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Welcome to my lens regarding sexless marriages and how to cope in them and fix them completely.


Anyone who ends up in a sexless marriage or relationship undergoes an emotional turmoil which is one of the worst things imaginable.


If you're in a sexless marriage and wish to find help, advice, or a solution to it, you've come to the right place, for in this lens I'll provide advice for sexless marriages and also review a wonderful sitefor men and women in sexless relationships: FixYourSexlessMarriage.com.


Read the rest of this webpage without skipping a single word to see how you to can cure your sexless relationship.

Living In a Sexless Marriages - Why does It Occur?

Here are some things about sexless marriages which you may not know:

  1. Sexless marriages are very common. It is estimated that in the US alone there are Millions of couples who are living in a sexless marriage

  2. Sexless marriage doesn't mean zero sex. It can also mean very infrequent sex

  3. Sexless marriages occur with couples of all ages, not just older couples

  4. This may be common, but it's not something which has to happen. It's up to the couple to make sure it never happens

  5. It is often the man who loses his sexual interest. In fact, women complain about sexless marriages far more than men do

  6. Sexless Marriages occur for a variety of reasons, and are usually the result of deeper relationship issues between husband and wife



If you're living in a sexless marriage and wish to turn it to the better, I suggest you read this guide: Solve your Sexless Marriage.

Sexless Marriage Solutions and Remedies

Can a you fix a sexless marriage or relationship?

First of all, let me spell it out so that you know this: Almost all sexless marriages can be fixed. There are a number of ways to do this.

Here are some sexless marriages solutions and remedies:

  1. Couples' Therapy: in this solution, you and your spouse decide to go to a therapist who meets with you once a week over a period of a few months and talks to you about your relationship problems. This has some major disadvantages:
    • It takes a lot of time

    • It costs a lot. Expect to spend thousands of dollars on this

    • It requires the active cooperation of your partner which is sometime difficult to get


    Of course, for some people this works and is something worth considering

  2. Using a sexless marriage help guide like the excellent one by Kate Dixon and Dean Mason, Fix Your Sexless Marriage. This has some major advantages
    • It's fast

    • You can use it at home

    • You don't have to get your spouse involved in every step of the process

    • It's much more affordable


    I know that Kate Dixon and Dean Mason are also offering a Free Sexless Marriage Consultation for people who purchase their guide, so it's even more productive for you. I should say that I know that this Free consultation offer is only on for a limited time, so I'd hurry if I were you. I read the guide and found it to be excellent.

Survive a Sexless Marriage - Why Is That So Hard To Do

Surviving a sexless marriage is very hard. The feelings of rejection are intense and build up over time. I know for a fact that many people in sexless marriages go to bed in tears feeling ashamed and alone.

What's even worse than the day to day living in a sexless marriage is fearing for the future. And indeed, sexless marriages are more prone to end in divorce due to the bad emotions which develop within the relationship.

Surviving in a sexless marriage is difficult because sex is a key ingredient of any romantic relationship and marriage without sex is merely half the marriage.

That's why solving the root causes of why your marriage became sexless is so important.

Kate Dixon and Dean Mason's Sexless Marriage Books

How Good Is It Really

Kate Dixon and Dean Mason offer two guides on how to cure sexless marriages: one for women and one for men. It's the only place I know to get a book which is gender specifically.

Get Him In The Mood, Kate Dixon's guide for women in sexless relationships is an easy to read and to apply guide for women who wish to fix their sexless marriages or relationships and get the sex back into them.

That's the first key point here: this book is for women only. That's what makes it so powerful: it's not trying to apply to both men and women, which would have made it totally useless since men and women are so different.

By writing a Sexless Marriage Book for women only, Kate Dixon is able to address the issues from a woman's perspective and talk directly to women. She has a unique understanding of the emotional process women in sexless marriages and relationships go through, and also the steps which women can take to get their husbands or boyfriends to want to have more sex with them.

What I particularly like about Get Him In The Mood, is that women are empowered by it. That's right, you can solve your sexless marriage or relationship from a position of strength, and it shows you how. In fact, this book details an empowerment process the woman needs to undergo which will make it so much easier to get the sex back into your marriage.

I highly recommend Get Him In The Mood. It also comes with a few great bonus guides, as well as Free 30 days of email consultation with Kate.

Dean Mason co-authored the book for men which is called Get Her In The Mood. It is also wonderful and can be found at this website: Get Her In The Mood.

Sexless Marriage and Divorce - Must It End In This Way

Sexless marriages don't have to end in divorce, but they are more prone to come to that.

The reason why sexless marriages are more prone to end in divorce is that the extent to which the bad emotions in sexless marriages can come to may eventually be too much for the relationship to survive.

But, not all sexless marriages end in divorce. Some couples go on for years having little or no sex at all. Some people accept this as fate, which may even be sadder than getting a divorce eventually, since living life without sex is giving up something wonderful.

Don't give up the hope of having sex in your marriage. Click here to Fix Your Sexless Marriage

Reader Feedback

  • Ann Aug 14, 2010 @ 11:22 am | delete
    My married life has been terrible. Married 43 years and about 27-28 years without sex. after our last child was born sex was over. My husband started to work nights about the same time. Reason he said the extra money and help with our kids. He stayed on nights till we retired and were on a fixed income. Also during a time my husband got depressed and started taking meds, also E/d developed and nothing worked as far as sex goes. Now since retirement intimacy disappeared altogether. he dosen't want me to touch him and he wont touch me. Not even a peck on the cheek. When confronted him he sluffed off the question and proceeded to tell me he hadn't really loved me for years. I was so mad I shook, at the time I couldn't even cry. When I quieted down and approached him if we could talk he said sure. I was suprised. He said the love was gone about 35 years ago and made believe we were happily married. I asked if there was some one else male or female. He said absoultly no. I believe him in that respect cause he is always home, never goes out I don't think he has one close friend. A very lonely person. I can't just up and leave him I haven't anyone close enough to stay with. He has a good pension with great medical care so I stay in this miserable marriage. Also I couldn't survive alone out in the real word. He treats me well I want for nothing (except affection and love). We just stay away from each other except at dinner.
  • Tom Jul 19, 2010 @ 1:33 am | delete
    Hi everyone ,
    I am a 34 year old man who has been head over heals in love with my wife since the first moment we met 8 years ago . I had all but given up on finding a soul mate until I met her . We didn't jump into the sack right out of the gate , we waited probably about 6 months into dating before we had sex. When we did it was magical . We got married 4 years ago . I love her with all my heart . We had our first son 11 months after we got married. Our sex life has been almost none existent since then . We had a short time of passion that lasted a couple of months which resulted in our second son . Now , we rarely have any kind of physical contact. I used to try and snuggle or touch , but now i just hug the side of the bed . I almost dread bed time now because I go to bed angry. I have tried to talk to her about it but I don't think that she knows how much of a problem it is . I have tried to get into really good shape to try to maybe turn her on again , but she doesn't notice, or care. I know that I am an attractive man , but she makes me feel so ugly sometimes. I just want to be the object of my wife's desires again.The only problem is that I don't think she desires sex at all anymore . I would never cheat on her , but , I keep having dreams about her cheating on me. I just don't know what to do anymore. I love my wife, my kids , but my marriage is lacking the passion which is necessary for it to stay alive
  • momo Jun 6, 2010 @ 1:51 pm | delete
    I have been married for going on 8 yrs. Our sex life now is nearly non-existent. I think we have had sex maybe 6-8 last year and something like 4-5 times this year. Every time we have sex or any sexual encounter it is because I begged/asked for it. It has gotten to the point where I feel guilty and ashamed even bringing sex up to my wife. About every 3 months I reach a breaking point and we fight over this issue. She simply tells me she does not enjoy sex. How is this supposed to make me feel? I love my wife to death and I am very attracted to her. I don't ever think about leaving her or cheating on her. I just want this to end and for our sex life to get back on track. The last time we argued about this she told me she resents me more and more for bringing this up. I have nobody else to talk to and I am at the end of my rope. Nothing seems to change. Where do I go from Here???
  • Rick Dec 14, 2009 @ 7:39 pm | delete
    If a partner, male or female. Is not getting the sexual attention in the home bed then unless they have real low self-esteem, they will seek elsewhere for the physical loving they crave and desire.

    This doesn't mean that they don't love their partner. A relationship is made up of many factors and sex is just one of them. If couples in this age were less possesive and more open with each other then their would be a lot less cheating going on IMHO.

    My advice is to learn your partners needs and if a bj or hj seems like work to you and you just cannot be bothered then either just do it (along with putting the toilet seat down et al) and keep them happy or let go the possesive strings so that they can find sexual release elsewhere.
  • joyce Oct 25, 2009 @ 12:08 pm | delete
    How many of these men who are not having sex with their wives are having sex with someone else? I was in a sexless marriage then discovered that my husband had been having an affair for 15 years.
  • wooffen Dec 14, 2009 @ 1:30 pm | delete
    joyce, why were you in a sexless marriage, did you not desire sex, did you not offer it to your husband? seems to me, that if you accepted this for 15 years, it was not your prime concern, and maybe a little together time was his concern?
  • Anonymous..... Oct 11, 2009 @ 4:21 pm | delete
    There is so much more to a marriage than sex. Try not to put too much emphasis on it. My story is the same as most of yours, my wife and I had stellar sex the first few years then she went thru the "change" and sex became painful for her...so as a result it became less frequent to none at all....I can honestly say that I love my wife and yes... I would love to have sex with her, but its not something that validates this relationship. We spend time with each other, go places, have dinner dates and TALK to each other,.. I don't pressure her about sex because I don't think its fair to. I love her enough that being with her is the most important thing...I mean that sincerely. I think that if sex is the "glue" that holds a marriage together then it won't take much to tear it apart anyway...and there is an underlying issue within your relationship that having sex with each other simply won't cure...just remember that sex is just the icing on the cake, not the cake itself.
  • emelie Sep 4, 2009 @ 4:51 pm | in reply to pregnant | delete
    hi preggy i know wat ur going thur i hv experenced the feeling of being trashed away in terms of sex for both my pregnancies n ever since these i hv been living in a sexless marriage fro the past five years.its the most horrible feeling ever i feel stuck cz of my kids..i wish i was wiht a man who wd mk love to me every nite..nite n day thats how desperate i hv become even though at an average i wd b happy wht just once a week. am young n happening n exciting n pretty n just cant understand wats wrong
  • Stuck May 10, 2009 @ 1:02 am | delete
    I am in a relationship for 4 years with my boyfriend and we do not have sex. We love each other very much and talk about our future together, including marriage and children. We have taken counselling, together and separate, and we are still facing this problem. He blames himself and says it is his lack of desire, and that this has been an ongoing problem in all of his previous relationships. Being a woman, I have always thought it had to do with him not wanting me, and have dieted, exercised, read books, and took counselling to try and improve myself. I realise now that it is up to him to make a change. I know that there is nothing wrong with me. He has to affect change in his life too, something he is slow in doing. Somehow we have made the decision to keep trying to make this relationship work, without sex. We speak openly and we have a lot of love and respect for each other. But is that enough when there is no sex? Am I creating a future for myself that will one day end in divorce?
  • wooffen Dec 14, 2009 @ 1:32 pm | delete
    dear stuck,,, run, do not walk, just leavve, it will eventually haunt your every waking and sleeping moment, you deserve better!
  • Paula May 1, 2009 @ 12:45 am | delete
    The time I have been married I think is not the main think, what happen to me is that my preferences about the way my man looks has change, and counseling will not help. I guess I need a change of looks. even though my husband is a good person and loves me, I just don't have desire to be with him.
    The problem is that I have a daughter and I am scare about what happen if I decide to divorce, because I want to be with her most of the time since she is just 6 months. I could not share like a car. Thats m problem, any suggestions? Should i stay until she get older?
  • wooffen Dec 14, 2009 @ 1:38 pm | delete
    Paula, what you should do and what you will do are two different things. You have just had a child with this man and now you do not want him? You do not want to leave because you can't bare to share the child with her father. So you will decide to stay, begrudging have sex with this poor schmuck rarely, leaching off of him and will ultimately have an affair! do the right thing and leave!
  • wounded heart Mar 14, 2009 @ 7:44 pm | delete
    I've basically given up on the hope of ever "lighting his fire" My husband and I have been married for thirty eight years and although the temptation might be to think that age related changes might be the culprit here, Let me illustrate the true problem. I will truly go to my grave believing that I a, the most undessirable woman on the face of the earth. Even back in our twenties when we were separated for six months as he went ahead to find a job and I stayed behind fto sell the house. When he returned after all that time he was sincerely thrilled to see me and definitely noticed that I had lost all of my "baby weight" having given birth 8 ,onths ago. I was down to 108 pounds and even after a separation of six months I actually had to ask him to make love to me. Not much has changed in all these years. He still doesn't desire me although he will NEVER EVER comfirm this . I often tell him that he is my fourth brother (3 biological). How do I live with this pain HELP!
  • wooffen Dec 14, 2009 @ 1:43 pm | delete
    have you ever thought that maybe your husband is secretly GAY? I seriously doubt you are so unattractive as to not be desirable! I would reccommend an affair, if for no other reason than to bolster your own selfconfidence, you deserve more girl!
  • Gary Feb 27, 2009 @ 12:57 pm | delete
    I have bben married for over eleven years. Just as others have stated, the sex was good for the first three years, was less frequent, and know it has been over three years with no sex. It started out with a surgery that required her to go to pain management, with other reasons such as having a headache, back ache, etc.
    I even sleep in a different room (since the surgery), and I guess have just "Learned to accept it". Time goes by so fast in life, somtimes you just get stuck.
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