Banbury Life Coaching

The Coach works with you on a one-to-one basis, initially face to face, perhaps later by telephone on a regular, usually weekly, basis. All meetings and conversations are conducted on a confidential basis throughout. The initial meeting is used to establish a mutual rapport and trust between the Coach and yourself while the Coach gets to know you and understand what drives and motivates you and what it is that you are wishing to change and why. The Coach's questions are very searching and are directed at striking to the heart of the matter in order to make you really think through and understand the implications of the changes that you wish to make in your life and explore your motivation to do so.

The next part is putting together a plan to achieve the objectives and to ensure that any actions are "congruent" with your belief systems and overall life values and that they fit within your greater life plan. The Coach will ensure that the plan includes an element of "stretch" for you to broaden your expertise and experience providing you with an insight into your own true abilities. Having agreed a plan of action the Coach will then motivate and monitor progress towards the target ensuring that you stay on track to achieve your stated aims. You can achieve anything that you want to in life - the hard part is knowing what you want!

This is the sort of process that helps you set short, medium and long term goals. Devote ample "thinking time" to each stage.
Step 1 - Write down all the things you want to do, be or have.
Step 2 - Write in one brief sentence why you want to be, do or have each item on your list. If you can't do this with any of them, then cross them off.
Step 3 - Decide the most important areas of your life - for example...
Family/friends (this could be 2 different areas).
Partner/significant other person.
Career/work.
Financial.
Health and vitality.
Emotional well being.
Social life.
Fun and recreation.
Physical environment (where you are living how you are living, your surroundings).
Spiritual life.
Add, change or delete to include all the areas of life that are important to you. Define what success means to you in each of the life areas you have identified.
Step 4
Take each of your goals in turn and ask the question, 'Will having, being or doing this thing improve the areas of my life that I deem are important ?' Give one mark for each 'Yes' answer.
Step 5
For each of your goals, ask if it is right and fair to everyone in my sphere of influence and concern and if it will it take you closer to your overall objective.
Step 6
Put your goals in order of importance. Take your top10 goals. These are the ones you are going to work on.
Divide your goals into 4 main groups:-
Ongoing goals needing daily input.
short term goals to achieve within a week to a month.
medium term goals that may take between a month and a year.
long term goals that may take longer than a year.
Step 7
For each of the goals on the list expand your 'why. Explain to yourself fully, why you want to have this goal and what it will mean to you. Write this down.
Step 8
Take each goal in turn and make 2 'to do' lists for each to show:-
what you are prepared to do to achieve it.
what you will need to do to achieve it.
Step 9
Make a list of:-
the people you need to work with or.
the people who can help you.
the skills you might need to develop.
the actions you need to take.
what you need to learn.
what you need to understand.
Step 10
Do the rocking chair test. Take yourself out into the future at age 70. Imagine the wonderful life you have designed for yourself. Visualise it. Fully associate with it.
Write down the story of your incredible life, the amazing things you've done, fantastic things you've seen, the people you have touched and the changes you have made in your own life and the lives of others.
Place your goals with their action points, within a timeframe. Put a start and finish date on them.
Remember a goal is a dream with a date on it!