Book Review: "The Magic of Making Up"
This lens reviews the popular downloadable self-help manual by T. W. ("T Dub") Jackson.
This guide, "The Magic of Making Up" is targeted to those who have had a breakup and would like to get back together with their ex. While certain experts emphasize the difficulty of reconnecting with an ex, T. W. Jackson offers a plan to follow to success. He makes neither extravagant claims of success nor any guarantees. His tone is positive throughout the book.
The author, T "Dub" as he likes to be called , does not lay claim to any type of training in counseling or psychology. He does lay claim to a wealth of personal experience through very many life situations, including being an "army brat". Apparently, many of his friends seek him out for advice or just plain help in relationships.
This guide, "The Magic of Making Up" is targeted to those who have had a breakup and would like to get back together with their ex. While certain experts emphasize the difficulty of reconnecting with an ex, T. W. Jackson offers a plan to follow to success. He makes neither extravagant claims of success nor any guarantees. His tone is positive throughout the book.
The author, T "Dub" as he likes to be called , does not lay claim to any type of training in counseling or psychology. He does lay claim to a wealth of personal experience through very many life situations, including being an "army brat". Apparently, many of his friends seek him out for advice or just plain help in relationships.
The Magic of Making Up Outlines a Strategy to Get Your Ex Back
Winning Your Ex Back Takes Time
T "Dub" in easy to follow language lays out a strategy for getting your ex back. He underscores the difference between a strategy and tactics. His plan starts with advising not to immediately try and contact your ex when in the middle of extreme panic, anxiety, and fear.
These emotions arise out of a profound sense of loss. Unfortunately, they impel us to engage in counter-productive behaviors, which he discusses in detail: text message terrorism, drunk dialing, hassling mutual friends about what your ex is doing and thinking,etc.
He does acknowledge one situation where contact soon after the breakup would be beneficial if handled correctly.
And he does not advise going back to an abusive relationship.
These emotions arise out of a profound sense of loss. Unfortunately, they impel us to engage in counter-productive behaviors, which he discusses in detail: text message terrorism, drunk dialing, hassling mutual friends about what your ex is doing and thinking,etc.
He does acknowledge one situation where contact soon after the breakup would be beneficial if handled correctly.
And he does not advise going back to an abusive relationship.
Winning Back Your Ex Requires Clearly Looking at the Relationship
The Magic of Making Up Offers a Structure to Help
Of course there are instructions to examine the relationship from all angles, raising such questions as:What keeps a man in a relationship?
What keeps a woman in a relationship?
What factors brought the couple to this break up?
Did either or both partners cheat?
What initially attracted you in the first place?
Can you feel wonderful feeling again?
Can your ex commit to you or anybody?
Do you have similar goals in life?
In the midst of emotional turmoil, it helps to have an outside source of advice to keep us on track.
Here's my favorite link:
Getting the Magic to Get Your Ex Back
Be the Best Person You Can Be
In a self-help manual such as this, there is plenty of advice on how to boost self-confidence. The author places emphasis on various methods to develop a more positive attitude physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Still unsteady emotionally, always at risk for text message terrorism? Try the "fast forward" technique to calm down. Of course a person can use those methods which have worked for them in the past: prayer, journaling, or meditation.
Gentle reminders are given to take care of oneself. Counsel is given about the wisdom of dieting and exercise during this time to keep up your energy and
spirits. Other practical suggestions are given about being at your best and looking at your best.
According to T "Dub", changing the energy helps to keep an ex interested. Though we all feel comfortable with the old, we all love a little change to spice things up.
Dating others while seeking to reconnect with your ex,as advised in this book, may make some uncomfortable.
To others it may simply seem illogical. This isn't the make him/her jealous rationale. It has to do with developing self-assurance and more.
After proper preparation, when and how to start the process back to your ex is covered in detail: when to contact your ex; the proper attitude to take; how to show interest - but not coming across desperate or needy; when to restart a sexual relationship and pitfalls for starting too soon.
Still unsteady emotionally, always at risk for text message terrorism? Try the "fast forward" technique to calm down. Of course a person can use those methods which have worked for them in the past: prayer, journaling, or meditation.
Gentle reminders are given to take care of oneself. Counsel is given about the wisdom of dieting and exercise during this time to keep up your energy and
spirits. Other practical suggestions are given about being at your best and looking at your best.
According to T "Dub", changing the energy helps to keep an ex interested. Though we all feel comfortable with the old, we all love a little change to spice things up.
Dating others while seeking to reconnect with your ex,as advised in this book, may make some uncomfortable.
To others it may simply seem illogical. This isn't the make him/her jealous rationale. It has to do with developing self-assurance and more.
After proper preparation, when and how to start the process back to your ex is covered in detail: when to contact your ex; the proper attitude to take; how to show interest - but not coming across desperate or needy; when to restart a sexual relationship and pitfalls for starting too soon.
The Strategy to Get Your Ex Back is the Magic
Tips and Tricks to Reconnect with Your Ex
The Magic of Making Up comes with two bonuses. Both describe certain little known "tactics" to enable a person to put his opinion across successfully. They have a way of moving past a person's defenses.
These bonuses teach skills best used after some success with the beginning stages of the strategy. Otherwise, the ex-partner might perceive a lack of sincerity, or feel manipulated.
The strategy really involves regaining composure and faith in oneself. After some thought about what you really want in life, you can move ahead confidently with your goal to reconnect with your ex. When you reach that stage, you can be sure you are being real with yourself. At that point, you can be real with your partner. With an underlying foundation of integrity, these tactics remain aids in communication, not a bag of slick tricks to get over on someone you supposedly love.
These bonuses teach skills best used after some success with the beginning stages of the strategy. Otherwise, the ex-partner might perceive a lack of sincerity, or feel manipulated.
The strategy really involves regaining composure and faith in oneself. After some thought about what you really want in life, you can move ahead confidently with your goal to reconnect with your ex. When you reach that stage, you can be sure you are being real with yourself. At that point, you can be real with your partner. With an underlying foundation of integrity, these tactics remain aids in communication, not a bag of slick tricks to get over on someone you supposedly love.
The Magic of Making Up- How to Get Your Ex Back
Final Thoughts
The Magic of Making Up is an excellent guide to lead anyone through the treacherous sea of emotions after a relationship breakup. No claim is made that you can bring your ex back in 3 days! However, for someone truly in love and willing to take the time to work on the relationship instead of dreaming of what could have been, this could be life changing.If you truly believe you can get your ex back, see "The Magic of Making Up"
The Magic of Making Up Bonuses
Tips and Tricks to Help You Get Your Ex Back
Committing to this strategy powers the process of getting your ex back. However, everyone needs some improvement in the area of communication in trying emotional situations.
T "Dub" offers 2 bonuses which give you a leg up on communicating with your ex. The first one, Mind Magic: Psychological Tactics for Relationships provides a subtle old school technique to keep your ex thinking about you.
The second, The Clean Slate Method helps you craft an apology. Even when you are sincere, just one word will lead to anger, disappointment, frustration and misunderstanding, Of course T "Dub" tells you how to properly state what you feel.
T "Dub" offers 2 bonuses which give you a leg up on communicating with your ex. The first one, Mind Magic: Psychological Tactics for Relationships provides a subtle old school technique to keep your ex thinking about you.
The second, The Clean Slate Method helps you craft an apology. Even when you are sincere, just one word will lead to anger, disappointment, frustration and misunderstanding, Of course T "Dub" tells you how to properly state what you feel.
And How Many Pages Are There?
More than Enough Pages to Get Your Ex Back!
For those who need to know, The Magic of Making Up is 62 pages long. The Mind Magic bonus is 23 pages. The Clean Slate Method is seven pages long.
Reading alone isn't going to solve your problem. You'll have to put the techniques into practice to see results.
Reading alone isn't going to solve your problem. You'll have to put the techniques into practice to see results.
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