Unhappy Christian Marriage - How To Have A Happy Marriage

There can be many warning signs of a marriage in trouble but here are a few you may be able to relate to.

Do you feel like you can't communicate with your partner? Failure to communicate may be the number one sign of a marriage that's on the rocks. We have become numb to the issue of communication because we here it so often. And, it's not simply telling your wife or husband how you feel, that's just the start. Effective communication involves more listening then talking. Try this. Select a problem issue between the two of you and address it. Don't argue and debate about it, rather, COME to an agreement on the solution and then put it to bed. That's right, put it to bed. That means not bringing it up again in the future and using it as ammunition against your spouse.

Constant arguing is another recipe for divorce. If you find that you're always arguing about one thing or another, which is usually something small and insignificant, then take heed and fix the problem. It going to take work to resolve the conflicts which lead to an unhappy christian marriage.

Do you sometimes feel disrespected or unloved by your partner? Gods love is unconditional but our love towards our wife or husband is not always so. If you harbor ill feelings like resentment and distrust, those emotions are going to spill over and reveal itself in the way you treat your spouse.

You are going to have to make some changes and do some things in order to have that happy healthy marriage you once had. Remember how is use to be when you first got married? How you spent quality time together, prayed and fellowshipped, went places and seemed to enjoy each other's company all the time.

Is your marriage on the rocks? Do you find yourself arguing, or talking at each other but not really communicating? Maybe you're so frustrated that you believe God doesn't want you together. You feel disrespected, unloved, alone and distant from your spouse. You've tried to make changes for them or maybe even demanded changes from them, to simply see that none of it really works. Have you been praying and asking God to show you a way to fix your marriage? Here's the good news, if you're in an unhappy marriage it can be saved. You can avoid the disaster of divorce by finding ways to address the problems in your marriage and resolving them once and for all.

The only difference between an unhappy christian marriage and a "regular marriage" is that Christians are supposed to have it easier, or at least be able to deal with it better, right? Of course not. Every single married couple faces challenges in their marriage at some time and either learns how to deal with the problems or end up divorced. Family and marriage is God's sacred institution for us. Now some may agree that marriage is an institution; a mental institution ;- ) , but lets focus on what God wants for our marriage. He wants us to have a happy, loving and spiritual marriage which in the end ultimately edifies Him.

But oftentimes we lose our way in our relationships because we lose focus. So what's the solution?

If you're reading this, chances are that you have been having problems in your marriage for some time and this is not the first time you've sought a solution. You can save your marriage and avoid having it tumble further into disarray, even if you're the only one who wants to. You can continue to suffer by allowing things to stay the, or you can do something about it.

You can get a divorce and just end it, and of course we know God is not in favor of divorce. Praying is the first step towards a happy marriage. Now that you've prayed about it you need to allow God to show you an answer. The next thing you need to do is take some action to save your unhappy christian marriage. "Save Your Christian Marriage" is a marriage counseling program developed by Lee Baucom. If you're really ready to restore your marriage and have a happy and healthy relationship, read more.