Anger Management

"Acceptance of others, their looks, their behaviors, their beliefs, bring you an inner peace and tranquility -- instead of anger and resentment." ~ Unknown

Anger tends to be one of the strongest feelings we experience.

In general, femaies have been taught to avoid expressing their anger , while males get the message that expressing anger is more of a normalcy.

Women thus tend to behave in passive-aggressively ( holding grudges/ resentments or pouting/ sulking) or turn their anger inwards and behave self destructively. Some things that set women off include; others' poor behaviors, feeling powerless, a sense of unfairness tend to elicit anger in women.

It is not unusual to keep anger bottled up inside (until ready to explode), others may displace their anger on innocent people (i.e. the cashier, children, elderly, the unknown individual driving next to us).

Often, when men express their anger in an unhealthy manner they may find themselves in trouble with others, with the law or ultimately end up feeling bad about themselves.

One of the many tools I use to address anger, includes taking a hard look and documenting the costs of your anger, the triggers of your anger and more.

When we feel disappointed or let down, this may be a trigger for anger. Feeling "hurt" usually underlies anger.

There are ways to work through this hurt and lesson its grip on your life and how it may impact the decisions you make.

Do you curse, start name calling, blaming others for your emotional state? When we are angry, we are in an "emotional state" of REACTING, and we have abandoned all "logic".( even if we think this may not be the case ).

"Humor" can help defuse your feelings of anger. Try finding the humor in an upsetting situation, in order to take the edge off.

When anger impacts your relationships, your employment, your health and your life in general a psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking, behavior, and to understand & notice your own personal cues.

When Anger
Is Present
Relationships
Suffer

Couple's Anger Management Available
(Only if NO Domestic Violence is present)
Ventura County, CA
805-204-7315

Providing anger management in the 805.
Options include: Therapeutic Support Groups, Individual Counseling, Coed groups and Men's Groups.

Whether you are seeking help because a friend, supervisor or loved one has asked that you do so or it is related to a court order - help is available.

(805) 204-7315

If you find that you lack the proper skills to manage your own anger,
it is NOT because you are stupid or a bad person. You never learned how to do anger in a healthy way.


Our first teachers were our parents or caregivers
we learned how to "BE" in the world by watching and incorporating their
coping skills, be it healthy or unhealthy that was not a factor,

We were children.

Can you change this hard wiring, this learned behavior? The answer is a big resounding
YES.