In Unhappy Marriage - Things Can Change

In marriage, things get messy, and complicated, and pretty soon we get caught up in believing things are worse than they really are. This has to do with feeling unhappy in our marriage for so long, that we can't see anything else. The natural result is a distorted view of where our marriage is and what our marriage really could be like. It's time to see things differently. Let me share with you a few things you should consider in your marriage.

I believe that:
1. Our brain and mind affect our marriage in negative ways more often than not and we need to learn to change the way we perceive things.

2. You can change the direction of your marriage all by yourself. Why? Because you CAN control you. You can't change your spouse, but you do have power over yourself.

3. Commitment is an essential part of keeping your marriage together. With commitment in the game, all the rules change.

4. There are certain truths in marriage that you need to learn. Understanding these truths can be the difference between being in unhappy marriage and wedded bliss.

5. You can learn to communicate better, but that is not what is going to solve your marriage problems. Don't believe that this is the one key that will make all your problems go away.

6. Resentment will eat away at the foundation of your marriage and therefore you need to learn how to avoid it, or how to deal with it if it's already at work in your relationship.

7. Everyone can use a change in perspective, especially if you are unhappy in your marriage. Right now you may only see the bad, which influences every attitude, action or behavior you exhibit....but it doesn't have to be that way. Sometimes freedom is simply a perspective change away. The Secret of Marriage can help you find that freedom.

That is a very fair question!

Here's the interesting thing to think about; we all know people who have divorced. They are not bad people (OK, some may be unpleasant!). So divorce is not an issue just for bad people, bad communicators, etc., etc., etc. Divorce can happen to perfectly wonderful people. . . who just don't know how to stay married! They finally give up because they can't figure out a way to make it work. This program will help you to do just that.

So, is this program for you?
1. Are you struggling to stay married, worried that you may be headed for trouble?
2. Are you faced with the looming prospect of divorce?
3. Does your spouse think your marriage is hopeless. . . and you mostly agree?
4. Do you find yourself having the same issues over and over, unable to break out of the painful patterns?
5. Or are you trying to make sure you have the best information to keep your marriage on-track?
6. Or are you preparing for marriage and want to get started on the best possible footing?
7. Or are you in a committed relationship, contemplating marriage, but want to know what makes a marriage work?

If you answered "YES" to any of those, The Secret Of Marriage will be invaluable to you!

Are you and your spouse great communicators? If you're thinking "Not even close..." take heart! Communication skills are easy to learn and to put into practice.

Here are some insights from Dr. Greg Smalley:
Good communication begins with good listening.

He outlines the four foundations of good communication:
1. Listening - By listening to your spouse, you communicate that they are a person of worth and what they say is important.

2. Understanding - You may have to paraphrase back to your spouse what you hear them saying so that you clearly understand what has been said: "What I just heard you say was%u2026"

3. Validating - Then your spouse can verify or correct until he is saying and you are hearing exactly what he means. You can affirm your spouse by understanding what is communicated and validating the communication.

4. Responding - At this point, you can decide how to respond to what your spouse has said.

This is just a brief sample of what you will learn in the Unlocking The Secrets of Marriage course, but a very effective way to make positive changes in your communication style.