My Opinion/Child Abusers

Times have changed and I realize not all is for the better. There was a time when a parent could spank a willful child anywhere without the busybodies sticking there noses where they don't belong ~ in your life. I am a firm believer in spankings. To me, God made the butt for two things; to stop you from falling in the toilet and to get spanked when you are bad. Joking aside, all children need discipline but NO child needs abuse.

I will never understand the laws that we have. You can beat a child to death and get second degree murder. Where does that come from? Premeditation be damned. If you are a grown man or woman and beat a child enough for it to die, you deserve the most severe punishment ever. If you are a grown man or woman and beat a child at all, you deserve the most severe punishment ever. Personally, I would love to take a ball bat to them myself, however, the law prevents that.

How a lawyer can go into a court room and advise his client, knowing they are guilty, to plead not guilty and is beyond me. How he/she can lie down at night and sleep is not in my realm of thinking. They will say that is their job. Well, in my humble opinion, you have to be one sorry son of a bitch to be able to do it. I believe that any attorney that takes on a client who has confessed to killing a child should have to spend time at a children's hospital caring for children who did not die from being beaten. I believe they should have to look into their frightened little eyes as they lay there alone wondering what will happen to them next. I believe they should have to go to the hospital or place of care and explain to that child why the mommy or daddy that beat them is getting out of jail to have another chance at them and that they are the one who helped them get out! THEN, if that child is beaten to death by the abuser that they defended, they should have to be one of the people who carries that dead child's coffin and wear a big red "A" on their suit so everyone knows who they are.

I have worked on an ambulance long enough to see more than I care to when it comes to child abuse. I never have nor will I ever handle it well. It makes me angry; NO, it makes me furious!!!

The abuser usually uses the excuse that they couldn't take the crying any longer. The problem is, this excuse somehow flies in a court of law from time to time. What????? Okay, so a child is crying. After you check out all the reasons he/she could be crying, try giving them some love. If all else fails and you find yourself getting frustrated, leave the room.

The thing that I find happens a great deal of the time is that it is the mother's boyfriend who is the abuser and, a good portion of the time, the mother is aware of it. How pathetic! In that case, they should both get equal punishment.

I think that abusers are under the impression that EMS personnel who respond to these calls when they have to call for medical assistance are stupid. We're not! We know what to look for and we know what to do. Don't expect us to believe that a child fell from a couch (that seems to be the most prevalent excuse) and ends up with a skull fracture that renders them unconscious. When we do a scene size-up, things always become obvious. We WILL call the police, we WILL protect that child and we WILL testify against you ~ PERIOD!!

As far as the punishments go, I believe they have to change drastically. When a grown man or woman abuses a child physically or sexually I wish our laws allowed for the exact same thing to happen to them. Oh my, I can see the ACLU having a field day with that statement but they have been a boil on the ass of society for too long. Personally, I don't care what they think!

If you notice, most of the guys that are abusers, both physically and sexually, are scrawny little creatures. These guys would never have the balls to take on someone their own size. They are low life scum who are taking out their inadequacies on little ones who can't fight back. Now my solution to that is when they get to jail put them in a cell with some dude who outweighs them by 100 pounds or more, is in a fighting mood and hasn't had sex in 10 years. Have the guards turn their backs for about an hour and let him go. Let the abuser become the abused. Wow, now the ACLU is really pissed. If you think I would lose one minutes sleep over this loser, you are wrong!! Let him know what that child felt like right before it died!!!!! One thing, though, don't kill the abuser because I want him to have to go through this for the remainder of his time in jail. Now that's my form of rehabilitation!

My plan for the mom who knew about it, didn't try to stop it and tried to protect the abuser would basically be the same thing, however, have the guards stand by to watch and not help her. Perhaps then she would know how her child felt. Yeah, I know I will never be voted into public office with my views but I can live with that. I also know that I will probably never sit on a jury for one of these losers because, when the defense attorney asked me if I had an opinion on the case, I would probably reply, "Yes, my opinion is that you are a sleaze ball and your client should die". Pretty sure I would be sent home.

Any adult who takes a hand in anger toward a baby or child KNOWS they are going to do harm. If that is not premeditation, I don't know what is. Any charge should be first degree and the penalty imposed should be based on that. I don't care about the 'pressures' the abuser was under, I don't care that they were abused as a child, I don't care that their attorney says they were depressed. I DO care about the defenseless child.

Anyone reading this who thinks that I don't know or understand what I am talking about is wrong. I was an abused child and did not abuse mine. When I gave birth to my first child, he was very sick. We were told he would not live very long due to severe kidney disease. I gave birth to my second child 363 days later so, in fact, had two babies on my hands. My son was in the hospital a good part of the time and my second child had colic and cried, at times, for hours. I DO understand pressures, I DO understand frustration, I DO understand depression, I DO understand financial problems. BUT, I did not take it out on my children. When I got too frustrated I either left the room or called for help.

Child abuse has become rampant and it MUST stop. If we do not stand up for the little ones, who will?? They cannot fight their own battle so it is time for someone else to fight for them. If you see anything that you believe to be abuse, REPORT IT. Be damned if you think the parent or caretaker might get angry with you. You may save a child's life!