Army Wives Pet Peeves

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This is dedicted to all the service wives who make sacrifices that others wouldn't dare dream of let alone execute. What courageous hearts!
Also dedicated to my brother who serves in the military and is currently undergoing SF training. Best of luck to him. Through him I have come to learn a new respect for military workers and their family.
God's blessings to you all.

Pet Peeves - What Are They? 

It's an annoyance. Something that irritates the life out of you that you feel you could scream or vent or maybe worse. Typically it's a complaint of a specific action or behavior such as 'forgetting to hang up a wet bath towel after using', can be classified as a pet peeve. Pet peeves also called "pet hates" may seem irrational or idiosyncratic to the offender and outside observers. Pet peeves are called 'pet hates' because of the intended meaning behind it: "I just hate it when.."

Putting two and two together
The definition of the word pet implicates something close to us, something beloved. The word peeve can be defined as annoyance or to irritate. Hence making a pet peeve something distinguishable to each individual and personal. Pet peeves are what make up part of our characteristics. And whilst we all differ in our pet peeves we are similar in the sense that we all have pet peeves.

Army Wives Got Pet Peeves Too 

Pet peeves can make a big difference in someone's life especially when that someone happens to be a military wife. Military wives struggle with what might appear to be innocent actions and well intended comments from friends and family members, but to them the same repeated annoyances can serve as fermenting grounds for pet peeves. For the military wife trying to rationalize with her pet peeve which of course is hard for any one to do may require unreasonable levels of effort and can add to the stress level she is already experiencing in her life especially if she is not adept at addressing these issues or handling stress.

Here's A List of Army Wives Pet Peeves - Things Not to Say To Army Wives 

These Are Some Things That Really Piss Some Army Wives Off. Do You Know Of Any More? Please Add It Here And Don't Forget To Vote

I know how you must feel.

Do you really? Can you possibly know how it feels more...3 points

How can he do that to his children?

The only message I'm hearing is that my husband do more...3 points

Aren't you afraid he'll be killed?

Afraid is an understatement. Horrified is more lik more...3 points

Maybe you could go meet him?

Honestly!?!2 points

Well, you DID sign up for this. (Or "You knew what you were getting into.")

Thanks, that helps the months just fly by!2 points

Help! My husband will be on a business trip all week. I don't know how I'll do it all.

We realize that Army Families aren't the only ones more...2 points

I look forward to my husband leaving for a while

Yeah but is your husband going to be footing in a more...1 point

Oh 6 months isn't that bad

Oh please! It could be one month and I would stil more...1 point

I don't know how you do it. I would never want or allow my husband to do that.

Army wives don't have a choice but to let their hu more...1 point

It must be nice he's home

Isn't it obvious. Don't really know what you're t more...1 point

It's A Part Of Life

Repeating a fact to an Army wife is not very appea more...1 point

That leaves you with a lot of time to fool around

What are we? Whores? There is no one that can repl more...1 point

Wish I could send my husband away for six months

This statement is like a bombshell to an army wife more...0 points

At least he's not in Iraq

How ever unintentional this may be, hearing it doe more...0 points

When is he coming home?

Get a clue. Army wives are sick and tired of hear more...0 points

It's for the best that he's going over there

This one is pure annoyance. Are you sentencing an more...0 points

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What You Could Say Or Do Instead 

Got Any Sugestions For What You Could Do And Say To Army Wives Instead Of Saying And Doing Things That Piss Them Off? Add Your Tips Here. And Don't Forget To Vote

Usually we hear the familiar phrase being offered in times of crisis: "if there is anything I can do please don't hesitate to let me know". Oh we sincerely mean it. We would do anything to help. But how often does the wife of a military soldier call and say: "I've thought of something you could do to help me"? That's what I thought - not very often. By now if you're reading this I presume you've read the above list of : things not to say to army wives. Army wives have stated their preferences loud and clear. So here are a list of things Army wives prefer you do or take the initiative at, that won't arouse their pet peeves.

Show Your Gratitude. Thank Her.

By saying a simple thank you for your service and more...3 points

Listen

One of the most helpful things you can do is liste more...2 points

Remember Holidays and Weekends

It's a difficult time for wives - holidays and wee more...2 points

Invite Her Out

Date her. Carry her on a date. Organize and pay fo more...1 point

Be Available

Other than her close family who may be miles away more...1 point

Take the initiative

Offer to run errands1 point

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"Sure everyone's got pet peeves. That's not the question. The question is "whose are u watching?"

Training Your Pet Peeves 

Managing your pet peeve is a skill that can be learned like any other.

 

"Locate the target and aim"

#1 Recognize Your Pet Peeve
Acknowledging your pet peeves rather than denying it will help you better anticipate when it's about to happen. This could lead to less stress in your life and better help you deal with the situation by finding a solution. e.g. you know you have a particular friend x who each time she sees you always ask you a repeated question. You could try beating her to it with an answer pronto before she asks. Sometimes they get the point without you actually telling them that you are too used to hearing the same question.

 

"Mind your own business recruit"

#2 The Problem Is Not Them It's You
Because each pet peeve is personal, any minor annoyances you encounter can run deep. But it doesn't have to. You own your pet peeve. You can control how you react to situations and let them deal with their own problem - because that's theirs. Try to identify why you feel the way you do. It may be excess emotional baggage that you need to get rid of. Be honest with yourself and be willing to step out of your comfort zone.

 

"You can't go into combat thinking loses. To be a winner you've got to think positive"

#3 Replace A Negative With A Positive
You can turn that negative thought into one that's positive. Like when you've got to clean up after your husband because he's too lazy or tired to cover his food in the microwave when reheating it. Remembering your love for him, and how much he couldn't wait to enjoy your food and also remembering the few precious moments you have with him will help some. Remember if you keep focusing on the negatives how are you ever going to appreciate the positive?

 

"Insubordinate won't do here. Salute at all times"

#4 Speak Don't Vent
No matter what your situation, feelings or circumstances is at the moment you always have a choice. You can either choose to act out of love or non love for your friend. If you suspect your pet peeve is getting a little too quirky for your stability why not try discussing the issue with your friend? Be sure to wait for a moment when the situation is not occurring and then discuss the issue. But don't vent, it'll only accomplish more stress and frustration in the process and do nothing to resolve the situation. What's worse it fuels any negative feelings you may already be having and can magnify the feelings of your pet peeve. Remember God answers all our questions in one way - with love and this requires a lot of patience.

 

"You're not on duty so fool around"

#5 Laugh At Yourself
Try brushing off your pet peeve with a little humor. See it from a different perspective. Try replacing all of the expecting like"your friend should know better than to say that" with accepting and see what changes it brings. You'll be letting go of old insecurities. You won't see your friend as a threat or someone who is trying to disadvantage you, better yet you'll be finding a healthy release for your pet peeve through humor by clinging less to your perception (which is what your pet peeve really is).

 

"Soldiers love people. They do have a heart"

#6 Be A People Lover
Remember a pet peeve is something at most times innocently done by the offender. The good thing is you don't have to live with these same questions from the same individual everyday. But when faced with the challenge focus on where its coming from rather than the tone and what is being said. Managing your pet peeve is a skill that can be learn't like any other skill. Use these experiences to be a better giver of love.

 

"Soldiers are nobody and nobody is perfect"

#7 Remember Nobody is Perfect
Yes I know you'll probably want to eat my head off for this one. But it doesn't change the fact that it's true. Sometimes its best knowing what to overlook and what not to under look. Try seeing each repeated offense as a first offense. That way you won't carry the "yesterday" into the "today" and the today into the "tomorrow" just be wherever you are in the moment. And be patient. People do have reasons behind their actions just like you have reasons for your pet peeves.

Maybe Homer Can Help? 

How To Answer Tactless Questions 

Got Any Tips For Army Wives On How To Respond or Reply To Tactless Questions? Feel Free To Add It Here. And don't forget to vote. You may include in your answer how responding to this question in a particular way may help.

Being tactful is a learned skill that not everyone has learned to develop. Some people, especially the ones close to us cannot resist making unfortunate comments to others and military wives are no exception. The best advice is to let the remark slip by or give a show of expression such as a raised eyebrow or a slight frown. If you feel like you must answer consider the following list below:

'Gee. I don't know how you hold up'

Not very well since you keep reminding me1 point

What if you lose him in the war?

Then you'd be the first to know1 point

Why did you let him go?

I am proud to have my husband serve for my country more...1 point

Doesn't he realize how difficult it is on you when he's away

I have never met anyone who didn't think it was di more...1 point

Why don't you go meet him

I'm sure a lot of wives would love to go meet thei more...1 point

And how is my lonely army wife today?

I am not your wife and certainly not lonely as you0 points

'It is better he's in Afghanistan and not in Iraq'

The media loves to highlight Iran which causes the more...0 points

Don't you miss him?

Say nothing or say: I thank God for him0 points

Seems to me like your husband puts the military before you and his family

My husband loves what he does and is honored to pr more...0 points

You let him do this?

Well yeah. If he doesn't have an issue with it why more...0 points

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    Shelly Shelly Nov 16, 2009 @ 9:46 pm
    What a great proactive lens--very thought provoking indeed. I especially like that you give us positive direction that will be supportive. Tipi was so impressed with your work here that she is featuring it on a lens she did for me and sent me your way (sisters). Impressive intuitive work on your part that will be of benefit to many more than you willl ever be aware of.
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    spunkyduckling spunkyduckling Nov 17, 2009 @ 12:23 pm
    Hi Shelly,
    Thank you so much for visiting and taking the time to leave a few touching words..I greatly appreciate it. I am humbled that you've found this lens will become a huge benefit to others not forgetting to mention that you like it and that tipi has been so impressed with it. You are absolutely right when you say "more than I will ever be aware of" as I can only imagine the benefit it will bring to others but never truly know...at least its comforting to know that this lens will be worthwhile after all..
    I cannot however take all the praise for myself as my inspiration comes from above, my Heavenly Father, so thanks to him, and thanks also to the Squidoo community in the critique forum particularly prosperity66 who encouraged me to channel my passion of how I felt about the topic into more a bit of humor. They do an excellent job the Squidu community and the little changes was very helpful of which others may now hopefully benefit from.
    Tipi is a real angel...hope she has asked your permission first on adding my lens to yours...Smile or LOL...and thanks for allowing her to feature my work on one of your lens. It would have been nice though if I could reciprocate my appreciation on your lens. Feel free to contact me through this guest book or my email with the link. I might even find a place for it.
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    Tipi Tipi Nov 16, 2009 @ 8:37 am
    Nice getting to know your Spunky. You have made me think differently with this lens. I understand things in another light now, and I thank you for making this very good lens. I wish your brother all the best, and you and the rest of the family. Blessed by an angel!
    You are a very good lensmaster my dear. Do you think you might try for Giant Squid?
    Best wishes, (Homer wasn't too helpful....lol!:)
    Susie
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    spunkyduckling spunkyduckling Nov 16, 2009 @ 12:28 pm
    Now well hmm..homer.. what did he tell you? That beer is a temporary solution? LOL An interesting but unhealthful way to a solution I agree. Wow giant squid..well I did get an invite and I did join ning but I'm already overloading with the little that I have..I'll try slowly but surely. ;0 Thanks for stopping by and for sharing generously your comments, and blessings
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    SquidooKimberly SquidooKimberly Nov 7, 2009 @ 5:42 pm
    I was a Coast Guard brat. My dad never left the country but he was gone for months at a time when I was little. Great tips for people who aren't familiar with the military lifestyle.
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It's better than doing this although I know at times you would really like to tell someone to 

What Annoyed This Guy? 

I'm sure at times you feel like doing this too. As one army wife put it "I feel like I could of slapped her for the comment she made"

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shoutout to Cat and Michael Stratton of Fort Drum NY! thank you for the sacrifices you make every day so that others (including myself!) have the privileges and freedoms this country allow!

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Shout out for Carko my cousin who is a corporal in the army. Bless!!

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I love you Ricardo. Come home soon little brother. Best of luck in your Special Forces training. Hope they don't advantage you too much.

Aloha! Here is my shoutout for a family member I know that has someone working in the military!

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This one is for my mother. Mom I know you're worried about your military son being out there in the jungle but he'll be safe. So don't worry too much will ya! Remember the secret: think positive and it will attract positive

 

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