Save My Marriage Today Secrets

In my mini-course, this is what you will learn.

Part 1 - Risk Factors for Divorce and Why You Should Ignore Them

- The top six predictors of divorce. Be aware of the statistics so that you can confront them head-on!
- The top six predictors of a long-lasting marriage. Are the odds in your favor?
- The keys to a successful marriage (hint: they're not being in love or always happy).
- Who tends to initiate divorce. Your partner may be contemplating divorce right now and you don't even know it!
- Who has the real power in your relationship. I'll tell you exactly who can turn your relationship around and how to do it!

Part 2 - The Real Marriage Killer: Loss of Love and Intimacy

- How to recognize when your relationship is in danger. Hint: it's not when you're arguing all the time!
- What to do if the love is gone. You'll be astounded at this advice!
- 25 Relationship Killers. Keep these from poisoning your relationship!
- The double 'D's. How disillusionment and disappointment can eat away at your marriage.

Part 3 - Affairs: How to Spot Them and Prevent Them Before They Occur

- When affairs are likely to occur. The stress points in your marriage that you have to watch out for.
- Where affairs happen. Prevent an affair before it happens by watching these troublesome areas.
- Will an affair destroy your marriage? What to consider.
- What to do if you suspect an affair. Hint: it's not to come out straight and accuse him/her.

Part 4 - Poor Communication: Getting Touchy Feely with Your Partner

- Getting your partner to open up. Some powerful strategies to get the communication flowing again.
- The Dos and Don'ts of Communication. Are bad communication patterns keeping your spouse from sharing with you?
- The Rules of Arguing. It's not a free-for-all!
- The Silent Poison. How resentment can destroy your marriage and how communication can help.

Part 5 - Lack of Commitment: If You're Involved in Something (or Someone) Else, You're Not Involved with Your Spouse

- How modern attitudes towards marriage work against commitment. How generational attitudes towards marriage can sabotage commitment before it starts.
- The danger of being a workaholic.
- How children can divide a marriage.
- The danger of the Internet.

Part 6 - Growing Apart: Keep It from Happening to You!

- Incompatibility. Spot it before incompatibility splits you up.
- Your Partner is a Book. Read him/her, even if you haven't shared in the past!
- Mid-Life Crises. The danger zone of middle age.

This mini course will give you some basic tools to deal with a dissolving marriage, but I can't possibly tell you everything in just six emails. That's why I put everything into my e-book, Save My Marriage Today! It's got so, so much more. It's chockfull of useful exercises designed to give you a better understanding of what's causing problems with your marriage and how to fix them. You'll learn about conflict resolution, increasing intimacy, how to deal with an affair, and much, much more. Click on the link below to see exactly how I can help your marriage get back on its feet again!

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What if you and your partner had a tool to track and/or plan the course of your marriage, or marital finances? And you could work on it together. Here it is.

SAVE MY MARRIAGE TODAY 6-PART MINI-COURSE - DAY 1

Risk Factors for Divorce and Why You Should Ignore Them
by Amy Waterman

If your marriage is struggling, unhappy, or on the verge of divorce, you need to have the best information available at your fingertips. You need to know what factors could be working against your marriage right now, even if you see nothing wrong. Many people believe that their marriage is working fine until their spouse gives them the wake-up call.

Marriages either grow or weaken: they don't stay static. That means that a secure marriage isn't one where things are always the same. A solid marriage is one in which you never stop putting in effort to make it better and better.

You wouldn't be visiting the Save My Marriage Today! website unless your marriage was in crisis. This six-part course is intended as an eye-opener to show you why your marriage may have gotten to this point and what behaviors may be leading you further down the path to divorce. If you're going to restore, heal, and strengthen your marriage, you HAVE to think frankly about the reasons your marriage isn't satisfying both you and your partner. That's where this course can help.

Top Six Predictors of Divorce

Let's start out with the things that you can't change. Some marriages start off with a number of challenges arrayed against them; other marriages have factors in their favor. If any of the following situations apply to you and your partner, don't despair. These are risk factors--not determining factors. It may just mean
that you need extra help (such as professional counseling) to work through the issues that you and your partner are facing.

1. You married in your teens.

Study after study shows that age at marriage is one of the most powerful and consistent predictors of marital stability. If you marry before you turn twenty, you are much likely to divorce.

2. You lived together before marriage.

Many young people today believe that living together before marrying will test their compatibility and keep them from making a mistake by marrying someone they don't know fully. Despite the widespread prevalence of this belief, the evidence just doesn't back it up. Even though over half of all first marriages are preceded by a period of living together, don't do it just because everyone else is doing it. Living together before marriage
considerably increases your chances of eventually divorcing--unless you were already engaged beforehand and marry soon after moving in together.

3. Your parents or your partner's parents were divorced.

Children of divorced parents are more likely to divorce themselves (as well as less likely to marry in the first place). This risk can be mitigated if one of you comes from a happy, intact family. If both you and your partner come from broken homes, the divorce risk soars.

4. You have a child together before marriage.

On a positive note, couples with children have a slightly lower risk of divorce than childless couples, if their first child is born seven months or more after they marry. Having a child together before that period will increases your risk of divorce.

5. You haven't been married long.

The first two years of a marriage are critical, and half of all divorces occur by the seventh year of a marriage. The longer you've been married, the more likely you are to stay married.

6. Your annual income is under $25,000.

Money matters. Financial strains often break up marriages, as when money is tight, arguments and marital tensions increase. In fact, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers considers financial problems to be one of the five most common reasons for divorce (along with poor communication, lack of marital commitment,
infidelity, and a dramatic change in priorities.)

Top Six Predictors of a Long-Lasting Marriage

If you're facing challenges in your marriage, it may be comforting to know that you have some factors in your favor. These predictors are limited to factors that were set in place when you married and don't include aspects like good communication and conflict resolution skills.

1. You were both older when you married.

Getting married over the age of twenty-five (as opposed to your teens) will decrease your chances of divorce. This is because older individuals tend to be more mature, clearer about what they're looking for in a partner, and have more economic stability.

2. You share the same religion or belief system.

Sharing a religion is a powerful bond, because it brings you and your partner together on a spiritual level and gives your marriage a sense of a higher purpose. When you are both active in a religion, you have counseling and a strong support network available to foster you through difficult times in your marriage.
Too, your shared values and life goals sustain your marriage and keep you growing together rather than apart.

3. You have some higher education.

A college degree isn't necessary to increase your chances of a long-lasting marriage, but some higher education will decrease your chances of divorce considerably with comparison to a high-school dropout.

4. Your parents are still together.

If you grew up in an intact family, your chances of divorce are less in comparison to someone who grew up with divorced parents. This is because so much of what we learn about marriage and marital behavior comes from watching our parents. If our parents developed strategies for staying together, we'll absorb those strategies in childhood and be able to use them ourselves in our adult relationships.

5. Your income is above $50,000.

Couples with medium to high incomes tend to experience less strife over money management. They have the financial security to worry less about making a living and more about making a life.

6. You have a child together.

Couples with children have a lower risk of divorce compared to childless couples. However, be warned: the most stressful time in a marriage is after the birth of the first child. That's why it's so important that the first child is born only after the marriage has developed a strong foundation.

The Keys to a Successful Marriage

According to Michael P. Johnson, professor of sociology at Penn State, there are three things that keep a person in a marriage: people want to stay, they feel they ought to stay, and/or they have to stay. This combination of personal, moral, and structural commitment serves to keep people in marriages.

Notice that commitment keeps people in marriage--not happiness. Dr. Ted Huston of the University of Texas Austin studied couples from courtship to marriage. His ten-year-plus study exploded many popular misconceptions about love. For example, he found that many recently wed couples did not experience newlywed bliss; in fact, couples whose marriages began with "Hollywood romance" intensity soon burned out. A couple expecting wedded bliss every day of their lives was actually more likely to divorce than a couple with
a less exciting relationship, because they were more likely to consider divorce when those intense feelings subsided. Does that mean that less exciting, even lackluster relationships last? They do indeed, perhaps because they have less far to fall.

mbers may fight, disagree, and encounter stalemates, but they know that their happiness and satisfaction in life depends on the success of the team--not on their individual success.

When Marriage Fails ... Who and How

Contrary to popular belief, it's not men who seek divorce. It's women, by an overwhelming majority. The reasons for this are varied. Part of it is the nature of divorce laws; another part is the fact that men tend to have more problems with marriage-destroying behaviors like alcoholism, affairs, and substance abuse, that cause their wives to seek separation.

Divorce is hard on everyone. The damage divorce causes to children is usually worse than the damage caused by living in a two-parent home with marital difficulties. pular belief that children are better off if their parents divorce rather than live together. Studies show that only in a minority of
high-conflict situations is this true.

After a divorce, a woman's standard of living can be expected to drop while a man's standard of living may actually improve. Yet men suffer in other ways. Divorced and separated men are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men. This is partially due to the fact that men, unlike women, are less likely to have a strong support network to share their feelings. Whether

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