ones that turn the conversation in the direction you want it to go. Consider this: When you're in bed with your lover and you're in the mood for bondage, perhaps you could ask if he or she has been 'naughty' and watch for the reaction. If the answer is 'yes' then you can go further, with something along the lines of: "You deserve to be punished for that, don't you?" A simple yes leads to the opening to introduce bondage: "I think I should tie you up and punish you."

You've just tapped into your lover's secret desires...because you asked the right questions!

The next time you are in bed with your lover, whisper those questions into their ear. Gauge the reaction you get and if it is positive, you can go further! By asking questions, you are giving your lover ample opportunity to speak their mind.

It's the secret to great dirty talk and better communication, both between the sheets and outside the bedroom. Now go find your partner and give it a go!

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Let's say your lover has been very vocal about one particular fantasy lately. Maybe he's gone on and on with details about his fantasy escapades with another woman while you sit back and watch. Maybe he's talked about watching you with another woman - or another man - while he films it all. Has he mentioned something more taboo, the kind of things that make you blush like mad when you think of them, the fantasies you know he would never really want to try?

Those fantasies don't have to stop with dirty talk . While you don't have to go all the way and make them a reality (after all, do you really want to get arrested for having public sex in Central Park?), you can ramp up the fire by recreating those fantasies as best you can - right in the privacy of your own bedroom.

When it comes to fulfilling some of those dirty talk fantasies, sex toys are your friend! A trip through the internet sex shops can provide hours of fun and any toy you can imagine. If you're more adventurous, locate your nearest local store and pay them a visit. Take your lover along. As you're shopping for the toys, whisper into his ear that you remember that fantasy he loves so much. Would he like to try it out now?

If you're the kind who loves to spring surprises on your partner, keep your activities quiet until the big night, when you put a smile on his face by telling him his fantasy is about to come true.

If he's dying to be with two women at once, but you're not comfortable with actually inviting another woman into bed with you, now is the time to invest in men's sex toys! We're not talking about those silly blow-up dolls, either. There are plenty of products out there that stimulate the feel and motion of a woman's most intimate parts. Blindfold your lover, tie him to the bed, and whisper into his ear while you slowly slide that toy down his erection. Make him imagine it's another woman, and taunt him with it - perhaps demand that he come for her and let you watch. You know what trips your man's trigger, so use it to your advantage!

This fantasy trick works for you, too. Want to be with two men but you're too shy to ever really consider it? Those sex shops have a huge variety of dildos to choose from. Ask your lover to use one on you while you do something to him - what, it doesn't matter. It's your fantasy! Simulate the idea of two men by using that dildo and making the most of your dirty talk while you're doing it. It might not be the "real thing" but it's pretty close!

You can also spice up the dirty talk with costumes. Does your lover have a thing for being spanked by his teacher? Become that teacher! Outfit yourself with the skirt, the finely-pressed blouse, the wire-rimmed glasses and the hair in the bun. Hold a ruler in one hand and a piece of chalk in the other. If he's been a very bad boy, he gets a good spank with that ruler - and if he's been exceptionally bad, he gets a trip to the principal's office, where he just might meet up with the big paddle.

The dirty talk fantasies are endless. Which ones do you want to make into reality? Ask your lover which ones he wants to take a bit further, and then you can work together to make your favorite fantasies into your favorite bedroom games.

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When you're in the midst of passion, anything can come out of your mouth. If you and your partner are into dirty talk, you might hear fantasies and desires that surprise or even shock you. How do you handle a dirty talk scenario that makes you wildly uncomfortable?

When the passion is over and your mind is clear, think about what was said. Why did it make you so uncomfortable? Did it bring to mind a bad memory? Did it make you wonder what your partner really wanted to be doing in bed at that moment? Did his desires make you feel bad about yourself? Whatever the reason, pinpoint it and write it down. Putting it on paper in black and white will help you work through the details of why you feel the way you do.

Consider how you will bring it up with your lover. If this is something that you feel you need to discuss, plan your approach. Make sure you present your concerns in a loving, non-judgmental way. If you are accusing at all, your partner will likely retreat into a self-conscious shell, and won't bother telling you any more of those fantasies. That is a breakdown in communication, and that is not good!

Once you've chosen a way to approach the subject, do it when you are both relaxed and open to discussion. Don't attempt to start the talk immediately after you've had sex - talk about killing the afterglow! Don't do it when you are busy with other things, or when stress seems to have taken over your day. Approach your partner at a time when you know he will be open to what you have to say. Allow plenty of time for the discussion.

Keep in mind that your partner might not think anything is bothering you. His dirty talk could well have been completely spur of the moment, and he might not even remember what he said! If it was just something thrown out in the heat of the moment when he was experimenting with a few fantasies, you can chalk it up to nothing more than that and move on. If he admits the scenario he suggested is one that he wants to try, however, you've opened the door for discussing it.

Always be loving toward your partner as you discuss those fantasies. Remember that it took a lot of trust to get to this point, and the dirty talk between the two of you is so much hotter for it. You aren't the only one who has heard things that might be shocking - consider that you might have dropped a few stunners along the way, and your lover has accepted them. Doesn't he deserve the same consideration from you?

Finally, remember - the hottest dirty talk just might involve things you would never really do if the opportunity arose. Keep it all in perspective, and remember that your partner is the one in bed with you - the one who is focusing all his attention and dirty talk skills on you. You lucky little vixen!

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