Does Your Child Have Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

DONNA wrote

HEELO,IM NEW TO THIS SITE,BUT SO GLAD IVE FOUND IT,AND THERE ARE OTHER PARENTS GOING THROUGH THE SAME AS ME,MY SON IS 5 YEARS OLD,HE HAS ALAYS BEEN A DEMANDING CHILD,BUT THINGS JUST HAVE GOT WORSE AND WORSE,I FEEL HE MAY HAVE THE CONDITION ODD. AND WOULD LOVE TO HEAR MORE ABOUT IT, ON A REGULAR BASIS,MY SON ,IS DEMANDING,VERY AGGRESSIVE,ATTACKS ME,DOES NOT CALM DOWN EVER OR GIVE WHEN HAVING AND ARGUMENT,IM CONSTANLY DRAINDED,HE SAYS VERY NASTY AND HURT FUL THINGS,LIKE WISHES I WAS DEAD,HE SOMETIMES DOES NOT MIX WITH OTHER CHILDEREN,HE LIKE AND ENJOYS WINDING PEOPLE,UP,I SOMETIMES FEEL OTHER MOTHERS SEE THER CARRY ONS I HAVE WITH MY SOME AND PITY ME, ON THE OTHER HAND,WHEN MY SON ISNT LIKE THIS,HE CAN BE THE SWEETEST CHILD EVER,THIS IS IF EVERYTHING IS GOING HIS WAY OF COURSE,AND IF NOT THEN LLOK OUT BECAUSE ANYONE AROUND WILL SUFFER BECAUSE OF IT,ESPECIALLY ME,THE OTHER THING IS,ALL THIS BEHAVIOUR ALWAYS SEEMS TO HAPPEN AT HOME AND WHEN WERE OUT,AS SCHOOL REPORTS SAY HE IS FINE THERE

Posted September 18, 2009

teresa wrote

um i dont know exactly if my daughter has o.d.d but i think so. she isnt even two yet but she bites her self to the point of her skin almost tearing. she hits herself and also hits other children. she constantly tells me no and i dont know what to do. ive spanked her ive tryed timeout nothing is helping and then my friend told me about oppositional defiant disorder. and i started researching it. this sounds just like her. im a young mom and im trying to have patience. please help!

Posted September 10, 2009

Renee wrote

Carol, I could have written the above statement myself...my son is EXACTLY the same way!! Please contact me at missohio1992@yahoo.com. I would love to chat about how we go about helping our boys!!!!! Thanks....

Posted July 27, 2009

Mintra wrote

Oh My dear Christine... I so relate to your post. 6 yrs ago I adopted a sibling group brother and sister, and my 7yr old boy is over his ODD ADD ADHD diagnosis. I have spanked my son to, and I have thought of giving them back to Children Services, but I really love both of them so much, I know it would destroy what I have built with them since they were babies. I have known them since...Hang in there, and take every seminars on hows to deal with these challenging children....You are not alone in this world

Posted July 17, 2009

Allison wrote

in reply to Christine Don't beat yourself up so much. I can tell from the way you write about him that you love him alot- many parents don't even love their kids. You ARE a good parent who perhaps has made a few missteps (who hasn't?) I don't have alot of advice for you since my kid also gives me hell but hang in there and be more positive about yourself!

Posted June 24, 2009

Christine wrote

I'm so relieved to have found this place. Tonight I put my 7 yr old ADHD/ODD to bed with a lot of anger. He fights, cries, screams and refuses to listen to whatever it is I try to explain to him. I am a single mom and his dad is (has never been) involved. That breaks my heart but as Carol said, I'm exhausted and worn out. I often dream of putting him in a foster home for a break but the horror stories of those terrify me. I could never go through with it, anyway, I know it.

He is SO intelligent (they want to test him for gifted this coming school year) and I love him to pieces (as we all love out defiant children!) but geez.... my concern is that I've already done irrepairable damage in things I've said in a heated moment or that I've spanked him too many times (I wish I never would again and have vowed NOT to, sooo many times...but then he pushes an intense button and I fly off the handle). I feel just awful. I want to wipe the board clean :-(

Posted June 15, 2009