Advice In Love Relationships

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This is a deep question. Most people will tell you no, you can't force someone to love you. Some will point to the odd e-books and programs you can buy that tell you to be devious and manipulative. That may get someone into bed with you, but it leaves out the selection process. All you get is a body. So if you don't like those ideas, you're left at a loss.

The good news is, there's an indirect way to help love along, though maybe not with a particular person. It's not manipulation, hypnosis, or acting. How does it work?

The crux of it is that when you're at your best - happy, confident, and fulfilled - you're also at your most attractive. That makes sense, right? The tricky, some might say difficult part, is that it only works if you don't care if you get a lover or not.

What!? But that's just what you do want, you say. Yes, and you will get one, after having a whole lot of other fun first! And after not too long of a wait.

Okay, then what do you do? Answer: you enjoy life. You pick any one of the things you always wanted to try, and you do it. You jump right into something you're very interested in, best of all something that would be somewhat of an achievement for you. Not too hard but not too easy. You want to succeed, of course.

It could be entering a race, if you're a good runner. It might be traveling to that destination you always wanted to visit - Niagara Falls, Scotland, Shanghai, or the Bahamas. Maybe you'd like to work with Habitat For Humanity, the Republican Party, the Democratic Party, or start your own party. Dare to live, and come up with something. Just arrange it so you keep having a chain of small successes building up to bigger and bigger ones.

After you do this kind of thing a few times, you won't realize the difference that shines out from you. You will have shed old hangups and fears, and you'll have a natural charisma that only belongs to you. When people meet up with this kind of person, they lapse into something almost like awe. They will often be in awe of you because you dare to do what they only let themselves dream of. Imagine the effect this has on potential lovers.

It's important to be clear about one thing. If you only do all this so that you can wow a certain person or type of person, it won't work. The charisma won't be there. Instead what people will see is somebody putting on an act and peeking at them to see if they're impressed. You don't want to be doing that.

It only works if it's real, if you actually lose yourself in the pursuit of your dreams and goals, and share your success with other people. It kind of makes it easier that you have these interesting goals to pursue - that way you forget to worry about getting a lover. The pleasure of your activities takes the place of the worry. That's the best way to stop worrying - by losing yourself in fun and challenging activities!

That's what happened to me. I did this during a dry spell in my relationship life. As soon as I lost myself in learning to perform with a folk-dance troupe, I had women edging up to me, and the one who became my wife had to demonstrate that I was already taken! It was the complete opposite of my experience up to that time. Part of it was showing fearlessness by pushing through my stage-fright to perform in front of an audience.

So there you have it. A little-known secret of romance. Maybe it's not that much of a secret - movies and romance novels show how it works. Anyway, now you know it too, and you can start living in a new way that will bring more fulfillment than you might expect. Including your pick of lovers. Maybe even the particular person you have your sights set on now. You never know until you try!

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Have they already done something drastic?

Are you desperate for a way not to lose them?

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