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Tell us about your mom and how special she was - Was she a gourmet cook? Did she love hiking? Here's a chance to share.
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    Jewelsofawe Jewelsofawe Nov 21, 2009 @ 7:40 pm
    Blessed by an angel!
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Nov 22, 2009 @ 1:15 am
    Wow! Thank you, Jewelsofawe! Your blessing means a lot to me. This is one of my special lenses. :-)
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    jgelien jgelien Nov 20, 2009 @ 11:06 pm
    Thank you so much for this lens. My first Mother's Day without my mom was three months after her death followed immediately by my first Father's Day without my dad. I really wanted to just forget about it but I am a mom too so I had to get through it for my children.Your lens is full of beautiful and comforting ideas.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Nov 21, 2009 @ 2:05 am
    Thank you, Jgelien. Your words mean a lot to me. I imagine that was a very difficult year for you, and losing both your parents. I'm glad that you celebrated the day with your kids. I know how it feels to want to forget the holiday entirely. I hoped this lens would give some comfort, in finding something to honor your mother on Mother's Day.
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    prosperity66 prosperity66 Nov 13, 2009 @ 2:56 am
    Wonderful lens. I was touched by your story and like the way you still celebrate your mother.
    I would just say that like any child always remains a child to the eyes of their parents, a mother never dies - at least to the heart of their child.
    Dom.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Nov 21, 2009 @ 1:49 am
    Thank you for the nice words, Prosperity. You're right. No matter how old we get, we are still our parents' children. My mom's not far - she stays in my heart and mind.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Nov 6, 2009 @ 7:57 pm
    Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry about your loss as well. It's hard around those special holidays, like Mother's Day or Father's Day. [in reply to Jewelsofawe]
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    Jewelsofawe Jewelsofawe Nov 6, 2009 @ 7:27 pm
    I have a hard time with Father's Day because my dad and stepdad are gone. I just do not celebrate anymore. Sorry for your loss!
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Oct 15, 2009 @ 12:31 am
    I'm so touched that you blessed my lens. I poured a lot of myself in creating this lens to help others and also in tribute to my mom. Thank you for the blessing - it means a lot to me! [in reply to Heather426]
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    Heather426 Heather426 Oct 14, 2009 @ 9:23 pm
    This beautiful lens is blessed by a new squid angel today.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Sep 21, 2009 @ 10:04 pm
    Yes, it can be difficult, especially when you're blessed to enjoy a close and loving relationship with your mom. Share the love with your mom, and enjoy all the wonderful times. [in reply to stargazer00]
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    stargazer00 stargazer00 Sep 21, 2009 @ 8:16 pm
    I still have my mom thank goodness. The loss of your mom must be one of the hardest things we have to go through.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Jun 4, 2009 @ 3:43 am
    Thank you for your kind words. I do the same thing with little things around my house - it's nice to have something to remind us about a special time or something unique about our moms. [in reply to blue22d]
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    blue22d blue22d Jun 1, 2009 @ 11:50 pm
    Such a nice lens and wonderful tribute to moms. It does help to remember and you have given such great ideas to make it special. I have things in my home that, when I move from room to room, little things that I got from my mom causes me to stop and remember her at that moment. Thanks again. Five stars to ya.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 27, 2009 @ 1:30 am
    Thank you so much! Your words mean a great deal to me. And I really appreciate your angel blessing. Happy Belated Mother's Day to you, too.[in reply to Comfortdoc]
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    Comfortdoc Comfortdoc May 24, 2009 @ 10:41 am
    Beautifully done. Belated Mother's Day Blessings from an Angel.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 12, 2009 @ 9:26 pm
    Yes, I know just what you mean. Grieving doesn't follow a linear path, so remember to do what's comfortable in your healing. Thank you so much for sharing, and I hope you enjoy gathering recipes for your Mom Cookbook. [in reply to AppalachianCountry]
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    AppalachianCountry AppalachianCountry May 12, 2009 @ 9:18 am
    Wonderful lens. We were not able to go to church Sunday because we lost our mom just over a year ago and still get the ugly cry. We like the idea of a cookbook. Thank-you for your help.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 10, 2009 @ 7:16 am
    Wow, AJ! Thank you for your blessing! You couldn't have given me a more special gift, especially on Mother's Day. This lens means a lot to me. I poured my thoughts and feelings into creating it. Now, it's a connection to my mom. [in reply to aj2008]
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    aj2008 aj2008 May 10, 2009 @ 2:32 am
    What a beautiful, if poignant, lens. Today is Mother's Day in a lot of countries around the world, but in the UK it is in March. I am blessed that my Mum is still with us but this lens has also been Blessed by an Angel.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 7, 2009 @ 8:05 am
    Oh, your words brought tears to my eyes - thank you so much for your kindness. Happy Mother's Day to you and all of our friends! [in reply to mukunda22]
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    mukunda22 mukunda22 May 7, 2009 @ 7:57 am
    Wonderful lens--I just realized before I read this lens that Mother's Day is Sunday and when I discovered your lens, it felt like a gift from All Of The Mothers!!--Everywhere!!

    High fived, faved and lensrolled to: My Mother's Stoke
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 7, 2009 @ 2:02 am
    Thank you, Lisa! I appreciate your kind words. I'm going to enjoy mine with my hubby, son, and friends. :-) Enjoy Mother's Day with your mom! [in reply to lisadh]
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    lisadh lisadh May 5, 2009 @ 10:55 am
    This is a wonderful idea for a lens and well done!! I am fortunate that my mom is still alive, but I'm sure this lens has helped those who have also lost their mothers.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 3, 2009 @ 5:27 pm | in reply to Heather426
    Thank you for your comments, Heather! I really miss my mom too. :-) I'll check out the lens you're making about your mom. Thinking of you on Mother's Day, Jennifer
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 3, 2009 @ 5:22 pm | in reply to Terri Panchaud
    Thank you for sharing about your mother. I'm glad there is comfort in knowing she has no more pain. Take care of yourself on Mother's Day - the first can be hard but the pain eases with time. Thinking of you, Jennifer
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    Heather426 Heather426 May 3, 2009 @ 4:44 pm
    What a touching lens! I am an orphan now, as both of my parents are gone, and I especially miss my mom...excellent lens. 5* and lensrolling to my new lens I'm making for my mother.
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    Terri Panchaud Terri Panchaud Apr 26, 2009 @ 8:12 pm
    Hi!

    My mum passed away after a very long and slow agonizing death due to cancer.

    For the first time in myh life I did noit cry but had a sense of "relief" no more pain and suffering.
    The qualityh of life had greatly suffered the last year of her life.

    This will be my FIRST Mother's Day without her.

    I miss her so much!

    I LOVE YOU MUM!!! XOX OXO

    P.S. This website has really helped..THANK-YOU to all that have contributed!
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    spirituality spirituality Apr 19, 2009 @ 12:19 pm
    Great lens - you've been blessed by a squidoo angel :)
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    Squidoo-Pat Squidoo-Pat Nov 5, 2008 @ 11:44 pm
    Thanks for the nice tribute to mothers who have passed on. On Saturday Nov. 8th my mother will have been gone for 14 years. She and I were best friends and our relationship was very strong. You never get over the pain of losing a loved one but memories at least are comforting.
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    GoodAdvice GoodAdvice Jun 7, 2008 @ 6:00 am
    Thank you for this "great" lens.

    My mother passed away on Oct 25 1998.
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    KimGiancaterino KimGiancaterino May 11, 2008 @ 10:35 pm
    What a beautiful story. I'm giving you a Squid Angel Blessing in honor of Mother's Day. I've just spent the last hour and a half catching up with my mom on the phone. I feel very fortunate today. I'm sorry for your loss at such a young age.
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    telepak@cox.net telepak@cox.net May 9, 2008 @ 3:36 pm
    Jennifer, I read all your pages. Thank you for taking the time to write your thoughts to us all. My mom died of breast cancer last year on May 14, 2007. It is very painful for me to have to go through this Mother's Day without her. I am not to crafty but I am going to try my best to get some pictures together for an album and have my kids paint a rock with a special "NaNa" saying. I had the great joy to spend last years Mother's Day by her side as she gave her blessing to each and every child, and grandchild. She keeps reminding me in my heart "Genine, the best is yet to come" I hang on to these lines when I feel pretty lonely without her here with me. Happy Mother's Day 2008 Let's all celebrate the Mothers who gave us so much love and life.
    Daughter of Mary Bridget Martinez,
    Genine Telepak
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    beeobrien beeobrien May 7, 2008 @ 3:01 pm
    This is a beautiful page. I've added it to my featured list at my Mother's Day lens.
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    mulberry mulberry May 2, 2008 @ 6:48 pm
    A touching story. I recall feeling "alone" after I lost a parent. Strange, I had sisters, a husband, etc. but the loss of the people who first loved you and took care of you feels like having your "safety net" removed. You offer words of comfort and wisdom for those who are grieving, well done.
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    LeslieBrenner LeslieBrenner Apr 26, 2008 @ 1:14 am
    I'm very sorry for your loss, and I understand your grief all too well. It never quite goes away and tends to come in waves. You learn to manage it, knowing your loved one would want you to be happy.
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    clouda9 clouda9 Apr 20, 2008 @ 12:29 am
    Jennifer...thank you for sharing your story and your heart!
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    PlushMemoriesPlus PlushMemoriesPlus Apr 16, 2008 @ 1:19 am
    Thank you so much for this wonderful lens! My Mom was Cajun and made the best Gumbo ever! Mom died on Mother's Day at the young age of 59. For a long time I questioned "why" and was withdrawn. I'm 63 and still miss her, especially on Mother's Day.
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    chloecavanaugh chloecavanaugh Apr 15, 2008 @ 4:48 pm
    Thank you for sharing this very touching story. She has raised a beautiful, and kind daughter. God bless you sweetie!
    *****
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    michaelgibbons michaelgibbons Jan 31, 2008 @ 10:04 pm
    Jennifer a beautiful poignant lens -- I hope everyone will visit my www.squidoo.com/ButtonsofMom lens and help me make 11,000 photo buttons to honor Moms and raise $11,000 for Mom friendly charities --take care and happy Mothers Day
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    LaraineRose LaraineRose Jan 28, 2008 @ 3:19 am
    I like your lens. Obvious you loved your mum very much. My mum is dead also. She died at age 55. I am past that age now but I still miss her. I liked your advice about "Keep it simple." I look forward to seeing her again under perfect conditions. I have read some wonderful literature lately about. Where are the dead? Why does God allow people to suffer? Very comforting! 5*s, fan and lensroll
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    BabyFirstYear BabyFirstYear Sep 30, 2007 @ 5:12 am
    I really love my mom, She is my idol for our life. Thanks for the great info here, you always remind me to my mom.

    Goonie
    Baby First Year
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    Griefdoc Griefdoc Aug 1, 2007 @ 3:33 am
    Thanks for finding the Grief and Loss Club. Your site is one that meets the criteria.
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers Jun 17, 2007 @ 2:35 am
    Cathy,I'm sorry to hear about your mum. It sounds like you were close. I know how hard it can be to deal with life and the pain of missing your mum too. Be gentle with yourself - it's wonderful that you are finding comfort in your horses and dogs. My best to you - and visit anytime.
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    Horseangel Horseangel Jun 13, 2007 @ 2:22 pm
    My mum passed away 9 weeks and 2 days ago. I miss her so much. She died of cancer, and it's all going around and around in my head at the moment. It's a bad time, and I'm doing all I can to smile despite it all. My horses and dogs help a lot. Thank you for this lens. It's a comfort.
    Blessings
    Cathy
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 15, 2007 @ 12:38 am
    Angelina, I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I can't imagine how hard that must be. Despite the tragedy, how proud you must be to have raised your grandson into such a wonderful man. Remember to treat yourself on Mom's Day just as loving as you treated to your mom, daughter and grandson. My best
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    Angelina Angelina May 12, 2007 @ 7:51 pm
    My mom was my best friend but Mother's Day is even worse for us as my daughter was murdered leaving behind a 3 year old son who I have raised. We sometimes go out to eat but it s a pretty quiet day at our house. Hes in the Army now so some even more lonely ones ahead
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 11, 2007 @ 3:04 pm
    Mikeyc, Anger is a stage of grief. Grief has no timeline, but if your lady is 'stuck' in one stage, find a counselor or support group. I have resources for grief below. On Mom's Day, stay by her side, love her
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    mikeyc mikeyc May 11, 2007 @ 6:22 am
    My lady's mom passed 2 years ago. As a man and it being mothers day, Idont know what to do. Shes blameing her mom for choosing ciggarettes over her. She died of cancer. Any suggestions?
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 10, 2007 @ 11:37 pm
    Danya, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you two were close. The first Mother's Days are hard, and as unreal as it seems now, that pain will ease with time. Thank you for sharing your Mother's Day plans. Stay strong. Remember, your mom is proud of you. My best, Jen
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    JenniferAkers JenniferAkers May 10, 2007 @ 6:37 pm
    Cory, My heart goes out to you. I remember how painful and lonely I felt after my Mom's death. The pain eases. Really. Please find a friend -or a counselor- to support you, especially through Mother's Day. Guilt is part of grieving too. You don't have to endure this alone. My best, Jen
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    Danya Danya May 10, 2007 @ 3:24 pm
    My mother died October of last year a week after her 50 birthday. Every Mother's Day I would buy her roses and take her a gift. This Mother's Day I know will be so hard without her. I'm going to put flowers on her grave. I will trust in the Lord and ask him to strengthen me I know he will comfort me
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    Cory Cory May 10, 2007 @ 8:29 am
    Momdied in July. Not even a year yetandI feel so lost andreally alone. I am so dreadingthisday. I feel guilty somehow and feel the need topunish myself on Mother's Day...I am notsureifI can endure another one when I feelthis way.

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