How To Be A Woman

Times have changed, haven't they? Being a woman has a whole different implication than in the past. How do women go to work daily and maintain their nurturing feminine quality at home?

How do women express their intellectual potential without being "male" in their manner? How do women take charge over their lives and maintain their empathy, warmth, and spirituality? What's the most natural expression of a woman?

Following is how today's woman can "have it all."

1. Be a decision-maker. Whether at home or in the workplace, a woman is a decision-maker.

She knows if she does not follow her intuitive instincts she will surely lose her happiness and joy, her power. She knows her creativity is the essence of her being and it comes through nurturing her intuitive self.

When a woman makes a decision it is well considered and is usually quick. She has a capacity for assessing a situation almost instantaneously and choosing wisely because she has learned to trust her instincts which are founded on experience.

A woman is certain of her success. She knows herself and her capacities. As a result, answers and solutions flow to her in serendipitous ways which never cease to increase her spiritual sense of awe.

When a woman's instinct has shown her the best choice she is relentless to follow that path. Neither friend nor foe can turn her from what she can see solidly is the best choice for her or for those she loves.

2. Nurture relationships that empower.

A woman knows she is the model for others around her. She is committed to the higher potential of herself and others. She demonstrates balance between her personal goals and relationships. She knows that without healthy, loving relationships her goals, even when achieved, will feel meaningless. This achievement without balance of loving relationships feels empty and she knows this.

Yet, a woman is decisive in knowing when a relationship is improved by her staying focused. She knows what must be done whether the loved ones around her know or not. Later they mature and can see she had to do what she did. A woman knows this from the start.

In fact when a woman allows a relationship to block her truest potential, she knows she has in fact lessened the beauty the relationship would have had. When others say she is selfish (based on traditional standards for women) she continues forward in spite of it with full commitment.

A woman knows that she must "dance" between relationships and achievements to have the fullest and richest life possible - to "have it all."

3. Embrace failure as expected and nothing to be alarmed about. A woman knows how to fail.

A woman's faith and belief in herself and her choices gives her the inner knowing that allows for successful failure. Successful failure is to move quickly toward correction of the failure so the failure is almost unnoticed. A woman dwells on solutions versus the failure itself that needs to be solved. This helps her move rapidly to that happy success she has committed to.

4. Exude confidence with grace and elegance.

A woman behaves with calm and thought. Her confidence is revered and is almost absent of arrogance. Her confidence shows in her certainty of ultimate success. The failures along the way only serve to increase her confidence as she knows with each one she is closer to the mark.

A woman is trusted because of her unassuming confidence in spite of the failures, without which success cannot be had. A woman has no need to create a posture of confidence. Her confidence is simply a part of her being.

When self-doubt creeps in a woman looks to the experience of others to learn as quickly as possible what might be missing. She gets into conversation with people who have gone before her and can quickly interject what she might have missed. She is confident in herself and others. This gives her allies when needed. She knows when to trust herself and when to trust others.

5. Be love in action. Love is a natural expression of a woman.

A woman is quick to acknowledge her love for others and is comfortable in expressing it verbally, affectionately, and through gifts and time. She is quick to create a comfortable environment for others to be self-expressed around her. While she is happy to speak first, she is also happy to respond to others who speak first. She knows the balance of abundance is from her spontaneity and reciprocal responses.

A woman must accept that she is source energy and that this source energy is provided through her. She must connect with other women in order to receive source energy. She knows men need her source energy to propel them with purpose. She knows when to take charge and when to allow charge to be taken.

A woman must sometimes refuel by allowing her source energy to be restored through the energy of others. Men fuel her by the very act of succeeding powerfully on her behalf.

6. Use sex energy to nurture and heal.

A woman is confident in her sexuality. She has no need to hide or to flaunt it. She knows her innermost person can be veiled by putting her sexuality in the forefront. She knows her innermost person is valuable enough to allow her sexuality to be visible only to her most treasure relationship. She has no need to prove her sexuality at all. It just is.

A woman encourages a man to love her deeply by not submitting to his lust, but to his truer self. She brings elegance and beauty to the combined sexual and emotional state of adults.

A woman's sexuality is enhanced by her commitment to her goals. She attracts sexuality by this focused action toward goals that make a difference. She is at her best when completing goals, planning for the future, powerfully moving toward results, being efficient, and successful. She thrives on this full experience of life.

7. Commit so completely to goals that you barely notice the fear.

A woman fears what will happen if she does not take action more than she fears the action itself. This propels her through the fear of action. Only by seeing her commitments through does she experience the ultimate magnificence of life.

A woman feels like a woman when she has made a difference that provides for all around her to be fully self-expressed. She thrives on knowing she was behind it all, even if quietly navigating strategically toward an improved outcome.

While she may have a specific objective, a woman is happy when all have been nurtured. A woman is seldom happy when she alone has been nurtured by the results obtained.

8. Enjoy the feminine nurturing of other women.

When a woman is nurtured through a female friend she allows the other woman the opportunity to contribute. She doesn't say "no, thanks." A woman realizes that women must nurture as a part of their nature. She also knows that feminine source cannot come to her through her spouse or significant other as that person is usually a male and does not have the natural "mother source" skills as an innate part of his being.

A woman enjoys allowing another woman to reach out and assist when needed. She empowers her friends to follow their instincts and intuitions and listens to the intuitive voice that may speak to her about her direction or goals. She then chooses based on her total experience and inner voice.

A woman respects the strength of her friends when making unique choices. She does speak up and communicate any reservations she may have about a friend's choices. Yet she does not condemn the choice her friend makes even if not what she considers a wise one. She is there to provide resources, information, assistance when the friend fails. Yet she does not give up her self in this endeavor. She knows where the healthy line is between assisting and enabling.

A woman embraces spirituality and dwells in it as she knows her intuitive sense comes from an inborn spirituality. She asserts her compelling discoveries and sees when to move toward or away from an environment.

9. Choose relationships. A woman affirms herself through reflective relationships that empower her.

A woman chooses the people in her life intuitively. She seeks out strong people who stretch themselves for higher potential whether with family, relationships, or career.

A woman will be faithful and loyal to the people she loves as long as she sees progress toward deeper compatibility. She knows when she is responsible for errors in relationships and knows when she is not.

A woman refuses to accept inauthentic responses and behaviors from others. She dredges up authenticity relentlessly.

A woman sets boundaries and expects people in her life to respect them. When others choose not to respect her boundaries she takes actions that gracefully enforce her boundaries. When necessary she can take firm action. As she surrounds herself with people who accept her boundaries she seldom has to take serious steps to enforce them.

10. Live well and pass through life so contentment comes at the end. A woman leaves a legacy of strength, elegance, and grace for those who know and love her.

When a woman has followed the path in life that is aligned with her truest innermost being, life falls smoothly into place. She is led through the maze of life fluidly, serendipitously, excitedly, powerfully toward an end that she looks forward to all the while that she lives. She knows at the end of her life she will exist in spirit and will have impacted life on the planet in a positive way.

She will be thankful for having known herself and lived the life she was intended to live. She has a sense of completion and honor.