Marriage Problems
You should always be willing to forgive your spouse. In the end you will be one step closer to resolving many marriage problems. Remember, this is the person you "should" want to spend the rest of your life with. If you are unwilling to forgive you are unwilling to genuinely love because many marital problems escalate when spouses hold on to the past. What did your spouse do yesterday, last week, last month or even five years ago that you are still holding on to? Is your love for your spouse dying because you are unwilling to forgive.
Forgiveness Should Never Be An Option
We should always be willing to forgive. It may be harder to forget, actually we may never forget, but we should always forgive. It is one thing to say "I forgive you", and it is another to mean it. You will never be able to move on if you continue to hold on to past hurts and mistakes. We should never be too proud to say, "I am sorry', or too stubborn to say, "I forgive you". These are phrases that will be said many times throughout the life of your marriage, so if you are unwilling to say them, you are unwilling to make your marriage work. Someone once said, "Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. Are you willing to have a brand new ending? The only thing we are asking is for you to open your heart. Let us look at the attitudes the persons seeking and giving forgiveness should possess. Seeking Forgiveness and Trust
Be willing to confess - If you have committed an offence against your spouse, confession has to always come before forgiveness.
Be willing to repent - There is a difference between confession and repentance.
Be willing to take all the blame - If you are the reason the disagreement started, be willing to say I am sorry.
Be willing to start over and let time heal all wounds - It may take months or even years, but be patient with your spouse.
Be willing to repent - There is a difference between confession and repentance.
Be willing to take all the blame - If you are the reason the disagreement started, be willing to say I am sorry.
Be willing to start over and let time heal all wounds - It may take months or even years, but be patient with your spouse.
Giving Forgiveness and Trust
Giving Forgiveness and Trust
Be willing to listen - It is very difficult to listen when we feel we have been wronged. But look at it this way, when you are the offender and you are seeking forgiveness, isn't it frustrating when your spouse doesn't want to listen.
Be willing to forgive - I have found that forgiveness not only frees the person that needs to be forgiven but it also lifts a weight off my shoulder.
Be willing to trust again - Trust is always needed to move forward. If your spouse messed up, confessed, sought your forgiveness, repented and is willing to start over you have to learn to trust again.
Be willing to start over - More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worst. Recently I said to someone, "Imagine if you had given up on your marriage after you found out your husband had an outside child?" She said, "Lesia, it was difficult, but now we are enjoying the best years of our marriage." Whether your conflict is simple or major, make a commitment to move on, to start over. Let the past be the past.
Be willing to forgive - I have found that forgiveness not only frees the person that needs to be forgiven but it also lifts a weight off my shoulder.
Be willing to trust again - Trust is always needed to move forward. If your spouse messed up, confessed, sought your forgiveness, repented and is willing to start over you have to learn to trust again.
Be willing to start over - More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worst. Recently I said to someone, "Imagine if you had given up on your marriage after you found out your husband had an outside child?" She said, "Lesia, it was difficult, but now we are enjoying the best years of our marriage." Whether your conflict is simple or major, make a commitment to move on, to start over. Let the past be the past.
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- Jake001 Jake001 Jun 4, 2009 @ 2:31 pm
- Great lens!! Good work!!
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- jarnld jarnld May 27, 2009 @ 8:52 am
- I like your lens! It has a nice Christian base...but is not overbearing and offers great relationship advice for any one. IT all goes back to communication. Good job
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- Mark V Mark V Nov 24, 2008 @ 10:13 am
- Great advice. Sometimes you have to bite your lip and not blurt out the first thoughts you have. Forgiveness is they key to a happy marriage.
Mark V
http://www.howtosavemymarriageblog.com
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- Nov 21, 2008 @ 11:54 am
- When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. I enjoyed my visit! Thank you kindly for sharing your Lens with our group :)
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- ElizabethJeanAllen ElizabethJeanAllen Nov 15, 2008 @ 1:43 pm
- Chris and I have been happily married for 24 years. Its not always easy but the key is to know how to say "I'm sorry" and Thank you.
Great lens
Lizzy
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