Adult Toys - Who Uses Them and Why

Did you know that before vibrators began being used by the porn industry, you could buy them at most stores? Vibrators were actually invented to help women with 'hysteria'. Women would visit their doctor for treatment and he would masturbate them. Interestingly enough, doctors considered this hard work, thus, the birth of the vibrator.

We've come a long way since those times. Now, it isn't necessary to go to a seedy establishment to purchase adult toys. The Internet and online shopping has made it possible for anyone wanting to try one to do so without embarrassment.

I believe that the majority of people have tried an adult sex toy at some time or other. For those who haven't, I have to believe that they've at least been curious or aren't really interested in sex that much to begin with.

There are so many different flavors of sex toys that there is bound to be something for everyone. For example, at an Adult Toy Store you can find a large selection of toys for couples, just for women, or just for men. Whether you're with someone or alone, a toy can be handy.

Why would a woman use a toy? Simple. Typically, it takes a woman a while to orgasm. With a vibrator, she can orgasm much faster and more intensely.

How about men? They make adult toys for masturbation, or just to help make an erection harder or last longer. These are all good reasons.

Couples? If you've been with someone for a while, an adult sex toy is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. Even shopping for one can be a turn on as you discuss what the other person would like and share ideas.

I intend to use this page to share stories I hear from others about why they use sex toys. If you have a story to share, let me know.

This section offers personal glimpses into why people use adult toys. Why not share your reasons? Please note: I may make gramatical or spelling corrections, but do not alter the story.

This first edition is Melinda's story. She contacted me through my blog, Adult Toys - Patricia Lee Tells All.

Melinda's Story

I used to hardly ever have an orgasm when my husband and I had sex. I thought maybe something was wrong with me. I'd say I faked it more than I didn't.

One day one of my friends and I were talking about it and she said that she enjoyed using a vibrator because it was easy to orgasm and they were more intense.

I decided it couldn't hurt to try but wasn't sure how to approach the subject with my husband. After a particularly frustrating round of love making, I just said, 'You know, I think we should try something new. I've been thinking about shopping for a vibrator.'

To my surprise, he liked the idea. We went online and picked it out together, along with a sexy game and some massage oils.

When the package arrived, we were so excited. We had the best night of lovemaking ever. The vibrator lived up to my expectations, totally, completely.

For any woman out there with the same problem I was having, do yourself a favor. GET A VIBRATOR!

End Melinda's Story (Age: over 30)

Jack's Story

I got married a few month's ago and recently found out my wife uses a vibrator. I wasn't very happy about this. I've been reading on the internet to find out why women use them. Your blog has answered my question. I guess I just want to say thanks.

End Jack's Story Age: Legal

Patricia's Comments on Jack's Post

I posted this because of the number of men who feel like Jack does. If you would like to read the blog post he is refering to, you can find it at Why Do Women Use Sex Toys?

Ron's Story

I'm probably pretty much like most men. I worry about satisfying 'her' in bed. I don't have a lot of self control and can't last very long...or that's how it used to be.

I have begun using cockrings. I have found that a cockring not only helps me last longer, but makes me harder.

That is my first experience with a sex toy, but I plan on trying more out soon. I am going to read what you put in this column to give me ideas on what toys other people like too.

End Ron's Story (Age: 22)

Tina's Story

There are probably a lot of women who do this, but I thought I would share it anyway.

I like finger vibrators. The problem with intercourse alone is that often it is hard to orgasm, at least for me. That is why I like finger vibrators. You can slip it on your finger and masturbate during sex. It gives you a great orgasm and if you know your partner well enough, you can time it to orgasm together.

End Tina's Story (Age: 26)

Rob's Story

Hi. First, I want to mention that I am gay and proud of it. I wasn't sure if I should write to you or not, I mean do people really do that? Anyway, here is why I use sex toys.

My partner and I enjoy a little light bondage. He likes to blindfold and handcuff me. So we like the bondage gear. Some people like the feeling of being taken and with the right gear, it is more fun. We also use alot of anal lube. Occasionally, a cockring or dildo. Sex toys are an important part of our lovemaking.

End Robs's Story (Age: over 21)

New Section

I have decided to add a new section, Adult Toys - Your Questions Answered. If you scroll down, you will find it. If you have a question, let me know and I will try to answer it. I hope you enjoy this new addition!

If you are interested in trying out an adult toy, but don't know where to begin, contact me and I will help you out or you may want to Shop For Adult Toys

Send Your Story
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GuruRipper wrote:
Which toy do you recommend that will make my wife so happy, she will cook, clean and blow me everyday??? Please tell me!! I'll check back for answer!
Posted September 14, 2007

GuruRipper - That's a tall order..maybe a maid and a blow up doll would be an easier solution. ;-)
If you are looking for a toy that she will love, I would choose a rabbit vibrator. Rabbit vibrators are designed to stimulate all the right spots and usually have varying speeds to accommodate various tastes. They are great for foreplay!
If you want something for use during sex, I would go with a finger vibe.