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Remember the songs

Remember when the music made you sway
Songs and tunes that made the time you play
When the notes would lift your spirits high
Marked the moment when you said good-bye

When the chorus inspired you to the dance
Verses then led you to take a manly stance
Recited the words your heart couldn't speak
Told the one you loved that you were to meek

That moment you were glad you found them
Pure hopes that they felt it the moment when
Do Whap moments of nights you are having
Sweet dreams of just them you were saving

Dream lover songs that made women swoon
Neither rebel famed or fed on silver spoon
Blue on blue words of childhood rhyme
Somehow ok if sang out with perfect time

The Bible words were then all in fashion
Mold the perfect mate with such intension
Sad ones to help be cool saved souvenirs
Accept date recall shedding to your peers

Angles were allowed to listen into your plea
Send you answer to make sadness into glee
Pretty woman or for the leader of the pack
Perfect words expression there wasn't a lack

Moments when you fought off the word good-bye
Upbeat music lifted you high to the day you'd die
Dance with me sounded like words of our Destiny
Rain drops from clouds forgave wet they could see

Beach Wood 4-5789

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new from beyond the tears

http://www.beyondthetears.com

April is National Sexual Abuse Awareness Month. In Colorado Springs CO, survivors of sexual abuse, and their supporters, will be conducting an art show and sale. The show is called "Finding Our Voices" and the University of the Rockies is the host at the Harvey House Auditorium.

Poetry and Performance and Safely Sharing Stories

Pictured is Joyce Aubrey, who will present "Aftershocks" which is her unique perspective of using art as a healing medium

Other events are scheduled for the weekend.

For more information email info@forartshow@gmail.com

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Posted By Lynn C. Tolson to Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story at 4/03/2009 12:36:00 PM

[http://www.tragedyintincanholler.com/]

Rozetta Mowery chose to leave her corporate job to determine the truth of her family?s history. She aptly titled her book Tragedy in Tin Can Holler. It reads like a combination of memoir and documentary, with domestic violence as the main theme. Mowery describes the horrific effects on the family with a true story that spans generations.

Through historic letters and reports, Mowery discovers that her grandmother lured, killed, and buried men in a mass grave. Unfortunately, Rozetta limits her description of her grandmother, saying, ?Because Grace was half-German and half-Italian, she inherited a spirit of energy.? Such ethnic stereotypes may be insulting, and have no value to the reader?s experience. The point is that the grandmother was a serial killer.

Mowery uses crisp and cliche? character descriptions. For example, she describes a minor character: ?Ernest was the runt of the family. He was not very big?? Yet another minor male character ?may have been part Mexican or Indian?. Because he had dark skin.? Other descriptions are offensive. When Rozetta refers to the children of the community, she says, ?They would run around the big campfires like wild Indians.? However, the reasons Rozetta wrote this book include awareness of domestic violence. Perhaps her desire to send a message is greater than the need for appropriate character development.

How do six children survive neglect, poverty, sexual abuse, and domestic violence? How do children bond with relatives who are felons? Rozetta explains, ?everyone helped their neighbors and shared food and clothes.? The siblings also survived by the love of their mother, who would nurture them through songs, books, and prayers.

Rozetta was a toddler when her father was incarcerated. The children were sent to orphanage, then placed in separate foster homes. The mother longed for her children, yet was unable to care for them. Meanwhile, her grandfather lived in luxury, perceived by the community as a generous man. However, he offered no generosity toward the innocent children. Upon release of Rozetta?s father, the children were returned to their parents.

The worst was yet to come, including increased intoxication of both parents and escalating physical abuse, to the ultimate act of murder.

Decades later, Rozetta had to read the newspaper article of her mother?s murder. Two men looked on as a husband murdered his wife. The news article says that one of the men said he did not intervene because it was a ?family affair.? How neighborly is that?

Rozetta writes about what happened to the children who had been used and abused. One turned to boys, another to booze, another to pot. Rozetta was the only Mowery child who graduated from high school, and she graduated with honors.

Rozetta Mowery tells this gruesome story to expose the devastation of domestic violence. Read the book for the message! Look beyond the rough writing style, and experience a courageous woman who has smoothed the way for future generation. Just don?t read the book before bed because it will haunt you in your sleep!

Review completed by Lynn C. Tolson, author of Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story

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PAVE

PAVE Newsletter

Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence

July 2009

In this Issue

:: Save The Date

:: Alcohol Consent Campaign

:: Run for Congo Women

:: International Sexual Violence

:: Art Works for Change

:: Free Self Defense Class

:: Sophia World Conference

:: School Violence

:: PAVE Profile

Dear Jacki m,

PAVE is a national, nonprofit that uses education and action to shatter the silence of sexual violence. Through social awareness campaigns, educational outreach, and targeted legislative efforts we work to end sexual violence on all fronts.
PAVE is both prevention and response based. We educate on cultural norms that encourage or trivialize violence while also creating grassroots action against injustices to victims and survivors.
You're invited to join this important work - learn more today!

Save The Date
PAVE Events Not to be Missed!

Taste of the Gold CoastTaste of the Gold Coast

Date: August 26

Location: The Sutton Place Hotel Chicago

Purpose: Cece and Melinda of Raymi Productions are working with PAVE to bring the top restaurants in the Gold Coast neighborhood of Chicago together.

Register

Dorothy Chandler Pavilion

Removing the Mask:

Art and Soul to Shatter the Silence of Sexual Violence
Date: September 17
Location: Dorothy Chandler Pavilion - L.A. Performing Arts Center
Purpose: Using performance art PAVE is working with MTV Real World's Sarah Rice and other celebs to shatter silence surrounding sexual violence.

IVATInternational Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma
Date: September 21-26, 2009
Location: San Diego, California
Purpose: The theme is Promoting Peace in the Home, Your Community, and the World and aims to work from a multi-disciplinary background to link practice, research, and policy across the lifespan. Organized by the Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma and supported by PAVE.
More Info
Register Today

Fear No FashionPAVE's Fear No Fashion

Date: September 27 - 3pm
Location: Cubby Bear - Chicago, IL
Purpose: Because fashion is about feeling Beautiful, Sexy, and Empowered PAVE is using this avenue to raise awareness on sexual violence. The event will feature local celebrities, fashion designers, silent auction, and other surprises! Come join us!
Learn More!

Alcohol Campaign on Consent
UW Madison PAVE Chapter

Since University of Wisconsin - Madison is a reputed party school, the campus chapter of PAVE as worked with multiple student groups, campus staff, and Adams Outdoor Advertising to create a campaign addressing alcohol-facilitated sexual assault.
PAVE Media Advocate Katie Simons stated, "We wanted to incorporate the idea that while drinking might cause impaired judgment, there's no excuse for taking advantage of someone else."

UW Madison PAVE Consent Poster

Run for Congo Women

Run For Congo Women

Join PAVE's Team

Women For Women International has created a Run For Congo Women event to be held this fall in the following states:Colorado, Oregon, New York, Arizona, Illinois, and Missouri
This event is coming to Chicago at Lincoln park on October 3, 2009. Feel free to register and join
PAVE's Team for the run or sponsor a PAVE leader.
This run is to raise awareness of violence against women in the Congo and aims to bring" long overdue relief to the women and children of the Democratic Republic of the Congo". Run for Congo Women is a grassroots run, walk, bike, swim, or bake fundraiser for Women for Women International's Congo Program.
Learn more here.

NEWS UPDATE:

The Greatest Silence: Rape in the Congo has just received two 2009 News & Documentary Emmy nominations. Winners will be announced in New York on September 21st.
Learn about the DVD and how to order!

International Sexual Violence
Recent News & Articles
Gender Action for Peace and Security (GAPS) has released the Global Monitoring on Women, Peace & Security. It covers issues in the Congo, Afghanistan, Sri Lanka, Northern Ireland, and Nepal.
Download the Article
Reforms for Peace are being urged in East African communities and Democratic Republic of Congo. Learn more on their efforts for reconciliation and institutional reforms.Online Article
Learn about the U.S. opening up its borders to give asylum to victims of sexual abuse. New York Times Article

Art Works for Change
Off the Beaten Path: Violence, Women and Art
Art Works for Change
An international contemporary art exhibition opened last month at the Stenersen Museum in Oslo, Norway featuring the Marina Abramovic, Louise Bourgeois, Yoko Ono, Susan Plum, and 28 other visionary artists, including Voices and Faces Project photographer Patricia Evans.
This UNESCO-endorsed exhibition is curated by Randy Rosenberg and our allies at Art Works for Change.

FREE Self Defense Class
Chicago Suburbs, August 20

FREE Women's Self Defense Presentation at the South Barrington Club, Thursday August 20th. Men and Women invited. Take an hour out of your night to view material which may absolutely benefit you, should you need to defend yourself. 1 hour FREE for PAVE supporters.