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Signs of Infidelity - The 21 Major Categories

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Did you know that there are literally hundreds of signs of infidelity?  It comes as a surprise to most people -- especially those who are unsuspecting victims of infidelity - to find out just how many signs of infidelity there really are.   

Some signs of infidelity very obvious, while others, in fact, the vast majority of them, are quite subtle.  These are the signs that are easy to overlook - even when they're staring you in the face.                

When I began researching and documenting signs of infidelity almost 14 years ago, I found that all signs of infidelity, regardless of whether they were obvious or subtle  signs, could be grouped into one of  21 major categories.              

I've listed these categories below along with the number of  signs of infidelity in each category.  All of these signs are listed in Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook. 

Once you know what to look for, any and all of these signs of infidelity can be found using nothing more than your own eyes and ears, your personal knowledge of your mate, and the information in the book.  No special skills or equipment required. And despite the title of the book, most of the signs of infidelity in it apply to cheating women, as well as cheating men.      

Read on for descriptions of the 21 major categories of signs of infidelity.   Additional information can be found at www.InfidelityAdvice.com

1. PHYSICAL APPEARANCE - 76 telltale signs

A man having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will want to make himself more attractive. He will begin to enhance his appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in his wardrobe, his grooming, his body, and his personal hygiene. These are usually the most visible signs of infidelity. If he embarks on a drastic self-induced makeover, it's probably not for you. More than likely he's trying to attract or impress someone else.

2. HOW HE RELATES TO YOU - 70 telltale signs

The way your husband relates to you can provide many telltale signs. His involvement with another woman will cause him to treat you differently -- even on a subconscious level. This is one of those areas where a wife can pick up signs of infidelity that a private investigator might otherwise overlook.

3. CONVERSATIONAL CLUES - 70 telltale signs

What your husband chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you to his involvement in an extramarital affair. He may mention new people, places and things, while the people, places and things he normally talks about are no longer a part of his conversation. Even his tone of voice can be an important telltale sign.

4. WORK HABITS - 39 telltale signs

Work is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time away from home. Men often use their jobs as a cover for their extramarital affairs. Your husband's work habits will undoubtedly change as his affair unfolds. Be on the lookout work-related telltale signs.

5. DAY-TO-DAY BEHAVIOR - 92 telltale signs

We are all creatures of habit. We all have a routine that we usually follow each day. A man who is cheating will display changes of some kind in his normal patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to any deviations in your husband's daily routine. These deviations are telltale signs.

6. FINANCIAL AFFAIRS - 52 telltale signs

Affairs cost money. If your husband has a lover, he'll want to wine her, dine her, entertain her and buy her occasional gifts. No matter how carefully he tries to cover his tracks, sooner or later this will be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for financial signs of infidelity.

7. TRAVEL - 27 telltale signs

Your husband may not always be traveling for legitimate reasons. Even if he is, he may decide to combine business with a little pleasure. Travel affords a cheating husband a unique opportunity to cheat away from prying eyes.

8. PERSONALITY OR BEHAVIORAL CHANGES - 36 telltale signs

Be alert for changes in your husband's attitude, personality or behavior. Whether they are drastic or subtle, changes of this type are often an indication of infidelity.

9. ABSENCES - 39 telltale signs

Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. Since there are only 24 hours in a day, your husband's absences will become increasingly more frequent as he tries to steal time from other activities so he can be with his lover.

10. TELEPHONE TIP-OFFS - 76 telltale signs

Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place by phone. These telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find. Many men take the risk of calling their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home. Many wives (like me) discover their husband's infidelity either directly or indirectly by the telephone.

11. CAR CLUES - 40 telltale signs

Your husband's (or the family) car can be a rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats (underneath and between), the tire well, the underside of the visor, the ashtray, the side pockets or compartments, under the floor mats and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information.

12. SEX - 37 telltale signs

Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality of your sex life together. Most important of all: If you suspect your husband of having an affair, take steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk for HIV/AIDS, herpes or other sexually transmitted diseases.

13. EATING HABITS - 31 telltale signs

This is an area that wives usually overlook when checking for telltale signs. But your husband's eating habits can be influenced or affected by his lover. Without even realizing it, he may develop a preference for the type of food she eats, the way she likes her food prepared or the kind of restaurants in which she likes to eat. These are the types of telltale signs it would never occur to him to conceal.

14. SMELLS AND TASTES - 21 telltale signs

Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. You may be oblivious to it until it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if your husband smells or tastes "different," or if something in your home or car just doesn't smell "right." It may warrant closer investigation.

15. INVASION OF YOUR HOME - 22 telltale signs

It's not uncommon for a man who's cheating to invite his lover to his home. When this happens, it's not unheard of for lovers to leave personal items behind--sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting wife to find. You will usually find evidence in your bedroom or bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you were away. But telltale signs of infidelity may turn up in other areas of your home, as well.

16. GIFTS - 19 telltale signs

Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts are usually exchanged. During the holidays and various other times throughout the year, you may find gifts or cards hidden around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card bills for gifts may turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine's Day.

17. COMPUTER USE - 30 telltale signs

It's common these days for a cheating husband to use e-mail to communicate with his lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an indication of his involvement in an online or cyber affair. Don't take this lightly. These affairs can be as harmful to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not involve sexual contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and can quickly progress from cyberspace to physical reality.

18. CELL PHONES AND PAGERS/BEEPERS - 28 telltale signs

Today's technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat on his wife. But it's also easier for a husband to get caught while trying to make contact or stay in touch with his lover.

19. PHYSICAL EVIDENCE - 32 telltale signs

Many times there's physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check your husband's wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser drawers, the wastepaper basket, his closet shelves, the floor in the back of his closet, the garage, his study, filing cabinets, his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can think of. Keep your eyes open. You'll be surprised at the kinds of physical evidence of infidelity you can find.

20. HIS BEHAVIOR AROUND OTHER WOMEN - 71 telltale signs

Studies show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone he already knows-someone he comes in contact with on a regular basis -- a neighbor, a coworker, a family friend or business associate. If you're observant, you may be able to determine the identity of your husband's lover by the way he behaves in her presence, or by how she behaves around him.

21. ACCIDENTAL SLIPS-UPS OR DISCLOSURES - 57 telltale signs

Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been up to by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An accidental slip-up on his part or on the part of someone else can clue you in to what's been happening behind your back.

Do you know what signs to look for in each of the 21 categories listed above? The future of your marriage or relationship could depend on your ability to spot the signs of infidelity in time. You can't afford to be the last one to know.

Excerpts taken from Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs. © copyright 2004-2007 by Ruth Houston. All rights reserved.

What Signs of Infidelity Can Tell You about Your Cheating Husband's Affair

Signs of infidelity can tell you practically anything you want to know about your husband's extramarital affair. Knowing what to look for is the key. If you know what signs of infidelity to look for, you can find out:

1. when, where, and how often they meet
2. how deeply involved they are
3. what kind of affair it is (emotional affair, cyber affair, workplace affair, etc)
4. whether or not the affair poses a serious threat to your marriage
5. who the other woman is (Chapter 26, in Is He Cheating on You? entitled His Behavior Around Other Women, contains 71 signs of infidelity that can help you determine the identity of the Other Woman)

Educate Yourself about Signs of Infidelity

Notice that next to each category, you will see the number of signs of infidelity that particular category contains.

For example:
The category of Day-to-Day Behavior contains 92 signs of infidelity. After reading the description of this category, if you can't think of 92 different things to look for in your partner's day-to-day behavior which could indicate infidelity, you should strongly consider investing in a copy of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs so you'll know exactly what to look for. You can't afford to be the last one to know

Another example:
In the category of Conversational Clues, there are 70 different signs of infidelity. Do you know 70 different things to listen for when talking to your mate, that can alert you to an extramarital affair? Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs lists all 70 of these conversational signs of infidelity.

Protect yourself and your relationship by learning to recognize the signs of infidelity.

How to Order Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs

Because of the sensitive nature of this information,
and to protect the privacy of the customers who order this book, Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs is NOT available in bookstores.

To order your personal copy of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs ($29.95 + $4.95 shipping and handling), which will be rushed to you by Priority Mail see below:

3 Ways to order

1. http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com
2. 1-800-431-1579 - 24 hour toll free number
3. Amazon.com

For the convenience of customers outside the United States, or for others who want immediate access to this information, Is He Cheating on You? is also available as an e-book from Booklocker.com for $37.
(http://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.html)

Subtle Signs of Infidelity vs Obvious signs of Infideity

When most people think of signs of infidelity, they tend to think of the obvious or most common signs of infidelity that almost everybody knows. The problem with that is that the cheater knows these signs as well as you do, and these are the signs the cheater will cover up.

But there are hundreds of subtle signs of infidelity that the cheater doesn't even realize he's displaying. So of course it's impossible to cover them up. But if you know what to look for, you'll catch the cheater every time. Knowing what to look for is the key.

Where there's one sign of infidelity, there are usually numerous other corroborating signs just waiting to be found. In fact, if a person is really cheating, you will find clusters of signs from several of the 21 categories all at once. Knowing this will save you from the embarrassment of making a false accusation of infidelity.

For more information about the difference between the obvious signs of infidelity and the subtle signs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com and read the article entitled The Top 10 Signs of Infidelity and Why They Won't Help You Catch a Cheating Mate.

Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Infidelity Reports

Visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com to see the list of nine FREE infidelity tip sheets and special infidelity reports that you can request by e-mail. This information is FREE and contains practical, no-nonsense, immediately useable advice on various aspects of infidelity.

If He's Cheating, You Can Gain the Upper Hand

There are a number of things you can do (even behind the scenes) to gain the upper hand if you find signs of infidelity indicating that your cheating husband is having an extramarital affair. Visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com and read the article entitled How Wives with Cheating Husbands can Gain the Upper Hand, or click the Contact Me button under my picture to request the Upper Hand Tip Sheet which has even more detailed infidelity advice.

For Men with Cheating Wives or Girlfriends:

Despite the title, most of the signs of infidelity in Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs apply to cheating women as well as cheating men. However, if you are a man seeking signs of infidelity for a cheating wife or cheating girlfriend, you can to refer to the special section for men in the e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? entitled Is SHE Cheating?

The e-book version of Is He Cheating on You? is available from Booklocker.com for $37

The number of cheating wives is fast approaching number of cheating men. In the past 10 years female infidelity has increased 50%. Because men are generally oblivious to the warning signs of infidelity, by the time most unsuspecting husbands find out their wives are cheating, it's usually too late. Your best defense is to know how to spot the early warning signs of infidelity so you can save your marriage or relationship before it's too late.

Reader Feedback

  • vaponte2 Feb 15, 2010 @ 7:50 pm | delete
    Hi, your lens was powerful! Wow, a lot of really good information! Do you have or know of a relationship group?
  • vaponte2 Feb 15, 2010 @ 7:50 pm | delete
    Hi, your lens was powerful! Wow, a lot of really good information! Do you have or know of a relationship group?
  • relationship-squidz Jan 22, 2008 @ 1:12 pm | delete
    Lots of great advice, if you do happen to miss the signs you can always take a look at cheating husband
  • MarilynBB Oct 22, 2007 @ 4:37 pm | delete
    Hi Ruth

    Lots of great information here. Hope this helps those who are ready to confront a cheater gain the information they need to be firm and confident.
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