Kylyssa on Squidoo

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Squidoo is a home for my homeless words

 

Squidoo has had a big impact on my life, both as a writer and as a human being.  I've written on a bunch of other websites but the Squidoo experience is not the same.

I discovered Squidoo back in February of 2008.  I found Squidoo in a list of social bookmarking sites so I assumed it was something like Reddit or Digg.  I registered with Squidoo to start bookmarking but I was quickly confused.

You see, Squidoo isn't really a social bookmarking site at all.  It is a writing site, a place for people to show off their words, their art, and their ideas.  It's a way to get what's deepest inside you out where it can be shared.  I didn't figure that out for about a year.

I am a high-functioning autistic.  I can communicate verbally enough to get by in most situations but getting by just isn't good enough.  It's no way to live, keeping everything inside and only saying what it takes to make other people think I'm normal.   Squidoo is a place I can share what's inside me.  While I write to survive, Squidoo is not like my work.  There are no deadlines, no target demographics, and no limits on subject.  I suppose that makes me a bit like a professional chef who likes to relax by cooking dinner at home. 

On Squidoo I can talk about the time I spent homeless or have a conversation about atheism.  I can share my favorite recipes and brag about the latest cakes I've made.  I can talk about my pets and share my ideas about how to care for them.  I can have conversations just like other people do.  Only for me, they take place on Squidoo.  Writing for a living gave me a professional voice but Squidoo has given me a personal voice. 

Five of My Newest Lenses

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My Thoughts and Stories of Homelessness Found Their Home on Squidoo

When I was a very young adult I became homeless due to a series of unfortunate events combined with autism. The time I spent homeless taught me lots of things. These lenses reflect many of the more personal things I learned and express how homelessness changed me as a person. The change goes beyond the scars both physical and emotional.

While homelessness changed me in some positive ways, I try to do whatever I can to prevent anyone else from experiencing the negative experiences and negative, permanent changes homelessness can cause. This includes waking people up to the fact that homeless people are just like them and, in fact, most average Americans are only a few paychecks or a single serious illness away from homelessness themselves. So many people have conflated the beggars and bums that make up maybe one percent of homeless people with all homeless people that, in my opinion, the discrimination against and sometimes outright hatred of homeless people is the biggest single obstacle encountered when trying to help them.
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Facts About Homelessness, Many Learned First Hand

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A Letter to Adult Children of Homeless Elders

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How You Can Help Homeless People

These lenses give advice on how you can help homeless people written from my perspective both as a formerly homeless person and a person who has worked with charities that help homeless people.
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An Atheist on Squidoo

photo by Kylyssa Shay
Atheists are an often misunderstood minority in America. To increase understanding, and hopefully tolerance and acceptance, I wrote these lenses about what I think and feel as an atheist in America. The lenses also explore some issues faced by American atheists while explaining what I don't believe and why. I also answer questions people have about atheists and atheism and I explain what I, as an atheist, find spiritual.
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My Fondant Cake Lenses

photo by Kylyssa Shay
A few years ago, I discovered that I could make a pretty decent fondant cake with cheap, simple ingredients found at the grocery store. In these pages I share photos of some of the cakes I've make for friends and family and tell the stories behind them.
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My Fondant Tutorials

photo by Kylyssa Shay
Every time I make a fondant cake I attempt to take photos and record my process. I am often too pressed for time, due to my illness, and must just focus on getting the cake done in time for the party. In these pages I share the recipe I use to make cheap and easy fondant and give step by step instructions on particular techniques and designs. The templates on these fondant tutorials are hand drawn by me and free for you to use.
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My Poetry, Fiction, and Other Writing from the Heart on Squidoo

As an autistic person, I communicate most accurately and intensely through writing. This has naturally drawn me to forms of written expression. These lenses share some of my fiction, poetry, and prose and some of my thoughts and opinions about them as well.
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Food and Drink

I'm a foodie. However, I seldom remember to photograph and write down the instructions for the foods I make. Right now, this category of writing is a little small but I hope to add more soon.
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My Pet Lenses on Squidoo

photo by Kylyssa Shay
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My Saltwater Aquarium Lenses

photo by Kylyssa Shay
About six or seven years ago I started keeping saltwater fish. I also raised starfish, amphipods, copepods, rotifers, spaghetti worms, and other tiny saltwater creatures for sale once I learned how easy it is to culture them. Due to my success publishing similar topics in Aquarium Fish International, I figured a few reefkeeping and saltwater aquarium articles would go over well here, too.
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Frugal Living

For the first twenty-five or so years of my life I lived in one degree or another of poverty, ranging from scrimping and saving to outright homelessness. Then, I had about a decade of middle class and upper-middle class income. Now, I'm poor again, due to illness and disability.

Even during my middle class years, I never really caught on to consumerism so, other than the loss of health insurance, having less money isn't really that big a deal for me. As long as I get to sleep behind a locking door I can find some way to enjoy myself. However, I noticed that many people express a feeling of depression about their new found poverty. Some of them have spent so long basing their enjoyment around spending money that they don't really know how to enjoy their lives without it. As someone with plenty of experience enjoying what I have, I thought other people might benefit if I shared some of the cheap or free things I love to do.

Not all of adjusting to poverty or near poverty is about enjoyment, of course. After learning of a friend's experience borrowing money from his 401K to pay for his dad's funeral I decided to explore less expensive ways to honor our loved ones when they die.

In the future, I will be covering more nuts and bolts poverty survival tips such as how to rent a place to live without having a decent credit history.
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Assorted Topics

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Flowers, Flowers, Flowers

photo by Kylyssa Shay
I spent about eighteen years of my life as a professional floral designer, mostly in specialty shops. I specialized in weddings, funerals, and special events.
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Arts and Crafts

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Do You Know Me Any Better Now?

  • mitchell456 Apr 10, 2012 @ 9:37 am | delete
    Kylyssa
    Your writing has touched me deeply. What a crazy world we live in where a (sleeping behind the safety of) locked door can mean all the difference to a person's life. Thank you for sharing your story with me - your willingness to be vulnerable by sharing your life, has been humbling.
  • Steve_Kaye Apr 8, 2012 @ 9:49 pm | delete
    Congratulations on this wonderful article about yourself. Thank you for publishing this lens. You have had enough experiences for ten lifetimes. Wish you the best.
  • GrowWear Jun 30, 2011 @ 12:10 am | delete
    We are all enriched by your having found a home at Squidoo.
  • Tipi Jun 29, 2011 @ 3:34 pm | delete
    I always enjoy reading lensographies, I would dare say they are my favorite kind of lenses. You have a nice showcase and good articles. Your a great writer!
  • Wednesday_Elf Jun 29, 2011 @ 1:05 pm | delete
    What an interesting 'journey' through your life's experiences & beliefs, and your interests. Thanks for sharing.
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Kylyssa

I am a "retired" florist turned freelance writer. I enjoy cooking, keeping saltwater fish, and baking fun cakes. I have had some unusual life-experien... more »

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