Parenting Problems To Successful Parenting

There's a lot of advice available but so much of it is in direct contradiction to what someone else is telling you.
How do you know who to believe in?

That "Super Family" down the block may have a toddler screaming at home, and even if they haven't they're still not you dealing with your toddlers behavior, are they?

There are as many different parenting styles as there are parents with parenting problems, you needn't feel pushed into treating your kids in a way that doesn't feel right to you.
Find a parenting guide or plan that basically sounds good to you and adapt it as needs be.

It's about getting the balance right, successful parenting starts with being realistic about how you want your family to work.
It's no use beginning a strict regime if you don't believe in disciplining kids at all!
You have to be able to maintain the program even after your childrens behaviour problems are solved, so it must suit you.

When you are looking for help with your child biting, toddler hitting, whatever your childrens behaviour problems may be, remember to look for that balanced approach.
I tried programs that involved heavy discipline. I tried methods that suggested total freedom to run as wild as they liked! When you have an angry toddler screaming at you that doesn't feel good at all.

It was only when I came across a program that involved balancing your needs and the childrens wants that we started to see some real results.

You need advice that is practical to put into effect, realistic in its approach to life with difficult kids. Look for practical, actionable steps, not theory & psycho-babble.
It helps if the writer gets the point across simply and effectively. Toddler behaviour problems are not rocket science!
When you've got one child biting another that sets off a toddler tantrum you don't have time for waffle.

Once you find a plan that you like the key to getting good results is consistency. It helps if all the childs carers, grandparents, daycare and so on are willing to put it into practice. I found that it was best to keep the girls contact with strangers quite limited for a short while, until the bad behaviours began to drop off and I could take them out without worrying.

That part wasn't easy I will admit. We had to look at ourselves and our behaviour too.
Our parenting problems began with us. We had to think about our attitude and make some changes that weren't too comfortable to begin with, but the results are so worthwhile :-D

This Happy Child program changed our family life so quickly and dramatically I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it to others.

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Of course there is no 'magic pill' to make all the family problems right without some effort, I guess you know that! But once you have your childrens behavior under control everything else seems to become simpler.

The stress of our parenting problems was putting our marriage in a difficult place too.
Now, we can all enjoy being together, going out as a family, or inviting friends into our home.
And as a bonus we can get a babysitter, and enjoy time alone together knowing we won't get back to a storm of complaints!

Emotional - whinging, clinging, shyness, anxiety
Physical - toddlers biting, hitting, kicking or spitting

Some childrens behavior problems are a mixture of both e.g. bed-wetting, toddler screaming and throwing tantrums.

Having first ruled out the possibility of illness, especially if the problem behavior is unusual in your child, you can generally assume that he is struggling to make sense of some new aspect of his world. Often these toddler behavior problems crop up for the first time after a change of routine, a parent starting work or the arrival of a brother or sister.

Toddlers hitting out can even be way to express positive emotions, so try to understand what lies behind the problem behavior before deciding how to deal with it. You certainly don't want to add your own negative emotions to the mix when in a volatile situation.

Even most of the physical behavior problems are based in the emotional. Toddlers biting and hitting can be just part of their experiments with the world, but if it's severe enough to be a problem there's probably more to it.

Toddlers behavior is a direct reflection of their emotions. Toddlers biting or throwing tantrums are seldom doing it for fun. When you understand what emotional need the bad behaviour is satisfying for her you can help her find a better way forward.

Then if her emotions spiral into a destructive or aggressive phase you will know how to turn it into a positive way of dealing with and getting through her struggles.

Just because these childrens behavior problems are "natural" it doesn't meant that we have to put up with them! To have one toddler hitting another, or even lashing out at you is not to be tolerated.

Older children hitting each other in play might be allowed to a degree, but still with a watchful eye on what's going on. Learning to rough and tumble is no bad thing, learning that you can get your own way by bullying definitely isn't wanted.

When trying to get the child out of one bad habit it sometimes happens that they start to replace it with another. So do be on the lookout for any new problem that you might be able to nip in the bud.

Once a bad behaviour has become a regular thing it will obviously be harder to break the habit. Often swift action the first time a naughty happens will be enough to prevent it becoming another of your parenting problems.

A lot of toddler behavior problems stem from the limited verbal skills they will probably have at this stage. An angry toddler screaming in frustration is no fun to be around. Helping them learn words to express their fear, sadness, jealousy etc can be a large step forward.

You need to keep an eye out for the cues in your toddlers behavior that tell you when he's heading towards a toddler tantrum. Responding before he gets to boiling point will then become natural.
And as his emotions are dealt with in a more positive way, gradually the disruptive behaviour will be forgotten.

Rooting out the cause behind the bad behavior is so important, I can't stress that enough.
Manipulating your childs bad behaviour patterns with threats, bribes and control isn't going to treat the emotional problem, it's just sticking a band-aid over it and hoping it'll go away.

That's not to say that we don't need to deal with their bad behaviour of course.
If only for their own sake, an angry out of control child is an unhappy confused child.
You do need to be the one "in charge", but disciplining kids needs to be balanced with some sympathetic understanding. Your parenting problems are their problems too.

Watch for when it happens and think about the previous hour or two. What frustrations did he go through? Is he having to deal with situations that are too far out of his control?

It's very rare for a toddlers hitting out to actually be down to real aggression.
It's more likely frustration, or powerlessness. It can be that the first few times he did it he got a very satisfying response from you so now he does it whenever he needs attention. It could be the result of having no other outlet for his energies.

If you know that he hits others when he has had to be frustrated elsewhere in his life, then you can make sure that he only socializes in places and ways where he can be thoroughly relaxed and content. If he hates being strapped in the buggy don't have him in it for half an hour on the way to a play date.

If it's just pent up energy try taking him out to the park twice a day, give him more physical play however you can.
If he's doing it when he needs attention try to react less when it happens, and give him a little more one on one time when he's being good.

Sometimes the hitting happens when trying to "share" toys. Toddlers are rarely ready to learn about fairness or sharing. Either keep him out of those situations for a while or be alert, and ready for distraction techniques when you see it building up.

If he is hitting out at you when you have to take away his power, then you can try to avoid making him feel that way. Of course sometimes it's unavoidable but if you can let him know that you understand his feelings that can go a long way towards making lashing out unneeded.

Don't make the mistake of talking at him too much though. Keep talking short and to the point. Never whine, don't bargain, be firm but fair.

Try to make the world a less frustrating place for him, seeing things from his angle sometimes can be fun!

Hope my few tips can help you a little at least, whatever your parenting problems.
Most of all, remember you are not alone, don't be afraid to seek advice about your toddlers behavior problem.
I'm no expert but there are people out there who are, and can really help your family.
I'm only covering bits of the package that helped us the most, but there is much more available.
If you want to check out the methods we used here's the link again

Parenting Problems Solved

Fortunately it is never too late to take back the reins of the family and begin successful parenting.
Your angry toddler can be tamed, you can stop that toddler tantrum in its tracks.
Your children will be happier, nicer to live with and everyone benefits.