Join Me For Tea In Honor Of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, October 2010
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Clara & I Are Having A Tea Party To Promote Domestic Violence Awareness
Domestic violence seems to be a dark theme for a tea party, but Clara and I are here to help shed some light on this dark and painful topic. Recovery is critical for the person who has been battered by domestic violence, so we'd like to help you create an atmosphere that is conducive to healing for the crushed and wounded spirit.
The first requirement for overcoming the mindset of chaos that is birthed from DV is to recognize the fact that your thinking and associated behaviors are out of control, while the second step is the ability and willingness to ask for help...
That's a two-step process that is all too often developed during a lifetime of mis-steps imposed upon the innocent. Those are the sad facts, and our world is filled with too many examples of what happens to a life that is rooted in the dirty waters of DV.
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However, I'm building this lens to reassure you that those negative behaviors CAN be overcome, and that there is indeed... life after domestic violence!
Clara's Tea Party is here to raise awareness about domestic violence, help erase the stigma associated with talking about the issue, and to provide some personal insight for those who may have just begun their own journey toward healing.
The first requirement for overcoming the mindset of chaos that is birthed from DV is to recognize the fact that your thinking and associated behaviors are out of control, while the second step is the ability and willingness to ask for help...
That's a two-step process that is all too often developed during a lifetime of mis-steps imposed upon the innocent. Those are the sad facts, and our world is filled with too many examples of what happens to a life that is rooted in the dirty waters of DV.
Tea Party SuppliesHowever, I'm building this lens to reassure you that those negative behaviors CAN be overcome, and that there is indeed... life after domestic violence!
Clara's Tea Party is here to raise awareness about domestic violence, help erase the stigma associated with talking about the issue, and to provide some personal insight for those who may have just begun their own journey toward healing.
Did You Know?
Telling one's story is an important part of healing from the negative impact of domestic violence
Table of Contents
Please note: While DV is a more common occurrence among women than men, violence happens to people of all ages and gender. This lens is written from the female perspective and addresses the issues more common to women.
- Did You Know?
- In Case You Haven't Heard
- Domestic Violence Awareness Project Website
- Domestic Violence (DV) Defined
- Emotional Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Sexual Abuse
- DV Resources
- Meet Clara
- The Questions Began In The Psych Ward...
- My Personal Battle For Clarity
- Let The Therapy Begin
- My Heart Sings At The Thought Of Where We Go From Here...
- For Those Who Are Suffering...
- Clara & I Challenge You To Write Your Own Storm Out...
- God's Grace Notes Bravejournal
- Set The Mood For Your Personal Tea Party With A Colorful Atmosphere
- ...And Surround Yourself With Lovely Things
- Tantalize Your Taste Buds
- Comfort Your Soul
- It's Okay To Ask The Hard Questions...
- I Encourage You To Believe...
- I Know It Seems Slow
- Thank-You For Joining Our Tea Party
- Guestbook
- Are You Ready To Continue The Journey With Me?
- Why Should We Help The Homeless
In Case You Haven't Heard
There IS Life After Domestic Violence!
Domestic Violence Awareness Project Website
- The Domestic Violence Awareness Month
- The work of the DVAP strives to creatively bring to life its statement of purpose:
The Domestic Violence Awareness Project (DVAP) supports the rights of all individuals, especially women and girls, to live in peace and dignity. Violence and all other forms of oppression against all communities and families must be eliminated.
The purpose of the DVAP is to support and promote the national, tribal, territorial, state and local advocacy networks in their ongoing public education efforts through public awareness campaigns, strategies, materials, resources, capacity-building and technical assistance.
Domestic Violence (DV) Defined
Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Quoted from The DV Hotline
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Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.
Quoted from The DV Hotline
(c) 2010 All Rights Reserved
Emotional Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (c) All Rights Reserved
Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you.
Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
Does not want you to work.
Controls finances or refuses to share money.
Punishes you by withholding affection.
Expects you to ask permission.
Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
Humiliates you in any way.
Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive.
Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with.
Does not want you to work.
Controls finances or refuses to share money.
Punishes you by withholding affection.
Expects you to ask permission.
Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets.
Humiliates you in any way.
Physical Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (c) All Rights Reserved
Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.).
Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
Scared you by driving recklessly.
Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
Forced you to leave your home.
Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Hurt your children.
Used physical force in sexual situations.
Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you.
Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place.
Scared you by driving recklessly.
Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you.
Forced you to leave your home.
Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving.
Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention.
Hurt your children.
Used physical force in sexual situations.
Sexual Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline (c) All Rights Reserved
Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
Held you down during sex.
Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
Ignored your feelings regarding sex
Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships.
Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names.
Has ever forced or manipulated you into to having sex or performing sexual acts.
Held you down during sex.
Demanded sex when you were sick, tired or after beating you.
Hurt you with weapons or objects during sex.
Involved other people in sexual activities with you.
Ignored your feelings regarding sex
DV Resources
- What is Domestic Violence?
- Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.
Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. - Abuse In America
- Allstate Foundation National Poll on Domestic Violence 2004
3 out of 4 (74%) respondents personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence.
83% percent of respondents strongly agreed that domestic violence affects people in all racial, ethnic, religious, educational, social and economic backgrounds.
2 out of 3 (66%) strongly agreed that domestic violence is a serious, widespread social problem in America.
While 4 out of 10 (43%) ranked fear that the abuser will find the victim as the number one reason a victim would not leave his/her abuser, over a quarter (28%) thought that finding access to money/income to support the victim and/or children was the most important problem. - Share Your Voice
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Every couple of weeks we will post a new blog entry by one of our many wonderful guest bloggers. We invite you to post your comments and discuss issues openly. We are committed to maintaining a positive, caring, non-judgmental environment and allowing open and honest discussions to take place. We will only step in as moderators if there are violations of our Terms of Use and Community Guidelines. Please read them both carefully. If you have any questions, feel free to contact one of our moderators. - Am I Being Abused?
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