Changing Body Language? Looking Fake?!?

...first and the most important reason - it's in your nature! I always watch my husband - he blushes every time he feels uncomfortable with subject - can't get rid of that! Not that he doesn't want to but because that's how he is made. Not like me - I can say a big, fat lye and nobody would notice. (Like it's something to brag about! :-)

People who can't disguise their feeling, may have a lots of problems in some situations: sweaty hands when needed to answer a test, butterflies in their bellies before a meeting or test, etc. And all of this, when you enter the room is written all over your body.

There is an excellent article on reasons to improve body language here.

Some people doesn't notice what their body is saying until they don't see someone giving them a strange look. Others catch themselves doing something in the middle of conversation.

First thing you need to do is notice your unconscious movements - when you use them, in which occasions and in front of which people? Most of all - why you use these gestures, mimics, postures? What feelings do you have when you use them?

After that, you have few options: try to avoid situations that cause this kind of feelings, say: 'That's who I'm!' or, more often, change your body talk.

And that's a truth. It's pretty hard to make yourself act the way which is not in your nature and in most occasions, when people try that, they look fake.

Try other way - prepare yourself! In most contacts in life, people won't react negatively on your gestures because they know you well. You need to look out when you are meeting someone new, negotiate on something, have business or some other official meeting.

Try acting! If you can - stand in front of mirror and act out a meeting. Predict questions and answers and watch how your body acts. If you don't have time, go through a meeting in your head. But, be well prepared. That will automatically lower your stress level and make you feel confident about your abilities.

Never think: 'I can't do it.'. If you think that, chances are you you won't be able to pull it off. Think positive thoughts. Boost your confidence before an event.

Most of all, act like you! People can very well see that someone is pretending to be someone else. Be honest, open and positive.

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