The Secret Behind the Law of Attraction: How Your Inner Child Sabotages You

Each of us experienced that climactic moment when we realized we were not safe. It is part of the human experience. Hal Bennett in his book, Follow Your Bliss, referred to this moment as the essential wound. Our psyche experiences a trauma which shatters our basic assumption about our world. This trauma can be a result of neglect, sexual or physical abuse or mental cruelty through shame and belittlement. It can be experienced in this lifetime or can even be carried over from a previous lifetime. The DNA blueprint of our first remembered Soul experience of being unsafe can even be carried in the etheric body and impact the force field of our current incarnation.

In response to this realization, irrespective of its origin, our psyche goes into shock. We either dissociate from the emotion of the event or bury recall of the event, thus banishing the memory deep into the unconscious mind. The stress of these traumas, however, gets recorded in the electrical systems of our bodies and ultimately emerges as symptoms of what is called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Until recently it was thought that PTSD impacted only combat veterans. Now scientists know that, in fact, not only are survivors of atrocities such as the Holocaust, torture, war, natural disasters, catastrophic illnesses, and horrific accidents susceptible to PTSD - but anyone who is exposed to an on-going threat to his or her safety, such as physical or sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence, family alcoholism, or any experience which threatens one's basic survival can develop a form of PTSD. Remarkably, this holds true even if a person witnesses a traumatic event. If, as a child, you observed the abuse of your mother or the abuse of a sibling, you can develop debilitating symptoms from just having been a witness.

Traumas of great magnitude shatter our basic assumption about the world and our personal safety. The impact can leave us feeling alienated, distrustful or overly clinging. These responses are buried and emerge only when there is a trigger which brings these feelings back to the surface. However, underneath the surface, the electrically-charged emotions related to these traumas are forever coded in our bodies and are conditioning our cells to attract exactly that which we most fear. The process becomes circular - our fear perpetuates this Post Traumatic Stress response and our PTS response perpetuates our fear. Our fear creates anxiety. Anxiety is the first stage of grief. We are perpetually responding to the never-ending loss of our true self. Why? Because when we feel unsafe, we deny our true self and develop the adapted self as we become who we think we need to be in order to be loved and protected.

When you focus positive, loving thoughts on your dreams your mind starts the process of creating them -UNLESS- those thoughts get ambushed by your doubts and fears which then create chaos and frustration.

If terror, betrayal, fear of abandonment or shame are attached to the manifestation of our dreams, those dreams will eventually be annihilated with negativity. If our dreams are based on the values of others instead of our own internal values and desires - we deny the essence of our true self. The manifestation of our dreams is contingent on our being connected to our true self. When we are not connected, we feel a loss - not only of our dreams - but also a loss of our true self!

This loss of our true self evolves when we adapt to other's expectations and become who we think we need to be in hopes of feeling accepted and loved. This loss activates the process of grief. It is involuntary. It is a natural, predictable series of emotional responses encountered any time we experience a loss of any kind. These emotional responses affect the way we think and the manner in which we express our emotions.

In order to become fulfilled and healthy adults we have to revise our false belief that we are not good enough and challenge our pursuit of perfection. We have to grieve the original loss of safety - express and process the anger and despair of the Post Traumatic Stress associated with our loss and ultimately reprogram the cellular coding of our DNA.

The only way to challenge the belief system of our perfectionism - the source of our shame - the belief that we are not good enough - is to operate from the illuminated, adult self. It is he or she who is connected enough with their Higher Source to be able to respond to and retrieve the wounded inner child or Soul part who felt the loss in the first place. That wounded self will let go of the old belief system when he or she experiences a different reality in the interaction with this illuminated you. You create your own reality and therefore you are empowered to envision a new experience for this wounded self. In your mind's eye you retrieve this wounded self and create whatever reality he or she needs in order to feel safe. Remember, the mind does not know the difference between what is real or imagined. What we can conceive we can achieve.

Cathryn Taylor's Inner Child Work offers you a method to step into the vibration of a healthy adult self and to be empowered to come into alignment with it--to heal it and befriend it so it can merge with you in your joy. There is no magic greater than that of a child. But a wounded Inner Child holds on strong to that which kept it safe. In order to regain his or her trust and heal you must have a part of you who can respond in a nurturing and healthy manner and who can orchestrate a sequential progress. You must come into this interaction with an empowered adult who can respond in a compassionate manner. Why? Because if you begin digging into your past with no new ways to respond to that pain you simply pull the band aid off of an old wound while offering no hope of healing it.

To find out how you can teach your inner child about the Law of Attraction and end your inner sabotage, contact Cathryn at ctinnerchildwork @ aol . com or visit her website at www.joincathryntaylor.com. You can also contact Cathryn by phone at 612-282-3686.