How to Be a Woman Men Adore

Most women think all men want a woman who is skinny, has big boogs, has long hair, and is beautiful. While that is easy on the eyes, it isn't really what makes a man want to be with her. (Of course, I'd be lying if I said I didn't want to be that woman.)

Men like women who are confident.

Now don't mistake confidence for arrogance. They are two completely different things. Merriam-Webster defines confidence as "the quality or state of being certain." A confident woman is certain of who she is on the inside. She doesn't need anyone to feed her compliments or buy her things in order for her to feel good about herself.

We have all met the beautiful, visually perfect woman, who is a size 0, and complains about being fat. I always thought this type of woman was just fishing for complements, but I don't think that is the case. This woman, gorgeous and perfect as she is, is insecure and is just voicing her insecurities. The only problem with verbalizing your insecurities is that it turns men off.

They like a woman who feels sexy and stunning in her pajamas and messed up hair first thing in the morning. They admire a woman who isn't threatened when he doesn't call the next day, a woman who has a social life and isn't completely absorbed in him, and a woman who has her own interests. We have to be able to carry on our own independent lives.

The goal is for a man and a woman to complement each other, not complete each other like the cliche says. When you complement someone, you are still yourself, but your good stuff together with theirs, makes both of you shine.

They don't want a woman who is clingy and can't think for herself. A gal still has to have her own ideas and stand by them. Of course, this doesn't mean she isn't open to suggestions or other ideas, but she won't sway from her own beliefs just to fit in or to be liked.

Many times women believe aggressiveness is an independent quality, when in fact, it is a turn off to men. You see, men are used to being (and are actually wired to be) the aggressor. They "bring home the bacon" and ensure their family is safe and fed. In a primal sense it is like defending your status among the group. When a woman acts the same way she is more like dealing with a man. Men want a woman who is kind, soft, nurturing, and loving.

Men also love women who are soft spoken.

A woman will never be able to get through to a man by raising her voice. Men are wired for competition. As soon as they sense a challenge, its all over. Women are not made to compete with a man, we just simply can't do it.

Our men hear us loud and clear when we are being soft and approachable.

Men may want you to think that they want a woman who can change the oil in her car and reel in a 15 lb. catfish, but they really don't. They are attracted to her at first, but honestly, those are things that they can do with their guy friends. I mean, who wants to do the same stuff with their significant other that they can do with someone else. That's no fun. They will eventually get bored and move on. So be careful, because they like a woman who is feminine.

Believe it or not, men really like ponytails. Personally, I think I look hideous in a ponytail, but there is something men like about being able to see a woman's neck. They like the curve, and just admit it...sometimes it is just plain cute.

They're also crazy about skirts and heels. You don't have to wear them everyday, but every once in a while is nice. I have to admit I really don't like to get dressed up very often. I'm really just a t-shirt and jeans kind of gal, but every once in a while even I like to get gussied up. It makes me feel good.