Overlooking the Obvious Signs in a Relationship that Turns Bad
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Why Didn't You See The Signs?
At the break-up point in a bad relationship, it is easy to look back in time and remember issues that should have been indicators that yours was not a match made in heaven. You may punish yourself and wonder why you didn't listen to that little voice inside who was prompting you to proceed with caution. You may even have to face friends who will be giving you that "I-told-you-so" sermon when you finally admit that the whole thing turned sour. So why is it that you didn't pay attention to the little warnings that might have kept you from your current level of pain?
The New Blinds Us
One reason is that most of us are so caught up in the excitement of meeting somebody new, that we can't imagine them having any flaws or eccentricities that would be difficult to live with on a long-term basis. When we are focusing on the good qualities of our new love interest, it can be easy to ignore the parts that might discount the package as a whole.
They'll Change...Won't They?
Or, in some cases, we may believe that we can, over time, change the parts that we don't necessarily care for. Unfortunately, there are some habits and personality traits that are present for a lifetime, and we discover too late that those issues will eventually lead to problems.
Don't Want Another Failure
Possibly, we are just afraid of yet another failed relationship, especially when there have been a number of others before this one. A person may lose his/her confidence, and assume that they will never find a good match, when their careful screening takes them through too many candidates. They may fear the possibility of being labeled as one who is too picky to settle down with one companion. With these thoughts, it might seem simpler to stay in a relationship that has its obvious problems. One might assume that staying in a bad situation is better than being alone.
Looking Back We Can See What We Missed
The human mind has the ability to screen out things that are not consistent with our own desires. Hindsight, being 20/20, usually shows us quite easily the signs that we so quickly set aside.
Trying To Figure Out What Happened?
And What Your Next Move Is?
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