Why it's The UnChoice ... unwanted or coerced abortions, risky aftermath, hope
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Unwanted abortions are common
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Unwanted, coerced or forced abortion in America is a disturbingly common problem.Coerced abortions come in many forms and coercion comes from all sides. Personal coercion may include employment, housing or financial blackmail and personal abuse, deceptive or false information from trusted experts, or negligence and pressure, abuse of authority or even personal force and threats that can escalate to violence.
The threats women face aren't idle. Homicide is the leading killer of pregnant women.
Negligent or deceptive counseling or false information presented by experts, guides or gatekeepers as fact is also common and can add to the subtle or overt synergy of coercion.
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Why it's The UnChoice
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- Portraits of Coercion
- Words from teens, women and families who've been there, plus surprising new, well-documented facts. A quick and poignant snapshot of this issue.
- Why it's The UnChoice - Top 10 Reasons
- A list of surprising new facts.
- Ad: Restored Rose
- A compassionate ad for those who didn't choose abortion ... and a message that hope and healing are not easy, but possible
- What Every American Needs to Know
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- The UnChoice Definition
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1) Join our e-list ... for The UnLetter update on new resources, free downloads and seminars, plus news, new published research and articles from the Elliot Institute - America's leading source of post-abortion research, education and outreach.2) Link to The UnChoice.com Help get the word out and multiply the impact when others use the free resources, too, or find the answers or help they were seeking.
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Your words matter, too. Because many injustices surround pregnancy-related abuses, it helps to choose words with care when discussing it personally or publicly. Many families have been deeply hurt and some have also lost daughters, sisters, wives, mothers or friends in abortion's aftermath. Many were or are coerced or forced into unwanted or deceptively sold abortions.
Call it "The UnChoice" (See Top 10 Reasons and The UnDefinition) and refer to "the abortion" or "an abortion" vs. presuming it was her, his or their free "choice" ... that it was freely, fairly or fully and adequately disclosed, informed and supported ... or that it was an uncoerced or unforced "choice."
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many have been personally affected, encouraging comments welcome
We'd like to hear from you. Many individuals and families among us have been affected by unthinkable pregnancy-related abuses, deceptive practices, direct or indirect abuse of power, and other injustices surrounding this issue.
Many families are grieving not only the loss of a child, but also the loss of a loved one to pregnancy-related violence, coerced abortion, botched abortion or post-abortion harm and heartbreak. This includes risk of permanent injury, future miscarriages, 3.5 times higher risk of death from all causes and 6 times higher risk of suicide. (For sources and more, see TheUnChoice.com)
Personal experiences vary widely. It's a sensitive issue.The heartbreak of many families is often clouded by political rhetoric. Given this widely varied climate and our often-distracted "Information Age," we're seeking encouraging comments that reach out to individuals and families whose personal experience was often quite different from common presumptions.
There are many ways you can help. Forward this lens. Consider starting or supporting a pregnancy resource group close to home. Put your arm around someone who's been there and remember that things aren't always what they seem.
For example, one woman whose wealthy and respected husband abused her behind closed doors said those who knew her would be shocked to know "the rest of the story" about a coerced abortion that happened years ago. She rarely shares her story for fear of judgment. Another whose sister's tears and protestations were ignored at the clinic after which that sister - the mother of 3 - later took her own life, said the abortion rhetoric is just too hard to bear. Still another father whose beautiful, happy daughter took her own life after abortion is also deeply hurt by the rhetoric and just wants people to help women and families facing pregnancy-related challenges.
We welcome positive comments and simply a desire to learn more about this issue. (You'll find more resources at TheUnChoice.com, including how to find or offer a hand).
This is a call for withholding judgment and offering true compassion.
Thanks for your patience, thanks for your compassion, and thanks for visiting our lens!
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- vjekog01 vjekog01 Aug 14, 2009 @ 7:16 pm
- I didnt have the abortion, but I was looking for one, in 1965, couldnt get one!! My daughter Anna was adopted, but I got to know her and she is happily married with one child. I got married soon after her birth and had five children, one died. They are all well and need prodding as catholics, but otherwise ok.
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- LuGraTeBe LuGraTeBe Aug 1, 2009 @ 2:47 pm
- Thanks for all you do and for adding this lens here at Squidoo. I pray it reaches all post abortive people who need help and those who may be considering an abortion. I can add my exerience -- abortion does NOT help anything. It ruined much of my life. Through the love of God and Rachel's Vineyard Healing Retreats, I have found forgiveness and increasig peace in my life after 36 years of hell.
There is another book of post abortion stories (yes, including mine) that hopefully will also help those searching for answers. It is Real Abortion Stories: The Hurting and The Healing, edited by Barbara Horak. (http://www.realabortionstories.com/).
I pray that together we can end all this suffering.
Susan
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- Squidman12 Squidman12 Jul 22, 2009 @ 10:06 pm
- This is a great lens. Thanks for the information.
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- MarthasWisdom MarthasWisdom Jul 20, 2009 @ 10:44 am
- Great job.
Why don't more people talk about why abortion is being used as a weapon to keep women "in their place" -- as the sexual objects of predatory males, or as the "compliant daughter" of parents who don't want their lives "disrupted" with a grandchild.
It's ironic how pro-choice zealots refuse to look at ways abortion is pushed on women, much less how it can be a poor choice which dog's you forever.
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- cirtl cirtl Jul 13, 2009 @ 4:01 pm
- Just put up a page today on squidoo for Central Illinois Right to Life and added http://www.squidoo.com/TheUnChoice as our spotlighted lens - inspired by your email - see your page is #4 in news catagory now - lets get it to # 1 - I really think that the power of this truth about the coercive nature of a society that accepts abortion on demand is key to victory!
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Book: Giving Sorrow Words
Women's Stories of Grief After Abortion
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Women's Stories of Grief After Abortion
"I wish someone had said, 'There would be losses having a baby, but don't underestimate the loss of having an abortion.' " --Lee
New Book! Giving Sorrow Words explores the hidden realities of abortion, including the lack of support, misinformation, and intense pressure and coercion applied by partners, family, and society to force women into unwanted abortions.
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Book: Aborted Women, Silent No More
Aborted Women, Silent No More"[This] may be the most powerful book ever published on abortion." --Conservative Book Club
The first major summary of research and testimonies regarding the abortion experience of women. Includes personal accounts from women who've had abortions and an in-depth look at the realities of abortion and the abortion industry. This classic is still an invaluable resource, covering material you'll find nowhere else.
Price: $24.95 plus shipping. Call 1-888-412-2676, or order on-line at:
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Book: Victims and Victors
Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting from Sexual Assault
Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About Their Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting From Sexual Assault"They say abortion is the easy way out, the best thing for everyone, but they are wrong. It has been over 15 years, and I still suffer." --Rebecca, who became pregnant through rape at age 15
Is abortion helpful for, or even wanted by, women who become pregnant following sexual assault? Learn the answer from nearly 200 women who have been there.
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