Improve Your Sex Life by Role-Playing Sexual Fantasies

1. Communicate

Set Boundaries!
If you and your partner are new at this, it's important to discuss where to draw the line. Use a safe word just in case.

Before you start role-playing sexual fantasies, you and your partner should discuss what it is you'd like to do. What type of sexual fantasy do you want to play out? What is the story? Who are the characters? Will one of you be dominant while the other is submissive? Do you need a safe word? Make sure you and your partner understand what you want and what you don't want from role-play sex. Different people have different turn-ons, so be open to new ideas.

2. Don't be embarrassed by your sexual fantasies

It's okay if you're interested in forced sex role-playing. Rough sex is a very common fantasy and nothing to feel guilty about. The whole point of role-play sex is to explore new areas, so if you've always fantasized about having sex on space station with a space prostitute, now's the time to let your partner know. It's important that you and your partner choose a role-play scenario that you both find exciting.

3. Cliché is okay

Cheerleader and football player, student and teacher, and nurse and doctor are sexual fantasies you've probably already heard of. That doesn't make them boring; these are well known because people like them. Don't worry if a sexual fantasy isn't 'creative.' If the patient lusts after his nurse, who cares that it's cheesy or cliché? It's role-play sex.

4. Dress up

It's amazing how much easier it is to get into character when you dress the part. You can buy fantasy costumes for sex from a lingerie or sex shop. A cheaper alternative is to buy Halloween costumes from a department store. You can also piece together your own costume for role-play sex. It's often cheaper to buy a plaid skirt than a full-out schoolgirl costume. While it's important to wear something that your partner likes, it's also important that you feel sexy in your costume.

Women in Uniform

5. Get in character

Role-play sex isn't about reciting a script. Improvise! Try to really feel like you are your character. Say and do what you think your character would. This may come instinctually, or you may have to put a little bit of extra effort into adopting this new persona. But don't feel that you need to give an Oscar-winning performance. Have a sense of humor and enjoy role-play sex even if it's kind of cheesy or silly.

6. Don't worry

There's no need to be nervous. You may be uncomfortable the first time you try role-play sex because it's a new experience and you're not sure what to expect. That's a normal reaction and doesn't mean you won't enjoy sexual role-playing. As you get further into the fantasy, you'll feel more at ease.

7. Have fun!

Role-playing sexual fantasies can be exciting for you and your partner. Let go of your inhibitions and enjoy yourself!

Fantasy Made Flesh:
The Essential Guide to Erotic Roleplay

Amazon Price: $11.86 (as of 12/07/2008)

The essential guidebook for the creative and erotic art of sexual role-play. Fantasy Made Flesh teaches readers to let go of self-consciousness and self-criticism. Set the stage with props, environment, and costumes. Bring your most outrageous fantasies into living, breathing, incredibly-turned-on reality.