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As Someone Who's Been There, I Can Help You Change Your Life

If you are someone who is not happy with your life because of a failed relationship(s), or who doesn't have any direction, or who feels lost for whatever reason, my book will help you take steps to overcome your current situation and change your life. They key is to learn how to examine and improve your self-esteem -- which directs our choices in life and affects all areas of our lives -- which will improve all of your relationships, and also allow you to set and achieve goals.

I am an author, a freelance writer, a columnist, a relationship coach for my two websites, www.theaccidentalexpert.com and www.bootcampforthebrokenhearted.com, a consultant and contributor to womensweb.ca, and Board Chair of Self Esteem Boston Educational Institute, Inc. I am also a former contributor to eHarmony Advice.

My book BOOT CAMP FOR THE BROKEN-HEARTED: How to Survive (and Be Happy) in the Jungle of Love (New Horizon Press Books, Dec. 2007) has been named an Award-Winning Finalist in the National 2008 Best Book Awards in the Self-Help/Relationship category!

My book works by taking you through 3 phases:

PHASE ONE: Let's get you feeling better! This section of the book consists of teaching you to "grieve" the loss of the relationship or the event that just occurred. The book takes you through all the steps involved in the emotions connected with the loss or disappointment involved, and then shows you how to get yourself back on your feet.

PHASE TWO: Let's figure out why this happened to you. Here the book helps you examine your level of self-esteem which is directly related to your success in life. How you feel about yourself affects your choices throughout your life and this section of the book tells you the important questions to ask yourself and the changes that need to be made to improve yourself and your life.

PHASE THREE: Let's turn that negative thinking into positive action! Lastly, the book will help you learn what it is that is making you repeat the same mistakes. It teaches you better ways of communicating, behaving and thinking that will change the way you look at yourself and others - thereby allowing you to feel free to set and achieve your goals and dreams!

My work has been featured in newspapers and magazines like Woman's World Magazine, XM Magazine, Upscale Magazine, Divorce Magazine, and The Boston Globe, to name a few, and I have also appeared on television and numerous radio shows. (For complete media listing, see www.bootcampforthebrokenhearted.com/news.)

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MY BACK STORY:

I am an ordinary woman just like you. I am forty-&$#% years old. Growing up, almost every marriage around me either ended in divorce or was extremely dysfunctional. I had no example of a healthy, happy relationship between a man and a woman to guide me.

As a young woman, I had my share of experiences -- good and bad. For years, my loser magnet was in perfect working order and able to reach far and wide. Like you, I've agonized over the stupid mistakes I made in relationships (like being too clingy or too judgmental). I've been overly critical of myself and tried so hard to be the perfect woman for everyone in my life. I've fallen hard for the bad boys, ignored the nice ones and have mourned the loss of many a dickhead boyfriend! I finally asked myself, what was I doing wrong? Would true love never find me? Was it really possible to have a relationship with a man who would be as good to me as I was to him? Or to find someone who really understood me (and loved me anyway)? Was I even worthy of love? Nowhere did I find the answers I needed. I felt as though I was roaming around in the dark. Finally, after years of listening to everyone around me complain about their painful, unfulfilling relationships, I decided to stop this unproductive cycle of despair and disappointment, and find the answers to the questions myself.

Today, I am the happiest and most peaceful I have ever been. I live in Boston, Massachusetts with my husband, my two stepsons, and our cat, Miss Kitty.

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3 Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW To Improve Your Self-Esteem

(1) Start the day with a smile and some confidence (even if it's fake!). Then make a promise to communicate with everyone honestly but with kindness, telling people exactly how you feel about things, what you can do for them or not do - do not pull punches or make excuses.. just honest communication and then stick to what you said. You have spoken up for yourself which is a big part of self-respect - and that builds self esteem!

(2) Write down a goal or dream of yours on a piece of paper, then list the steps you think will get you there -- and do the first one today. For example, a goal may be to move to a new apartment/home, become a better cook or chef, or take a trip to Europe. In the first instance, the steps involved in buying a condo are: looking at some real estate websites for property available where you want to live, getting your credit report, calling a real estate agent, looking at the property, making an offer, buying a condo! Your first step would be "looking at some real estate websites for property available where you want to live" so do it! You have now started on the journey towards your goal - you accomplished something, and that builds self-esteem!

(3) Do something for yourself today. Don't put off the gym for your boyfriend or a late night at work. Eat a piece of cake if you want. Take a long hot soak in the tub. Watch your favorite movie with some popcorn. Whatever you WANT to do for yourself - make it happen. Choosing to make yourself a priority send a message that you are taking care of yourself and that builds self-esteem!

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AudreyVal May 29, 2009 @ 1:46 pm | delete

an Excerpt from my book, as it describes my past pain before I discovered how to change my life:

"I walked into the therapist's office, broken and ready to let it all out - after all, what did I have left to lose? I grew up in a depressing and hostile environment, the youngest of three daughters; my two sisters were significantly older and moved out when I was just a toddler. Just after my nineteenth birthday, my mother died from cancer, my engagement broke up, I was forced to put my dog to sleep, my father unexpectedly sold the house which had been in my family since my grandmother came over from Italy, and I had no place to go. If that wasn't enough, soon after that, I suffered through some abusive relationships, additional family tragedies, and then, my best friend died. I had had enough. All of these things had driven me, finally, to the point of hopelessness, desperation, and rage...