How to Raise Un-Rebellious Kids

There are two different very important reasons that kids will rebel, and do the opposite of nearly every thing you request.

Reason One: Child see, Child do!

This is not a complicated fundamental to understand. Just like you, a child can sniff out hypocrisy very well. If you do not do as you say, and say as you do. Expect that child to adopt that as a second nature. You certainly would not follow the example of a proven liar, so expect the same of your child. This is why the comment "do as I say not as I do", commonly used by stressed out parents all over the world, is one of the worst examples you can teach. You mine as well tell the child its okay to disobey!

Reason Two: Explain to your child how there choices can and more importantly will affect there life. Do not be negative, be honest!

Most children, and teens alike tend to think that they know it all. Can we really blame them when we were the same when we were that age? That being said, how are we as parents supposes to react when our children come to us for help, or advise on some of those big life choices? You react honestly, and be Stearn not angry. You look them in the eye, and you tell them the pros and con's of there choice, and the affect it will have on there life, NOT YOURS. Keep the energy flowing correctly, remember you are the parent there to guide the child. not the other way around.

Fact one: There is a natural flow in a family.

With out giving away to much of the amazing content that is in this eBook, let me briefly explain this. Think of the this "natural flow" as a river. The water in a river flows because it is constantly being pulled by gravity to the lowest point. So to kind of put it into perspective for you, consider yourself the high ground, and your children the low point. Keep the natural flow of things going toward them. For example, don't go to your children for advise. Your problems should not be the concern of any child. Let kids be kids. It is your job to be there for your children when they need advise. Not the other way around. Also, apply this same general rule to everything you can as a family. Don't burden your child with your problems, let them be kids and have fun.

Fact two: You are there to guide your children, but they are aloud to make the choices for themselves!

If your child is rebelling against every thing you are telling them, one cause would be that you have sheltered them from the repercussions of there poor choices. This is a mistake, if your child never feels the consequences of there mistake, they will assume that this is normal and will continue to make poor choices. Let your child make there own choice, after of course you talked to them about the pros and con's. With the ability to make there own choices, comes the responsibility to deal with the repercussions of that choice. That is the way of the "real world" and it is our responsibility as a parent to prepare them for that.

Example: If a child wishes to eat chocolate before there dinner, you simple say to the child. "if you eat this, your stomach will hurt and you will not want to eat your dinner" but go ahead if you want. Of course the child being a child will eat as much chocolate and they can, and of course there stomach will hurt, and there dinner will have been spoiled. The next time the child wishes to eat chocolate before the dinner, you simply remind them of how they felt making that choice the last time it happened.

This is a very simple concept. However, it is your responsibility to judge the severity of the choice and determine weather or not that child will get to "eat the chocolate".