The Psychology of People

The world is filled with all kinds of people with different perspectives, thoughts, behavior and personalities. I bet you have a co-worker that just gets on your nerves or a boss who micromanages you. Not to mention the "in-laws" who might just drive you crazy or the friends who you love or not love so much. Who ever they are for some reason they leave you frustrated, angry or puzzled. Or maybe you desire to connect with someone prestigious or get recognized. Tapping into and strengthening your emotional intelligence, communication skills, social intelligence and observation skills can help alleviate your frustrations or help you make the connection you desire.

You can't avoid people so why not learn the art of understanding the psychology of people and save yourself some head aches and preserve your emotional energy for the people you love and things you love to do!

The humanologist is in and ready to take your relationship and people questions. Go ahead ask away or tell me about your difficult people situations.

Have you ever wondered how some people mysteriously captivate others and command attention without saying a word? You know them, the people who walk into a room and are immediately noticed and remembered or the ones who seem to know the perfect words to say. These people have what's called charisma or presence. Most times this elusive quality is innate or comes naturally but we all have the ability to develop or enhance charismatic qualities if we choose to do so. Presence is the quality which draws people to listen to you, to follow you and to acknowledge your existence. Having presence doesn't mean being flamboyant, arrogant or self-absorbed, rather it is a manifestation of self-confidence, self-love and an inner vibe that says "I am here, I have value." Presence is not only about you, it's about your ability to inspire others to act, to believe and to bring out the best in them. Developing or enhancing your presence is key to being taken more seriously, getting the recognition you deserve, making lasting connections, creating a memorable first impression and most importantly allowing the real you to shine through. (short excerpt from Soul Eruption! An amazing journey of self-discovery)

What is an authentic voice? It is the voice that resonates what's deep in your soul. An authentic voice is honest, fearless compassionate and wise. Your authentic voice is waiting to speak!

How to begin speaking in your authentic voice. (How to speak your truth)

Imagine a world where women can speak from the heart. Imagine if you could always say what you feel without fear, worry or apprehension . Imagine the possibility to speak your inner voice at work, at home and in the world. Many women fear speaking their authentic voice because they don't want to appear domineering, "masculine," "bitchy" (yes, I said that), or uncaring. If you've ever walked away from a situation thinking "I wish I would have spoke up or why didn't I say something." If you cannot imagine a time or place where you always speak from the heart here are some thoughts to consider:

When is it difficult to speak your truth?
Who is it difficult to speak your truth to?
Why is it difficult to speak your truth to them?
If you could let out something that has been buried inside to the world what would you say?
When you fail to speak your truth when you know you should have, how does that make your spirit feel?
What kind of conversations do you have with yourself that you do not share with the world?
If you could wake tomorrow and BE who you desire without any worry, concern or fear who would you BE?

Tips on speaking the truth?
1. Know your own truth first? Who am I, Why do I exist, What is my purpose in life?
2.. Speak from your compassionate voice. The voice that seeks to understand, embrace, and support.
3. Use I statements and state how you feel without demeaning or blaming the other person.
4. Be courageous, take risks to tell people how you really feel (do it with clarity, intention and consideration)
5. Keep conversing with your spirit to reveal your authentic voice. (the real you without any masks)

An authentic spirit evolves when we are able to be congruent i.e. your inner being matches your outer being (what you portray to the world). Congruency allows us to be the same person no matter who we are with and no matter where we are.

I recently heard a new definition (to me anyway) for the word vibrant. The definition (pulsating with vigor and energy) struck something in me and I have committed to becoming more vibrant today, throughout 2009 and beyond! Are you vibrant? Vibrant= lively, vigorous, exciting, stimulating, energetic! Is this how you live your life? If not all you have to do is choose to. Yes, you can become vibrant in your mind, soul and spirit. Becoming vibrant first requires you must become authentic. If you are not sure what authentic is this chart may help. Are you authentic?