The Best Ways to Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back

Your ex-girlfriend isn't perfect, but neither are you. Sure, it is easy to idealize your relationship in your mind, now that it's over. However, in reality, things were not that simple.

In fact, if you think back honestly about your relationship - getting past for a moment all of the emotion you feel - you will notice that things were not always smooth. Not always ideal. Indeed, there were issues. Possibly lots of them. That doesn't mean that you didn't share a whole lot of love. But, there were issues.

Here is your 3 step action plan to winning her love back:

1. Come To Terms With The Past: So, you're not perfect, and neither is she, huh? Well, welcome to the human race. No two people are perfect. In fact, our imperfection is part of what makes us lovable. That's okay, just let it go. Once you allow yourself to see clearly, you will notice that both of you made mistakes in the past. Both of you played a part in your breakup. At this time, I want you to get out a piece of paper and list our your Three Biggest Mistakes in your relationship, and how you can avoid repeating them in the future.

2. Believe You Can Get Her Back: All of the modern-day success gurus worth their salt teach us one thing: we get what we envision, what we can imagine. So, start by really believing in your heart and mind that you can get your girlfriend back. For example, close your eyes and imagine the two of you walking down the beach together, holding hands. Now, allow yourself to experience all of the powerful emotions that accompany that image. Repeat this exercise at least 3 times per day: once when you get up, once around lunchtime, and once before bed. The unconscious mind has more power than we can explain or understand. But, it's true: if you get yourself to imagine this, the chances of it becoming a reality are quite good.

3. Put Together A Plan: now that you are deeply committed to getting your ex-girlfriend back, it is time to put together an action plan. No, the plan should not be as simple as "Drop everything, call her up, and beg her to take you back." That will just get you a one-way ticket to Lonelyville. Instead, you need to devise a plan that has you taking all of the right steps, while avoiding all of the common pitfalls that a man in desperate love is bound to come across.

All of this might seem a bit overwhelming. After all, I'm making it sound perhaps too easy.

"Are you just telling me I should just waltz over to my ex-girlfriend's house and ask her to take me back? Are you crazy?"

No! I'm not saying that. Getting her back can be easy only if you take the proper steps. Here's an analogy. Think of the process as being like those high-security alarm systems equipped with invisible lasers set up to guard the Big Diamond from the bad guys. The bad guy who can't see the lasers will set off the alarm every time, with the iron cage lowering quickly around him while he awaits the cops to arrive and cart him off to the slammer.

On the other hand, the bad guy who has the forethought to purchase the special laser-viewing goggles from the underground bad-guy store is able to see every laser in his path plain as day. His work is well cut out for him: he just has to carefully step around, jump over, duck under and otherwise avoid all of the now-visible beams. If he does so, he'll make off with the Big Diamond - every time.

You need the laser-viewing goggles for your relationship-gone-bad. If you can get your hands on them, you will be in her arms again in no time.