I think everyone can agree that getting your heart broken is one of the most painful experiences in life.

After recently consoling a dear friend through a very painful divorce, my desire is to provide useful, practical and sometimes unconventional information that others can use to:

• cope with being dumped


• mend a broken heart


• explore new relationship possibilities, including reconciliation


• enrich their lives and/or relationships

While scouring the internet looking for relationship advice, I found a lot of information.

Most advice was just cliched "rose-colored glasses" drivel; others were just plain kooky.

Still other sites, e-books and "gurus" made outrageous claims that amounted to just outright lies!

However, my searching was finally rewarded when I discovered a no-nonsense relationship guide that was well-written, and more importantly, gave practical, effective, yet uncommon advice.

You will not find any outlandish promises or claims in this guide.

However, what you will find are tips, strategies and advice that, admittedly, at times can be hard to accept, but are based on truths regarding human behavior.

This guide includes advice on how to cope with a break up, as well as a plan for those wanting to either:

• try to save their relationship with their ex
- or-


• find a way to move on with hope, dignity and grace.

The name of this extraordinary guide? The Magic of Making Up.

I will refer to this guide frequently throughout this article.

Why? My sincere belief is that The Magic of Making Up is unlike most of the relationship guides you may have encountered on the web, or anywhere else for that matter!

For instance, here are just two of the unconventional, yet common sense tips you will discover:

Did you know that there is a Mind+Body connection to getting over a break up?

Did you also know that if you do decide to get back with your ex, you can use a "monkey's fist" to do so?

To access more information, stop by my blog where I provide an in-depth review into one of the best, relationship guides available: The Magic of Making Up!

Listen, the old adage "life is short" is true.

Take a step in regaining control of your life today! Explore for yourself The Magic of Making Up.

The hope you seek may be just a click away!

Thanks for stopping by my lens! My hope is that you will take away information that can be used to enrich your life and your relationships.

Wishing you much success,

Terez

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This may be difficult to hear right now, but the bottom line is that one of the most effective ways of dealing with being dumped it is to cut off all communication with the ex.

In fact, in The Magic of Making Up, the author recommends a period of separation for at least 30 days.

Yes, you read that right, 30 days (minimum).

That means no communication with the ex by phone, letter, instant message, text or email.

If you are in a situation where you work with your ex or are in close proximity with them, keep your communication with them strictly on a professional level.

Why?

My sincere belief is that putting distance between you and your ex will allow your mind to clear.

Time apart from your partner will allow for you both to reflect on your relationship and what factors may have led to the break up.

Most importantly, with a clear head, you will most likely avoid making rash decisions that you may regret later.

When we face the end of a relationship, we often go on an emotional roller-coaster ride.

However, we can make matters worse by letting the hurt, fear, panic and desperation that we feel at being dumped influence us into behaving in negative ways.

These negative emotions, left unchecked, cause us to behave in self-destructive ways.

Examples of these negative behaviors are:

• taunt and start arguments with our ex


• behave like a stalker


• try to make our ex jealous


• overeat


• start to abuse alcohol and/or other substances


• neglect hobbies and other outside interests


• shut out loved ones and friends

The good news is that there is another way we can choose to cope with a break up that will not only help the healing process, but bolster our self-esteem in the process.

The suggestion that follows is also recommended by one of the best guides on relationships, The Magic of Making Up by T. W. Jackson.

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
[Unknown]

"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."
[Alexander Graham Bell]

"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together."
[Anonymous]

"I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person."
[Rita Mero]

"Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience."
[Victoria Holt]

Hearts will never be practical until they are made unbreakable.
[Wizard of Oz Movie]

"I'm not sure what the future holds but I do know that I'm going to be positive and not wake up feeling desperate. As my dad said "Nic, it is what it is, it's not what it should have been, not what it could have been, it is what it is".
[Nicole Kidman]

"I love to shop after a bad relationship. I don't know. I buy a new outfit and it makes me feel better. It just does. Sometimes I see a really great outfit, I'll break up with someone on purpose."
[Rita Rudner]

"Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
[ Kahlil Gibran]

In the aftermath of a divorce, separation, or break up, one of the most common feelings many experience is that of worthlessness.

During this emotional period, many tend to entertain negative thoughts such as:

• nobody loves or cares about me


• I will be alone for the rest of my life


• I am not worthy of being loved

If these thoughts are consuming you right now, please remember this one fact: they are not true!

Realize that you have a lifeline that can help you in coping with a break up.

A lifeline, that during difficult times, people often fail to realize is floating right in front of them!

A buoy that can prevent them from crashing into the reefs of loneliness and sinking into the dark depths of despair.

What is this crucial lifeline that is just waiting for us to latch onto?

Our Friends!


Now, let me qualify by what I mean by the often overused term, friends.

I am not speaking of causal acquaintances that many label as their friends.

I mean the person(s) who have stuck by your side through thick or thin, rain or shine.

These are the individuals that will be waiting to provide that proverbial "shoulder" for you to lean on!

Why is this important in helping you get over a break up?

Okay, for one thing, the qualities that attracted your friends to you in the first place are often many of the same traits your ex was attracted to as well.

Traits that future partners will also find appealing.

So, you may need some time alone after first dealing with the end of a relationship, but do not push away your friends who love you for who you are.

Your friends are a living, breathing reminder that you are loved and that love remains in your life.

That, dear reader, is no small thing.

After the break up of a relationship, it is not uncommon for many to suffer a sense of disorientation and loss.

Unfortunately, these emotions can lead one to want to retreat from the world, loved ones, and finally themselves.

One way that you can regain your emotional "footing" is to re-discover hobbies or pursue new interests that may have been neglected during the course of your previous relationship.

Consider these possibilities for example:

• Thought about learning how to paint with oils?



• What about taking that class in photography?



• Are you interested in learning another language?



• How about doing more traveling? Some exotic locale, like Brazil maybe?



• Have you wanted to learn how to play a musical instrument?



• Have you wanted to volunteer your time to a charitable organization or cause you are passionate about?



• Is there a novel(s) that you have been wanting to read, but never had the time before?

Again, these are just a few of the many opportunities
just waiting to be explored!

My sincere belief is that you will discover that life still holds much joy, fulfillment, and promise for you, if you just take that step.