Warning signs of an Abusive Relationship

What about RESPECT

The number one thing in my opinion in a Relationship is: RESPECT
I believe this should come first. Respect determines a whole lot in your relationship.
If you are not being respected by your spouse. Everything else will not fit in. Believe that.!!!!!!!!!!!
He can tell you a thousand times he loves you and at the same time degrading you.
If he is always being sarcastic towards you that's because he doesn't respect you.

If he's always:
1) Raising his voice at you or over you while you are trying to talk

2) Telling you what your doing is the wrong way he will show you the right way
( even though you were the first one to show him how to do it a few month's ago)

3) Criticizing you about anything and everything

4) While talking to people he brings your name up about something stupid you did

5)Expects you to have a full course dinner on the table EVERY NIGHT. Because it's your duty to feed him!

6) Nit-picking finding fault in anything most of the time it's petty stuff

7) Every situation, no matter how seemingly trivial, evolves into a fight

HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU!!!!!!!

He Plays Mind Games

Constantly playing games with your mind

He's always playing these mind games with you. Like you can't remember anything. Or, you said something and you know you didn't say that. He keeps insisting you did.

You Can't Have Friends

Do you have any friends?

There was a time you had many friends. But now, you have NONE. How did he make you get rid of all your friends?
I'll tell you how. Here are a few examples:

1) If they call you on the phone he complains that they are always calling and you never have time to talk to him anymore.
2) When they come over to your house to visit you, he complains that they are coming over to much or staying to late.
3) He would tell you that he seen one of them and they did not speak to him. That your friends treat him differently when your not around.
4) He doesn't like your friends spouse and he wishes you wouldn't try to make him get to know their spouse.

Now, you start making excuses to your friends when they call you don't answer, when they come over you tell them you were just leaving, when they invite you to go somewhere, you tell them you have made other arrangements already.
Slowly but surely you have kept yourself away from your friends. If you think they haven't noticed. YOU are DEAD WRONG!
You are unhappy and he is Grinning.

Your Abuser Studies You

Walking on Eggshells?

"You feel like your walking on eggshells."

One minute he's happy and loving, the next Loud and mean

You never know what will arouse his abusive behavior. Your always making sure you don't say or do anything that will trigger the outburst. So you stop telling him things. You don't volunteer conversation most of the time because it usually back fires on you. Have you even stopped to think that you have turned your self into the PERFECT person doing or saying nothing wrong? How is that possible? But, when you are out in society by yourself, the first person that comes across you the wrong way YOU GIVE THEM A PIECE OF YOUR MIND. Why shouldn't you? Your taking all that crap he dishes out to you at home, Right? Let some one else see what it feels like.
Mr. Jekyll has really changed who you are and who you have become.

He Cries after He Punched you

He just got done hitting and punching you . Your curled up on the floor. Black and blue markings all over your body.
Tears streaming done your face. Your body can't stop Shaking and Shivering for all the pain and disgust for yourself and him. Mumbling "Why"? over and over again. He looks at you and falls to his knees in front of you tears streaming done his face also. Begging you to forgive him and how sorry he is for hurting you and he will never do that again, EVER.
So what do you do? You give in and say..." It's Okay..........." I shouldn't have......................

NO!!!! His behavior was not Okay. You are not there for him to relieve his frustrations out on YOU.
More than likely he just acted the whole thing out so that you would give in like he knows you will.

Emotional an Verbal abuse

Do you feel Depressed,unhappy and tired, can't make any decision's on your own? You can't sleep or sleep to much?
You eat to much or not at all? You just can't THINK,... period!!......

Emotional is just as bad as physical abuse. It can ware your body down fast.

Is there such a thing as Economic abuse

Holding you back

Economic abuse is when he has complete control over the money and has you on a strict "allowance," withholding money l and forcing you to beg for the money until he gives you some.
He doesn't allow you to pursue an education or get a job. Want's you to stay at home all times.
Therefore you will be solely dependent on him.

Make the decision to stop being abused

Only he can change himself

You can't change your partner from being an abuser. Unless he is willing to get Medical help. Most of the time the abuser thinks he is not the one with the problem. Until he admits that he has a serious problem your situation will only get worse as time goes on.

Who do you turn to

You think your left alone

So, who DO YOU turn to? You think No-one. That's not true. you can always make a phone call.

Don't be ashamed, don't be afraid.
You are stronger than you think. Their is HELP out there. You have to get the Courage that is inside of you to look for it, to get it.

Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) be sure to call!

Control and Manipulation

Feeling Helpless because you are being Controled

A Controlling and manipulating abuser tends to look like he has his act together. To people looking from the outside he plays nice and makes them believe he his a loving partner. But, behind closed doors he does this:
* Your not allowed to make decisions
* He makes you ask him for permission to leave the house.
* He get's mad when you come home late.
* Cut's you off from everything and everyone.
* Strikes tables or walls, or throw objects.
* Telling you what you can and can not wear

Feel like a Punching bag

Do you feel like your the punching bag for him? Your always receiving the blows, whether they are verbal or physical ones. The punches just seem to keep on coming! Mean, Hateful words coming out of his mouth, just pounding thru your head. Punches stabbing at your body draining you bringing you down more and more each minute. You can't fight back because that sort of treatment to another person is just not in you.
Your in total shock that the one you love is doing this to you. Why oh why is this happening?

Things you should have prepared if you plan on leaving

Message for Teenage Girls

Don't let a guy take control of your mind!

Thank-you for coming by