Signs of Cheating Spouses

Suspecting your spouse is cheating on you can create a hole in your heart and a sick feeling in your stomach. You almost don't want to know, after all, what you don't know can't hurt you, right? Wrong. What you don't know you will eventually find out, and if your spouse is cheating on you you deserve to know the truth. Marriage is supposed to be built on honesty and faith. You owe it to yourself to be sure your spouse is upholding their vows.

First of all, if you suspect your spouse of being unfaithful, ask them. You need to find the right words to say at the right time, but if you truly suspect infidelity, you have every right to get the truth directly from your spouse. If you are unable to do this, or unsure of the honesty behind their response, then there are other steps you can take to uncover the truth.

In the age of computers and cell phones, it is difficult for anyone to hide much from someone who is monitoring them. If calls from an unknown number are dialed or received, or websites such as chatrooms or personal pages you do not recognize show up in your computer's history, these may be signs your spouse is cheating, or at least hiding something from you. If this is the case, you should be on the look out for changes in their schedule, appearnce or behavior, as these may also be sure signs of infidelity.

If your spouse takes up a new hobby, or suddenly has a new interest that they have never mentioned to you, that can be a cheating sign. Be careful, as maybe he is just becoming more interesting. However, it's more likely that he has found someone to share time with who is pursuing those interests already. Sudden new interest in something is especially indicative of cheating if that activity requires a lot of time away from home, like late nights or travel. If you suspect this is the case, try offering to take up that hobby as well, so you can spend that time together. If he or she does not go for that, you need to have an open discussion about why you can't be included.

Often when spouses cheat, they will take on a new appearance, almost as if they are wearing a new identity. Men may make more of an effort to tone up and women may dress nicer or wear more make-up than usual. If your spouse has begun to take more interest in their appearance, ask them what it is all about. You may be surprised to find out they want to look nicer for you.

The last sure sign of cheating is a change in behavior. If your normally loving spouse has stopped showing affection, if they no longer hug or kiss you, there is a reason why. If they have begun to treat you differently, you deserve to find out why. It may not be infidelity, but there is something going on to prompt this change in behavior.

If you suspect your spouse of cheating on you, communicate with them. Marriages only work when their is open and honest communication. Lastly, if you are not satisfied with what they assure you, trust your gut. You probably know in your heart what is going on. Be sure to take care of yourself during this difficult time...you deserve it.

I should have suspected it earlier. To be honest, I think I did, but I was afraid to face it. Some of my family and friends knew all about his infidelity and some even approached me about it but I was still in denial.

The truth is, I was desperate to be loved by someone%u2026 anyone%u2026 even a loser like Shawn. I even tried to overlook the time I called his cell phone and a woman answered! I was so hurt I could have died, but I kept on, thinking that it was all my imagination.

Maybe he wanted me to know. Maybe he wanted a way out of our relationship. Maybe it was his way of telling me it was over. I should have just left and never looked back. Whatever it was, he made me feel like I was not good enough for him.

Looking back, what I should have done was get help and get out right away. My best friend's sister pointed me to a book called "Beating Cheating" that was available online. She had gone through the same thing I was going through and she said the book really helped her. I should have checked it out sooner; I could have moved on faster with my life if I did that. Maybe even found found someone else. Still, once I got it, it really helped me out of a bad situation.

I was insecure. What if there was nobody else out there for me? What if this cheating, lying man was the best I could get? Who would care about me? Would I spend my nights and days alone and bitter watching TV? Actually, I did spend my days doing just that. While he was out on "business", I would watch TV and try not to think of him.

I know, you're asking yourself what I was thinking. Heck, I ask that too. Why did I waste so much of my life with him?

Even when we were together physically (and that's not what I mean), he would be distant emotionally. There was an emptiness in his eyes even when we would kiss or hold hands. It was like he was not completely there. He would lavish me with gifts in an attempt to make up for the real gift%u2026 his emotional presence.

I finally got the courage to get out and that was the best decision I ever made. It told me I cared about myself enough to not let this happen again. It set me free. I can not say it was easy being alone. For awhile, I wondered about him. I pitied myself. But eventually, I got over it. My feelings for him slowly and wonderfully melted away like old nasty ice cream I did not want to eat. It was a glorious day when I finally admitted to myself he was just a man I used to care about.

Two year ago, he sent me an email asking how I was doing. The email said he was fine and was engaged to some girl but it did not work out. I took pleasure in hitting the delete button.